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I have been properly single for almost 3 years now although I have dated it has never turned out to head in a serious direction and I often find myself bored with the guy as they have found it hard to accept I have a young child.
i never really go out to meet anyone new as all my friends live over an hour away and i find it a strughle to travel there just for a night out (they dont often want to come to me as not much goes on in my town) and when I tried online dating the creeps on it put me off for life.
im now at the stage in my life where I want to find a decent guy and maybe start a family but where do I meet this guy if I hardly go out?
Hi There Tinkerbell & Louise
I have just joined this forum, so please bear with me.
In relation to the thread starter, I can tell you from a male perspective, I have been on dates which have come from a dating website and to say that I am disgusted is just one adjective that I can use.
Now this is where I am a fool, because when I filled in my profile, I told the truth, because that is me and that is who I am I do not lie, even though the truth sometimes hurts.
Mistakenly I fully expected the ladies to tell the truth on their profile, oh what I fool I was, because when I eventually got to meet these ladies, it was plainly apparent that they were not like they said they were.
Don't get me wrong I am no "gorgeous hunk", but by the same token I am not an ogre, I am just me plain and simple me, sorry plain and simple honest me.
So what did I do you ask "I removed my profile."
Funny thing though I was talking with a friend of mine and he told me that he overheard that some ladies just see it as an evening out with a meal thrown in.
I don't drink, smoke or gamble, oh and I am not simple ! ! !
Tony
Sure, Tony, all the girls lie and all the guys tell the truth. (note the sarcasm)
I met my second husband through an internet dating site (albeit a Christian one, so maybe therefore the odds were a bit more in our favour). We were both honest.
I have (female) friends who have tried/are trying the internet thing. They are not in it for 'an evening out with a meal thrown in'. In fact I had a lengthy conversation with a friend the other day, and she said a lot of the guys will give one word answers to questions and then go way off topic (example: her: so what dvds and music do you like? Him: sci-fi and heavy metal - would you have a threesome with two girls and a guy?)
So I think it depends very much on what site you use and how clear you make your intentions. If you want lots of people to contact you, you have to be vague and ambiguous. If you want someone really interested, you have to be very specific and be aware you may not get so many 'hits'.
Sorry for the rant, but I felt got at! :-)
Sorry Hopeful
I wasn't getting at you.
I had messages from ladies who wern't interested, but told me my profile was to long.
Can you recommend one ?
Hello TonyF, this website is funded and provided for parents who are raising children on
Although it is an interesting discussion sharing our experiences of internet dating sites, we would not encourage members to divulge ones that they have used.
I wouldn't anyway! 
Everybody will have to make up their own minds and people are people wherever you are!
Hi Tinkerbell,
I think they key thing first is to grow your social circle, in your post you said about meeting someone and starting a family. Rather than putting a pressure on yourself to meet a guy and start a family, get yourself out there and just meet all kinds of people. I know its hard the "Meet Up's" are a good way for your to do this, maybe plan for a night with the girls without the "looking for men part".. as often this break away from the kids is all you need to recharge the batteries and feel " you " again. As an aside I have a wonderful chap who is divorced with a child that I met on a dating site but agree with Louise.. there are good and bad in bars or online too ! Having to kiss a few frogs to get to your prince will be worth it once you stop pressurising yourself. You have a lot to deal with and do an amazing job so don't put yourself down of this. Good luck 
Nice post Frustrated Mum, thanks for that :)
Hi Tinkerbell2, yes it is hard to meet friends in general not just a new partner.
Two things: there are indeed creepy people on dating websites as there are in bars, and any other place you might meet people. I have a large number of friends who have met people through the Internet and several that have married them! I recommend you have a look at this article which has some info about Internet Dating
The second thing is that the more friends you have, the more chance you have of meeting someone. They have a nice cousin, or their sister has a party or they get married and you meet a guy at the reception. So the Making New Friends ploy is very helpful, but you need to see it as a long term strategy. Have a look here.