Hi i have 4 children and recently since end of novemeber i was forced out of my house by my controller husband . He has done this for the last 15yrs ,where it got to the stage i couldnt take anymore. my only way out was to end of life,how low i felt. as soon as i said this to the proffesional who look after my depression they took actionand helped me to leave him. I have my 2 youngest childern with me . i wanted them all to come but he is being DAD of the year at the moment letting them have friends to stay plus buying them everything. he miniuplating spelt wrong and its like they have forgotton all the bad arguments and controlling that he done to all out lives.i am heart broken i dont have them living with me and find this so difficult everyday. they come and stay sometimes but i feel like i am the one in the wrong breaking the family up, when all i want is a better life for them all. How can i sit down and tell them all thats go on it wouldnt b fair they are only kids.I spend quite alot of time feeling angry at him for all that he has put me through.he said he would get the house and each day i lived there he was mentally abusing me saying your going none of us want u here. he went on and on and now he has done that so so angry. just dont know what to do with all this anger. in one hand a feel like a giant weight has been lifted from me as i so much happier being AWAY from him then the other hand of have days of low mood crying angry and just dont know what to do.thank you for listening to me.
O flowers I so feel for you, wish you had all your children with you and that he would be out of your life. You have done nothing wrong it's him and he knows it xxx
of course you feel low about it all it is not right what has happened
Hi flowers and welcome along to One space
I'm sorry to hear what you have been living through for the last 15 years, it's such a shame though that no one sought to help you until you got to the end of your tether with this situation.
As for your children being swayed by your ex with treats and things this will not be able to continue as at some point i'm imagining he will revert back to himself, when it no longer benefits him to behave in that way.
It is a really tough place to be in and i can understand your up and down emotions about it, what support are you currently getting? do you have friends and family that are supportive towards you?