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Ok so visits with A & her father have been ok for some time & I finally thought we had managed to put things aside & be friendly for A's sake (that's all that matters to me)
however I found out that A's father had gone on a night out in my area with some old mates, during this night out he ran into people we both know- during this run in he went on to tell everyone how he offers me more money for A but I refuse to take it - total lies, I'm still waiting for £27 off him from months ago let alone him always offering me money! Then he went on to say how I stop him seeing A & also stop him coming to hospital visits- more lies as he comes to every planned visit & I've never once stopped him coming hospital , he's never offered to come & I keep EVERY txt from him as proof of everything so could easily expose his lies. He then went on to say how he misses me & that his new baby with gf is a massive mistake (horrible thing to say) & that people either need to pick his or my side- the friends made it clear it isn't about sides all that matters is A (rightly so)
ok so I know he's a lier & always has been but I'm so disappointed and annoyed that he feels the need to mention me on nights out & lie about everything making me look a horrible person who stops him seeing his kid- he does see her!
i haven't mentioned this to him as I feel there is no point coz he will deny it all & it will just start an argument. I got him a lovely Xmas gift but now think why should I even give it to him, I don't wanna lower myself to his level but why reward a child for bad behaviour all the time & let him get away with it for it to happen over & over!
Not in a big headed way but people close to me say he only comes on visits to see me (as he ignores A) and with him saying he misses being with me I'm starting to wonder if its true- makes my skin crawl & thinking I might let a family member sit thou visits now so I don't have to see him.
im just so fed up with thinking he has finally put A first then I hear he's bad mouthing me again- A deserves better & a man who can be a role model- not an evil selfish little troll Who ignores her & makes no effort with her or who doesnt have has any respect for the woman who's raising her with sod all help from him
Thanks Louise, I know he will never step up to the plate & i accept that but I still feel angry that he thinks he's so hard done by & thinks its all about him & not A- man up for once!
i think taking me out the visits is for the best , this way I can't get annoyed by things & I can cut my life off from his (so to speak)
still unsure about the Xmas pressie- as I said its like rewarding a child for bad behaviour all the time
Yes, I know exactly what you mean.
some people even magic can't fix Lillian344 & I defo don't want him to come back to me haha
HAHA Tinkerbell 2, that post has been removed as SPAM.
Hello yes Tinkerbell2, she DOES deserve better, and yes also he may be coming to see you rather than her, don't blame you for being annoyed and you really have done everything you can. You are right not to engage in it all by discussing it with him. Do you know what? Of course continue to facilitate contact and do the best you can but in your mind, I think it is time to realise that he will NEVER step up to the plate, and if you know that then you are less likely to feel disappointed and angry. I am full of admiration of what you do to make things good for A's sake, high five!