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I suggest this topic because i that have so many women,who suffer low self esteme.
Hello Elisatavares
An interesting topic but I think my own take on it would be that some PEOPLE (both men and women) find it hard to be single because they lack confidence. Learn to love yourself and enjoy your own company and then you will be better-equipped to have a fulfilling relationship, in my view.
Hi Louise/ Hi Everyone,
Its been a while since I posted, but I visit Onespace normally a few times a day to keep up with everyone's news, I will post my update soon, just need some time to devote to it but it will come soon.
Regarding the above, Louise you are so right! (as usual!). When I met my now ex husband I had always had body issues, always been a little podge and was badly bullied at school. We fell in love and over the years all my worries disappeared as at the time he loved me unconditionally. Obviously not that much as he left!, but, now nearly 6 months on, I LOVE ME SO MUCH!. Even though I don't have a partner to talk to, cuddle, reassure me, comfort me, I do it to myself!. Being let down so very much in the last 6 months has made me rely on myself. Once I am 100% ready to share my life again, then hopefully I will, but in the time being I'm proud that I don't need a man or woman to rely on. I have tackled things in the last few months that I'd never done in my life, not big things, but still things and it makes me more confident.
Big hugs,
X x
WOO-HOO, way to go, Cha Cha!!! 
I think learning to love yourself (no, I'm not about to break into song!) is one of the most difficult lesons to learn. But like most 'hard' lessons, it has been one of the most significant learnings in my life. I am pretty certain that once you see yourself as ok, its almost unlearnable. I don't need anyone else to tell me I'm ok - I know I am. And that's not conceit, it's self worth.
I'm with Louise; go ChaCha, go ChaCha, go ChaCha 
I think my low self asteem is due to depending on a man too much.... am man that just kept treating me bad. Now I realise that I need to learn that I dont need a man. Its getting there, day by day. Women dont need men, some men just make them think they do.
Hi help me now, you don't need a man. Having a good, kind, loving person in your life is wonderful, but it all starts with us.
If we treat ourselves kindly, then we only let other people into our life that treat us the same.
How are you doing in the 'getting there'? Are you being kind to yourself?
Hi Anna,. Im doing ok thanks. Find onespace a great help, and it inspires me to see so many like me, moving forward in life. I have completed the Freedom Programme online, next step is to seek that counselling. I do feel good about myself, I am a great mum, friend, daughter, sister etc, but for some reason I change when I am with people I dont know. Think I had too many years not socializing.
It's great that you got so much out of the Freedom Programme and we love having you here too!
Hi help me now. That is great that you recognise that you are a great mum, friend, daughter, sister etc. When you meet new people what are you saying to yourself then?
Ummmm intreasting......I don't really agree as I know many people who don't need a man- myself being one of them as I've always been independent & confident .
However I do have 1 or 2 friends who feel they need the love and affection of a man to feel good and feel complete
Hi Elisatavares,
Im not sure about the above myself. I know lots of people (men & women) who have low self esteem but I dont think they necessarily depend on men (or women).
I have low self esteem but have always been taught to rely and depend only on myself which is what I do. Low self esteem for me presents in my anxiety and for some of my friends by their lack of confidence.