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Hi Iam totally new to this site,so I will go ahead and introduce myself. Iam a mother of two lovely girls
one aged 2 and the younger one is just 8 weeks old. My husband is in the army and I recently I have just made the decision to live him. Its been 4 years now,since I have been living with and alcoholic immature man. At first I thought that he would change when he said he would,but that was never the case.Even though I would forgive him everytime he would go out drinking with his friends and come home 3 of 4 days later. I have been so emotionally drained that I have decieded its enough.
As of right now,he has gone on one of his drinking spree again,living me and sick kids alone at home.
I have never had any rest ever since I gave birth to our second daughter just a month ago. On top of that
he treats me like a door mat. His relatives are more important to him then me,whenever they would call,no matter what time it is,he would go. He would rather disrespect me,then do it to his relatives.
Even though I have made up my mind to live him,part of me is scared. Iam scared of whats gonna happen next.But one thing I do know is I need out. Been a long way from home with no family to talk to face to face.its so hard.
Hi just wanted to Say hi I'm sure someone Will be along soon to ofer some advice, x
X post with Mary sorry
Don't apologise for being supportive, Imdoingthis 
Thanks for that,my family are back in fiji, i got a cousin here but they live far from us.iam thinking off taking my children to fiji for a little while,till i have found a job here and a house where we can live.
hi hun how are u, well dont blame u hun,my ex was always goin off and not cumin bk,lost count, but he ad double life i new nothin bout,lomg story lol, i do feel for u hun, mayb u shud go and sv break try clear ur headx
Thank you for your support,I have done some good thinkin about it, infact before i gave birth to our second baby,I gave him a choice,us or his drinking. I told him if he chose drinking,then thats it for me. Theres no point in staying married for us. He said he chose us,but right now its pretty clear,he just won't give up drinking,not even for his children
Its so very difficult to recognise that the person that you love chooses alcohol or drugs over their children and us.
How did Christmas go? Have you spoken any more with him about separating?
Hello Asinate - welcome to One Space
I hope you'll take the time to have a look around the boards. There are a lot of powerful stories that have been shared by some brave people here. I hope some of their experiences may prove useful to you in your current situation.
Well done for making the decision to leave - it is never an easy one to make, but with two such litle children you must have had to do an awful lot of thinking about whether it was right for you and your girls.
Change of any kind is scary, even when you know it's the correct choice that you have made. You say your family are a long way away - where do they live? And do you have any support, such as friends, close by?
Do you know what your next move will be? Please keep in touch - even if it's just to 'off load'. There will be someone keeping an eye on the boards over the festive season, so please don't feel you are alone with your thoughts.
Wishing you all the very best,
Mary