j4368
DoppleMe

Hi I'm new to this site and have not long been a single mum. My husband walked out on me and our 6 year old daughter a couple of months ago. My friends have been great but none of them have been through a divorce and I don't know any other single parents, so there are some emotions they don't understand. I'm finding it tough adjusting to being a single parent while dealing with the break up, and I think it would be good to talk to people who are going through the same thing Smile

Posted on: January 29, 2014 - 10:41am
Bubblegum
DoppleMe

Hello!

I don't think I have any words of wisdom for you beyond the usual stuff : )

But hello anyway!

: )

Posted on: January 29, 2014 - 10:59am

j4368
DoppleMe

Thanks :) 

Posted on: January 29, 2014 - 11:50am

Bubblegum
DoppleMe

It all comes togeather eventualy and then one day you'll wake up and realise you have a whole new life : )

 

Posted on: January 29, 2014 - 2:38pm

flowers

im new as well j4368 .but i was the one who walked away from a controller for 15 yrs. It is hard being a single parent but  a happy one for me . our situations are different. guess u are going through all the different emotions , i know i am at the moment . Its even harder when kids are involved as well because u are try to b strong for them when some days u just wanna curl up and cry. i so feel for your situation. How is your daughter coping as well? My daughter is 12 lots of hormones flying around at the moment and anger. so so hard. I hope u will get lots of support from here and we can all help one another. thats what u need as well.

Posted on: January 29, 2014 - 3:04pm

Anna
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi j4368, this will be an emotionally exhausting time. I like what bubblegum said though, you do wake up and realise that you have a whole new life!

I think one of the hardest things is realising that someone that you felt so familiar with is just not there anymore. Do you have some good girl friends?

Posted on: January 29, 2014 - 3:31pm

j4368
DoppleMe

Thanks guys Laughing My daughter is doing really well with it, the only issue seems to be that she clings to me and will no longer stay over night at relatives houses, so my social life has dropped to zero. I just need to give her time on that one and she'll be ok.

I have a good group of girl friends and am close with my sister, I am lucky to have them. The thing I am really having trouble with is that my ex has got a new girlfriend really quickly, which hurts a lot. Plus it means that he has hardly any time for our daughter. It's like he's started a new life and forgotten us.

Posted on: January 29, 2014 - 5:46pm

Sally W
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hello j4368 and welcome to One space Smile 

You're right your daughter is going to need sometime to adjust to the changes, lots of reasurrance from you that you love her etc will help move her along.

I'm not surprised that you're hurt by your ex's actions, i remember feeling that he could not have cared that much about me if he can move on that quickly, and imagine that you are having similair thoughts.

The thing is we all deal with our hurt emotions differently.  Does he have regular contact with your daughter? 

You may like to take a look at this Article Supporting your children after seperation at the bottom of it are lots of other links to other articles about being a new single parent that you may find useful.

Posted on: January 30, 2014 - 8:06am