Parenting Teenagers

13 year old son with aspergers, very aggressive behaviour, father was controlling and abusive

esweet — Sat, 13 Sep 2014 18:06:04 +0000

Hi everyone, I just found this site and would really appreciate any support or advice anyone has. I have 2 children - an 11 year old daughter and a 13 year old son who has is on the autistic spectrum (aspergers). My ex was very controlling and abusive and I managed to get him to leave 5 years ago. Since then he has caused a great deal of trouble and I finally have a restraining order preventing him coming to the house or to the children's schools.

Light at the end of the tunnel

Louise — Sun, 23 Feb 2014 08:06:13 +0000

This is to encourage those who are going through that long, dark tunnel with their teens. Sometimes it seems as if it will never end, we wonder where our (basically) good child has gone and who is this monster who has taken their place? We wonder what we have done wrong, we blame ourselves, we cry and feel hopeless.We know they will never turn into a decent person.

expulsions from school advice urgent plz

Pash02 — Tue, 11 Feb 2014 18:23:55 +0000

Any experts on the T&C's expulsions from school on here?
Urgent thanks

My son is with a foster carer and i have just learnt through facebook that he has been excluded from school without warning to either the ex or myself

I am sure this is an illegal move by the school

Thanks

North West

i hate my biological son

Sienna — Sun, 01 Dec 2013 23:44:42 +0000

Hello,

I hate my teenage son, his expressions his nigativite, his clumsly awkward and not very on the ball, he's lazy and slothenly he pull expressions which anoy me, his quite disrespectful. His a little bit fat and he's really boring. I struggle with him. I don't want to be around him. We have very little in common. He is quite mean to his younger sister and sometimes the way he looks at her I find a bit creepy.

Current Affairs

Hopeful — Thu, 21 Nov 2013 16:47:15 +0000

I am so upset and feel I have done nothing right throughout all of my parenting.

I asked my daughter to look through her clothes to see what she doesn't need anymore so we can add it to the collection going to the Phillipines organised by work. She said why did I want to send things to the Phillipines! She hasn't a clue what happened there!! So I asked No2 son and he doesn't know either!

had fall out with my 15 year old son

kiera — Sun, 22 Sep 2013 11:54:59 +0000

had big fall out with my eldest son, we fell out, he tuk battery out my laptop bhind my back, i aske dhim put ti bk in he refused,so i tuk his laptop and placed it in the garden and tuk bk doorr key and front door key so he cudnt get it , my younger son very upset so for him i brought laptoop bk in, he as stil refused put battery bk in my laptop, fumin but left it, we are not spkin, he threatended to wake up my dawter if u=i didnt giv him laptop bk, dotn no wot to do, he also smirkin at me which winds me up

State of their rooms

Louise — Wed, 11 Sep 2013 19:04:01 +0000

I know this is a contentious point with many children and teens.

I have always had a rule that once a week, my youngest does his chores and this includes tidying and cleaning his room. He does this after a lot of nagging from me and it does happen, but within about an hour of me deeming it satisfactory, the mess starts piling up again and it soon looks appalling again. He is 19 now, for heaven's sake and I am really fed up of nagging so have decide to try a new tactic

Teenage Friendships

Hopeful — Sat, 07 Sep 2013 07:04:43 +0000

Here's the question: How do you 'encourage' friendships with people that are a fantastic influence on your teenager? (I thought I'd go at it from this side as 'discouraging' bad influences is infinitely harder and also puts a negative spin on it).

South East

What inspires your child - does visual inspiration work?

CBM30 — Tue, 02 Jul 2013 10:30:47 +0000

Ok, so its a big bad and wonderful world out there, but what really inspires your child? food? money? sports ?

Is to have a goal, regardless of what it may be is the key to success, be driven be focused and make the most of your years? and can visual repetition help with this?

I'm not saying become a national super star, simply have a goal, a light at the end of the almightly tunnel.

Can school put a CAF in place without my permission?

donna77 — Tue, 28 May 2013 20:22:35 +0000

basically the school have been on my 14 year old about her attendance. she missed days here n there since sept, most of them due to genuine illness. i had the 3 letters from school, first warning etc and then about 3 weeks ago she had a fall out at school and refused point blank to go to school. i was going out of my mind with worry and i had a letter from the education welfare officer. she came out to the house, my daughter wouldnt get out of bed.

mental health

cgcookie — Sun, 26 May 2013 00:47:53 +0000

Last year , aged 17 my daughter disclosed that she'd been abused, & raped by someone she considered a big broth to her. His mum was essentially her best friend. She has been hearing voices, experiences flashbacks and nightmares. She was initially cared for by the adolecent mental health team, however a few days before she became 18 the adolescent team announced she'd been referred to adult care, and was no longer in their caseload.

Teenage boys

kiera — Sun, 28 Apr 2013 13:44:34 +0000

my 2 sons bicker all time, today they av bin bad, they cant even b in the same room, im on my own and its hard, i av screamin toddler plus 2 sons at each others throatsm 15 and 11 half, im worn down by it all only just ad a minute, avnt stopped alday, i try run house, i tidy all time, clean up, doin washin, ive mowed all garden, inbetween seperatein 2 my sons, plus my little girl avin paddys, i cried so much again today, recently all ive dun is cry, everythin seems b getin on top of me, plus my uncle as died this week of bowlel cancer he was 58,so upsettin, i feel down actually

Church discussion

Hurt — Sun, 24 Mar 2013 23:31:44 +0000

Hello, Like most parents inc., single parents we need all the support we can get, so you can imagine how I felt when my teen came home from church - it was a special night for families and was told that the majority of children raised by single parents end up in either prison, taking drugs or suicide. My teens eyes welled up with emotion at the hurtful message.

I thought we were all here to support each other no matter what. None of us are perfect.

This message helps no-one and is certainly not uplifting.

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Ex who communicates only via his children

Soosiep — Wed, 20 Mar 2013 13:28:28 +0000

I'm new here but I'm having real issues with my ex.

He left me and my two teenage sons 1 1/2 years ago and we have been through alot. Selling the house (to pay his debts!), one son had a major operation and my father dying of cancer.

Having a bad time of it

Tallulahtwinkle — Wed, 23 Jan 2013 10:40:42 +0000

Hi,

I live on my own with my daughter who is 13 in July and my son who is 8.

My daughter has changed beyond recognition, I am totally at my wits end with her. At first it was just the usual answering back but then I had bad reports from school where she had alwasy previously done well. She is now on report to head of year on a daily basis.

Yesterday school informed me she did not arrive until 11.30am! I was on a half day and I returned home to find the house smelling of cigarette smoke!!