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Ive hit a brick wall with potty training.
A happily went on potty for a little while and knows what its for but insisted on wearing a nappy then when I took the nappy off she held her wee or poo until nappy is back on (put back on at night or when out) BUT now when the nappy is on she crosses her legs in discomfort once shes weed or cries and freaks out when she poops in it but still refuses the potty. She says her private parts hurt but never seems to be a rash or sign of anything & constanly says shes pooped even though she hasnt.
Ive tried taking a break from training tjen goi g back to it in the hope she wont refuse the potty.
Ive even tried to make it fun with a wee wee song , adult toilet and rewards but she still point blank refuses then though she hates being wet in her nappy/pull up
Oh Tinkerbell2 you have my sympathy. I suppose my first thought is just to forget about it for a while but you have tried that. Worth taking her to the GP if she says it hurts....make sure she drinks plenty of water so her poo is softer as well.
Next tactic could be not to mention it DIRECTLY in relation to her but start "potty-training" a favourite doll or teddy. Let teddy do it wrong, repeatedly, and say I wonder if there is anyone here who could show teddy what to do (as if you are looking round a crowd of children) and see if this is effective. A sticker chart can also work for her successes. Some children hate the potty and just go on one of those little seats on the toilet...this might mean her watching you using the toilet each time too?
There is often a lot of unfair pressure on parents to get their children trained and all of them are different so if none of this works, do try another break and maybe we could recommend a book for you to read to her before the next time? This one (click) is good
Thanks for the tips ladies. A puts her own dolls on the potty and says they are going a wee wee, she also watches me to go to toilet and Tries to wipe me (it weirds me out and obviously I dont let her do it haha)
This is what I mean, she knows exactly what to do, where to to, where to wipe but hates doing it herself.
Im in a limbo as she hates the potty but now hates her nappy too
I broght a peppa pig sticker book and said she gets a packet of stickers every time shes goes, also leave a childs seat on the toilet incase she wants to use that instead as shes always saying how much of a big girl she is :)think I may just have to leave it a week or two and just leave the potty out as suggested.
If only children came with instructions haha
If she keeps saying it hurts then I will get her checked out for a water ibfection etc.
That sounds good, Tinkerbell2, I feel that when we are potty-training them it ends up taking over everything, do you know what I mean? as if that is the only interesting or relevant thing about them...I think that is why it is so frustrating for parents cos we know that if we could just get this "out of the way" then we could get on with enjoying family life together.
yeah it's a good idea to have her checked out at the doctors just to rule out anything that could be causing her discomfort at toilet time.
With my two I took the route of pretty much zero potty training. My youngest is 3 and still in nappies, but like his big brother did at his age is showing an interest. We have a potty and it's out, he knows what to do in it and he has used it, and the toilet, on a few occasions but any attempt to encourage it from me is met with resistance so I just leave it now.
My eldest suddenly did it at 3.5 after having shown intemittent interest for a year. Like literally one morning I asked if he wanted to take his nappy off for the day, he said yes, and that was it. He's had maybe one accident since (and that was 2yrs ago). Same with night time, he insisted that he still wanted a nappy at night even though it was dry every morning until one night when he'd just turned 4, and he took it off and never looked back. I think he's wet the bed maybe twice, and that was in the week after his dad left.
It must make it really difficult that she doesn't like the nappy either... a friend of mine is dealing with a similar thing at the moment. I hope it all comes together soon, these things usually sort themselves out in time. Good luck x
I do think it's true that the later you start potty-training, the less time it lasts. It is not many years since parents were encouraged to start holding their child on a potty at six weeks old (I imagine this was before disposable nappies and automatic washing machines!!)
I think I was 4 when I was finally potty trained due to me refusing to use it and insisting I wanted to be a "dirty girl"- sounds similar to my daughter really hahaha
It took A ages to be finally ready for potty training - like most aspects of bringing up children, it really does seem to be down to the individual little person.
Good luck, Tinkerbell. I'm sure A will just get up one day & decide that is the day 
Poor you that sounds hard. The only thing I know that other people have said is it's all in the timing. Maybe giving it a rest and coming back to it in a few months? You could leave the potty out and just be really chilled about it (you can do it in your pull ups or in the potty - whatever you want) then she can decide for herself?
How old is she? I know it's common for children not to be ready until they are three.
Love Gem
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