towerofstrength

I have been made redundant in work, and then 48 hours later my baby left home aged 16 to join the Navy. In work, it is really unfair dismissal, so I am waiting for a solicitor through my union who may be able to get my job back, make an out of court settlement or it will be a tribunal. 

However, as I have been extranged from my family for many years, bringing up my children and work has been the main focus of life.  I now have nothing, and nobody in my life, so I need to make a few adjustments.

I am emotionally exhausted and just need a hug. I am aware though I need to use this time to make plans, but I still feel in limbo. 

I do want to change career, so I have just applied for more voluntary work and have applied for a few jobs.

However, I think I  prefer to have my part time job back to get me out of the house and see good colleagues. I would use my free days to continue voluntary work and use weekends to study and apply for new jobs.

I feel in limbo as I know the solicitor and strike action for me may get me my job back as the company are terrified of bad publicity.

On the other hand, will it be better for me to be unemployed and away from the stressful managers. To recharge and be away from a company where there is terrible morale and high stress levels? My line manager has said he doesnt want me working there so I was made redundant and I have the evidence to prove it. Unfortunately all the managers are friends and are sticking together, however this adds to my case.

I saw a manager on my last day and he was gloating at me, it was horrible.  

This is all work though, I have no real social life, except through work. What can I do about this? I may not have any money either, until I get a new job which also limits me.

I just need a hug more than anything x

 

Posted on: February 15, 2014 - 2:08pm
Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hello towerofstrength

First of all you have a BIG HUG coming your way Laughing

I am sorry to hear what has happened at work and glad you have not only got the union involved but also considering your options at the moment. You will have to see how you feel once a little time has passed as to whether to work full or part time. In the meantime, use the JobCentre Plus benefits calculator(click to see) to see if you are entitled to anything.

As you re-evalaute your life, you may like to have a look at our article about creating a social circle, Making New Friends (click)

I see your boy has joined the Navy, good for him but hard for you. Do use the support the forces provide for family and friends and maybe you could talk to others whose sons are serving? See here (click)

Posted on: February 15, 2014 - 6:24pm

towerofstrength

Thanks Louise,

I live in a private rented  two bedroomed accomodation.  My son is 16 but he will be returning obviously, so am I still eligible for two bedroomed flat?  I dont get child benefit or tax credit for him anymore.

Thanks for the other links, I am starting to get over the shock of it all and thinking about a few things. x

 

 

 

 

Posted on: February 18, 2014 - 3:57pm

Anna
Online
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi towerofstrength, i am unsure if you would be eligible for any benefits with regards to the 2nd bedroom in your flat. Contact Shelter who will be able to advise you further with this.

It sounds as though you are feeling a little bit better now a few days have passed since your son left for the Navy and understandably so, be kind to yourself, everything will slot into place Smile

Posted on: February 18, 2014 - 5:21pm