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due to my circumstances of having no family here in england, i have lived here for 17 years, got 3 kids on my own, and with this one on the way and a history of depression over a period of 10 years im thinking of getting a house back home in northern ireland.with the father having been told to leave the uk as he was illegal, if he comes bk either legally or illegally, and i have moved back home or am planning to , would the court order me to stay in england or to return to england, even though im up to my eyes in debt and i need the support of my family back home. what sort of contact would they allow , esp if hes illegal in uk, and i go to family court and argue that hes used the baby to get status in uk. with me living in n ireland would they give him contact? i know i cant get definite answers but an idea would be good. we never lived together and only were together a month before he got arrested.relationship continued 2 months when he was locked up, so 3 months in total.if he got contact order and then i moved, would i need to go to court and get permission for the move in england?i would be applying for council property, so if i was offered a house i would only ave a few days to let them know if i want it or not. if i went to the first court for him to have contact would i tell them then that my intention is to return to n ireland? i can provide evidence that i suffered from depression.i cant think it fair i should be stuck in england until my baby is 16 or 18 years old , when i have nobody here.how would he be able to come from Pakistan legally or illegally and demand i stay in the country so he can have contact. any ideas please what will be likely to happen? i also couldnt bear the thought of him taking my baby away to england for holidays or weekends when i fear him abducting the baby. with regard to the residence order, do i apply for that when i have my baby, or do i need him to have been incontact first requesting dna? does the residence order require the baby to live at my particular address at the moment or any address i live at in future as long as hes with me? and when i give the dna, is that whhen i would apply for the prohibited steps order to stop him removing my baby. any advice please.x
thanks sally
im not so much anxious any more, just want to have all areas covered should anything happen.think im at a bit of a crossroads in my life and its time to make some big chnages for my own future happiness.doing it is the scarey bit though. but im confident i will. its good to know that im not alone though when i read through the posts on onespace.xx
Hi
Is there a contact order in place?
If not, I'm guessing there's no reason why you cannot move closer to your family.
I think you need to be focusing on yourself and your children at this time. Whether he is able to appeal and does manage to get some sort of contact order in place, does it matter where? Northern Ireland is part of the UK...
If he returns illegally, again I'm guessing, what could he possibly do?
I hope the legal experts are able to reassure you.
hi sparkiling lime,
nothing in place at all.he will have to apply for dna if he does return. he might never get bk which im praying for.im doing the best i can for my kids as they are my life. and i will do everythign i can to protect them and look after them.i think im just one of these who likes to be prepared for any event , which is sometimes a hindrance. lol , thanks for responses
It feels to me as if moving has got a lot going for it as a plan.
Do email our legal expert via the link that Sally gave you if you need advice on the ins and outs.
Hi donna77 there is no straight answer to your question as it would depend on all sorts of things as to what you can do and when, have you had any legal advice yet?
If not you can post a message to our legal expert they maybe able to help clear up some of your questions.
I understand that you are anxious about this whole situation, but i'm not sure that there would be much that you can do until your baby is born.