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I come out of a tough 2 year relationship almost a year ago- he would leave me at his flat alone when I went to visit him & go out with mates, sponge money off me & cheated while I was pregnant (left him when I was 3 months gone) our child is now 5 months and I haven't dated since I left him- after almost a year of being single I feel ready to date & maybe meet some one however I'm so scared of getting hurt again, my ex treated me like a door mat & put me down all the time - how can I learn to trust again ESP as I also have a child to consider
hello Tinkerbell, it is still early days and I would not rush into dating. However there are two things I am going to suggest.
Have a look at The Freedom Programme and you can work your way through looking at the behaviour of your child's father and how things were between you. This will help you raise your expectations of relationships.
Secondly have a read of our article about Dating again 
Still early days? I've been single almost a year & would love to enjoy male company again, should I wait two years before I date then? I'm confussed now
I mean your baby is very young, and you are clearly dealing with a lot of things to do with her dad, that's all. I have suggested some ways that you can improve your view of dating and men as you expressed your fears in your post.
Thank you :)
hiya tinkerbell
dating does'nt necceraly mean love, date as many guys as you want, have fun theres plenty of time for a big relationship when it happens, the best way is normally naturaly.. dont put yourself under this kind of pressure, go out with the girls and let your hair down, you dont need a man to feel whole. i know how loney it can be but as you know, you'd rather be lonely than a door mat.x
You have to believe in yourself and know that you trust yourself that way you won't allow yourself to be treated badly again. Self confidence and self esteem are soooo important in creating a healthy happy relationship.
I agree with bea4, go out and date some people, it is then about fun and I also think you learn a lot about yourself and also what sort of man you want to perhaps settle down with.
Read our article Will I ever trust anyone again?
hopefully you know that you deserve to be treated properly and if someone comes along who treats you well then that is a good starting place - just say that you will never be treated like that again and walk away if it starts happening again