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Hi
After 6 yrs in a draw in getting rid of my wedding engagement and eternity ring - for those of you who have been married what did you do with yours and how long after divorce did you do it?
Ive shopped about and always best to go to a jewellers not these we buy gold places - i would really like them to go in one iece and had lots of interest but becareful where to advertise as you get scammers - i had one trying to get me to post to africa x
It seems those 'we buy gold places' are most unreliable, happy mama - saw a consumer item about them on TV recently and the prices they offer varies enormously. I'd agree, a jewellers is undoubtedly the best place to get them valued.
I just wonder what others did with theirs - i did offer my daughters them and theynlooked at me in disgust said they didnt want anything to do with him
I wouldn't part with my dress ring (engagement ring re-named) as I paid half anyway.
I keep meaning to sell the wedding ring, but know I have The Git's wedding ring and gold chain I bought him when we got engaged. I just can't find the box its in! (I have seen the box since I moved out laughingly called family home).
I wouldn't dream of passing them down.
I will get around to selling them 
I didnt want to pass down but i had to ask my girls lol im going to re write my ad and readvertise them im going to spend the money by puttingint towards a holday for me
I'm not quite there yet. Even though it was my decision to end my marriage it still breaks my heart that it ended. I'm slowly getting rid of things, but I'm not sure if I'll be able to part with my rings....who knows time will tell.
Good idea of the holiday, happy mamma 
I loved my rings they ment the world t me but his actions proved they ment nothing how long has it been for you x
By the way, I wear my Mum's wedding ring, I had it made smaller to go on my little finger after she died (she did not wear it in later years as her hand was swollen) but my parents had a lifelong marriage whereas when my own broke up I did not like what those rings symbolised, which is why I rushed to get rid.
Hi Louise
I wear my mums too I have never taken it off since my dad gave it to me on the way to mums funeral she was on 55 she passed 26th Oct . I held it until bonfire night as this is a special time for us and was the first year we did not have a family party. I sat looking out of my bedroom window at the fire works going off knowing my mum was up there looking down and something made me put her ring on and i have never taken it off.
HM
Ah that is lovely. I really treasure my Mum's ring and love to think of them choosing it together and him putting it on her finger on their wedding day 
i rub it in bad times it seems to bring me luck - the one time i forgot to rub it was when i went to court over my divorce and got stung for 30k x
PHEW, that was nasty, happy mamma.
I like to touch Mum's wedding ring when I talk to her in my heart
Isn't it interesting how many emotions these things can bring up, with people not wanting to just rush off and sell something symbolic of a big part of their lives, and other rings having sentimental value and others (like mine) being seen as somthing to get rid of as soon as possible
Happy Mamma,
My divorce came through last November, but I told my ex it was over the year before in the October. I carried on wearing my rings for a while after I'd filed for divorce. My friend thought I was mad but for me it was a big thing, the symbol that my marriage was actually over. It took him being a total A******* for me to finally take them off!! His bad behaviour has been the catalyst for me getting rid of all sorts of things over the last 6 months, its like everytime he does something the tint in my rose tinted glasses gets paler. They're virtually transparent now and I can see him for what he is. So maybe I'll be ready for my holiday soon too
Here an example of my ex now his wife shouts abuse my kids 15 and 19 my 19 has just made a statement about her to the police and they have warned her so my daughters birthday yesterday no card - he does not buy presents for them as i buy them i guess now he stopped catds too cause i buy them maybe he wants me to put his and her name on my card too - fools he has lost his kids though his own actions
He should be telling his wife to leave his kids out of it but doesnt and when she is with him and they pass she says and does nothing.
I kept my rings on for a long time after and even when i mate someone else they stayed on then when my new man went on holiday with his mum dad and daughter (booked before we met) i took them off and gave them to him to keep until he came back
I still have the three rings that my girls dad gave me, i don't wear them anymore either, but i am keeping them for the girls for when they are older as they like them.
I have kept my engagement ring (A's dad & I were never married - I have been grateful for that on many occasions). I don't wear it - I am keeping it for A when she's older. If she doesn't want it, I'll get rid of it then.
my girls are older and i think because of what my ex did and is doing they dont want anything associated with him. I have now removed the final graces of him from the house including decorating
Good for you, happy mama. A was really little when her dad left & much as I think he is a (expletive deleted), she & he have a pretty good relationship so far. That might change, but I hope not for A's sake. Hence my keeping hold of said ring.
I love it when children keep in touch with their father and the fathers care. My children have not been that lucky. I hope for As sake it continues x She is very lucky
I'm sorry to hear that relationships are difficult between your children and their dad mamma. You're right when you say it is important to keep that going.
I hear what you say Mary about things might change...it was heartbreaking when my eldest A said "I don't think my dad is a good man"...if he keeps behaving the way he does she will only think worse of him.
We can't orchestrate the way the relationships our children have with their fathers (or anyone else for that matter), can we pancakequeen. Invariably the way a person relates to others will 'out' itself, unless that individual realises that there is an issue & works on it by going to counselling or undertakes some other means of personal development. I fear A's dad doesn't think he has an issue relating to others. But I don't have a crystal ball, so it's a case of wait & see.
As you say happy mama, She is very lucky. I also hope it continues.
One of the things we often say on here is...the children make up their own minds when they are old enough. And they do. But personally I think it can be doubly heartbreaking for us as parents because a. we witness what might be shabby treatment in the first place and b. we then have to see reality "dawning" on our precious children.
My boys have an amicable relationship with their dad these days, in a rather half-hearted fashion, and that's the best I can hope for.
Remember: however old our children are: they have US
Ain't that the truth. What incredibly lucky children they are!
Mary you are so right about A's dad, if he was the sort of person to seek help we probably wouldn't have split in the first place.
hi i sold mine within 6 weeks of mine leaving didnt have a second thought really i just knew i had to sell. i took the kids to the pictures and something to eat and the rest put towards going to blackpool . ive kept wedding pics for the kids but not the rings didnt want to keep them
Ive kept my wedding pics too as its part of the family 'history' my wedding dress was used on halloween for my eldest daughter as she was the bride of dracular we chopped it and put fake blood all over it - my daughter was unsure and made me take the first chop.
Iv had some offers on my rings but changed my add to no dealers one got who was rather abusive
HM
Sounds like you did thing for you, shaz 5. Nice that the money raised meant treats for you & the children.
The 'Bride of Dracula' eh, happy mama? Have to say that made me smile. I can understand your eldest's hesitation in hacking into your dress, but good that it came in useful!
Shame you've had hassle trying to sell your rings - hope the 'right' buyer comes along soon.
great story happy mamma, when my ex moved out I bundled my dress off to the charity shop.
Photos I will keep, for my girls, but also because I had a really good time and want to remember that. I may cut out Brad Pitt's face and paste over his though, just to make me feel better 
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oh pancakequeen the photo shop is out what a great idea x
Ohhhh an interesting thread. I had my friend sell mine at a jewellers, I did not get very much for them, whereas nowadays there are lots of "unwanted gold" places. I did it pretty quickly!