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it is about 2 months i seperated from my husband. it's been a case of domestic abuse over 11years which i thought would change but it only got worse
i trying to keep busy and move on with my life with 3kids. he has spread so much lies about me and even trying to paint me black infront of the kids. the kids are confused because all of a sudden he's been nice to them, buying them stuffs.
now a marriage counsellor as diagnose him with asperger syndrome and wants me to help him. God knows i care less now because of dehumanising things he's done to me in the past.
what do you think?
again my seven years old daugther is been wayward. have been told she showed her private part to a boy. how do i handle this?
Thanks Louise
The kids behaviour is really getting on my nerves The eldest challenges me and put his father above anything I say or do even when he is in the wrong .They don't even want to talk to my brother cus their dad has poisoned their mind. I feel really low and tearful
As per the seven year old, have spoken to her. She is promised to behave herself and am keeping an eagle eye on her. Thanks
Oh that's sad for you about your eldest. How old is he?
Glad you had a chat with your daughter 
It's not easy being the one left to pick up the pieces. You will have low times and wonder if you can cope. You mentioned your brother, is he supportive to you and do you have any other family/friends around you?
Hello tinkerbell2012
Welcome to One Space
I have moved your post to a new thread. It's hard to keep things steady for the children when he is so voilatile and is trying to get back into favour. However, there is no need for you to discuss their dad's character with the children. You do not have to justify the reasons you have spilt up, just say I do not love your dad and I can't love with him anymore, but I really love YOU and will not leave you...lots of reassurance.
As for your daughter, where do you think she has got this idea from? she is just at the age where she is becoming aware of the social rules of modesty. Have a talk to her and say that that part of her body is private and boys and girls need to let each other be private. Don't say it in a cross or disapproving way, just calmly. Then you could ask her if other children or grownups have asked her to show her body or shown her theirs (just to check out that nothing has happened to her) Again, stay very calm, and come back and tell us how the conversation went.