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HI, my ex pertner and i have been split since pregnancy. My child is now 2. IVe never received any money at all, as he's only ever offered money to save for our child in a bank (i dont know whether he's gone ahead with this).
Iv'e never gone ahead through csa to receive money, as i dont want to 'rock the boat' in terms the father's visits.
Any advice or information that would help would be great.
thanks
I agree. Yes.
Thank you for your advice, thats great!!
sorry i have to disagree csa is not regular they tell u not to relay on they payments had 2 lettters threatening DOE detachmant of earnings should only issue 1 if they miss one payment they go to the employer but thats his friend and after 2 letters still no action so local mp involved its a joke
Hi happy mamma, you are right, you should not rely on the payments, however non resident parents, should be held responsible for paying towards the upbringing of their child.
And the CSA payments should be regular - that is the wording from the CSA website!
You are having problems with your ex contributing at the moment, as do many others, however this does work for many people and why should the other parent of your child not be held accountable? I am glad that you have your local MP involved, I am interested to hear how this progresses.
Good Morning Anna
Its going well - ish. The CSA have credit searched him and found some money but they are negotiating with him (this is what my MP tells me) the csa are not demanding the moment they are still letting him control the situation.
The CSA have apologised for their 'error' and are ment to be sending me a written apology letter (cause that makes it all right NOT - waited over a week for it)
The 'case worked' is on holiday this week so nothing gets done.
My local MP has been fantastic and has told me as soon as he gets an update he will let me know and I will update him if i hear anything.
Its very said when the absent parent wont pay for the child
HM
It is sad...
Glad the MP has been helpful. I don't think I'd have made progress without my MP's help.
Glad there have been some developments, although it seems very frustrating to me that they are not just issuing a demand for the money.
My youngest will soon be 18 and I am wondering if and when I will lose my massive monthly child support of £40. It is not paid through the CSA. If it is still paid then I will happily knock that amount off youngest's board money, when that starts
Hi,
Just a quick question, my ex pays £65 a week, should that include 5 week months?, he pays the same amount every month £260 but doesn't declare his private jobs which he earns quite well from!.
Thanks
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Hi ChaCha please email our CSA Expert your question, as I really don't know the answer sorry :)
my ex lies about his income as he works for a friend csa not interested that he lives way beyond his means x part salary part cash
Ahhaa, this is not unusual happy mamma unfortunately, but I believe there are ways that CSA can prove he earns more, if he is shown to have a flamboyant lifestyle, did you contact our expert?
so how about that...
my childs father is driving a car he lives in london in one of the better areas and rents out(!) 3 bed house with garden. he wears nice designer clothes (d&g, ralph lauren etc.) he is studying full time business and management (his fees are about 3k every term). and guess what he doesant work at all! i called csa and they said because he doesnt work they can only give me 20 pounds a month.... which now has stopped completely... as he arranged that he will pay me into account without their involvement.....i spoke to csa again and said that how come he is paying so small money and on the other hand he is living a very good life? they asked me for an evidence.... wonder from where... 
Hmmm MichelleMumtoAshley, how infuriating. Did you ask them how you were supposed to collect evidence? You might be interested in emailing our CSA guru as she really knows the system inside out and may be able to give you some tips.
From my experience as a father - CSA have been a complete nightmare and made no allowance for my financial circumstances. I am not going to explain further, as it would be too long winded. I would say this that if between the two of you, that you are capable of agreeing a monthly sum that both you and he are happy with then this is a much more constructive way forward. Naturally this is not always that easy. In my circumstances I made that chat with my ex and paid money and now ex is saying i have paid nothing and CSA trying to force me to pay a 2nd time even though I am heavily overdrawn - hence my grievence with them - I also have friends/ex work colleagues with similar problems. Some mothers are obviously genuine cases who just want some money for their children - not necessarily a lot and not a lot to ask!!. Some are just plain bloody gold diggers who want to make their exs suffer and would quite happily have blood instead of money. The CSA dont always seems to help mothers or fathers from viewing websites such as CSAhell. Personally I would leave them out if it can be avoided and I also think you are more likely to get contact between the child and the father. However all of this depends upon the nice or otherwise nature of the respective parents. Generally fathers that dont want to pay for their children shouldnt be able to have them, but there are always exceptions to a rule.
A short and simple answer ... Yes.
Child maintenance is regular, reliable financial support non resident parents provide for their child when they separate. It can help towards a child's everyday living costs and give them the best start in life.
An absent parent has to pay CSA regardless of whether they see their child or not.
If it does 'rock the boat' that is his choice, not your responsibility, do not let that threat sway your decision. He is responsible for bringing your child into the world and he should share the responsibility of their upkeep.
To get started go to CMOptions, there is a calulator and lots of information.
How do you feel about it?