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Hi,
I am a single mum have been single for over 2 years now... and i want to get back on the dating scene again, but i have no idea how to go about it??
Not too sure about dating sites.... i always think they are for desperate people... no offence to all you people using them... i just need a little positive feedback on them.
Has anyone out there any advice??
Hi there loozee_88
I chatted on a dating site once, quite a while to one chap, after about 3 months I gave him my mobile number. He rang that evening and interestingly within the first 2 minutes I knew I didn't want to meet up with him and the call only lasted a few minutes more!
My brother has done some internet dating, met about 4 people all of who he has really liked for a few dates, but then seen some cracks appear. However, he joined business network meetings via Meetups and met quite a few new people and after going along for about 6 months, he met his current girlfriend and they are now living together and (I think) planning on spending the rest of their lives together!
So, reading that back, it sounds as though internet dating doesn't work, but I do think it is a good way to get out of the house, meet new people and feel a little human again, it was great to see the change in my bro receiving some positive attention from the opposite sex. I think it gave him the confidence to find himself a 'real' person!
Have a look at this brief discussion in Sept 2008 regarding Internet Dating.
I've been on a few dating sites over the years but as soon as someone shows and interest in me I lose interest.
: )
I do have one friend I still talk to though, just friends.
They are a few strange people though that claim to be in love after three or four emails.
AND! since then and I don't know from which one it started but I get inundated with emails from young russian women who can't spell very well looking for Mr right.
hy Bubblegum, i used one internet dating site (think of the one in the advert) and well i met someone on there who lives very local to me , we met up for a couple of dates but we remained friends and no more , i didnt really want a life partne i just wanted a friend close by here as the village is very remote...he still comes by for coffee once in a while and we chat by text , so i am glad i did it .i did give up in the end cause of soo much interest of old, bald, or too young for me (not that i am stereotyping, but just being honest to myself) My Mr Right has to fill in some big shoes and so far its too early for me to date without comparing "him" to my late h and it wouldnt be fare....if you have a small group of friends and you can go out do so you never know :) Do read that article tho and make up a litlle plan so always always be careful!!
Gosh, Bubblegum, you have a Russian harem!
Hehe. I'm sure Bubblegum has more than just a Russian harem 
ohhh gosh and i made a mistake , sorrrryyyy it was ment for loozee_88, sorry bubblegum lol
That's ok, we are all pitching in, mrs pj
I did the Internet dating thing for 18-months post divorce. I was lonely and it was nice to get out. I met lots of very lovely people, some of which extended the hand of friendship far further than people I'd known for 15-years. You know how it is when you are divorced and none of your friends know what to say to you? I could have stayed friends with lots of them but decided that it was a phase and one I'd like to leave behind. Having said that, I met someone I was with for nearly 2-years. There are many desperate people online, both men and women, most of whom are on their 'journey' to bolster their self-esteem post relationship failure. But there are some very lovely and genuine people online. The problem is seeing the wood for the trees!!! We live in a society that increasingly alienates those willing to start a random conversation with a stranger. Where once it was seen as being friendly, now it's seen as being rather strange and creepy. So don't be expecting anyone to approach you in the veg isle of the local supermarket. If you want it, you gotta go out and get it, just take what anyone says online with a pinch of salt until you meet them and get to know them.
Good post, MoonMonkey!
Hello,
I've dipped my toe in the waters of internet dating earlier this year after also being single for few years. I didn't meet anyone 'special' but for me it was a great way to boost my confidence and have a bit of a giggle. I chatted to a number of guys online and had 4 dates, it was fun and although I've decided not to continue, do have some friends who have had more success with it.
I looked at loads of sites - there are a number for single parents, although be warned lots of the sites swap profiles to boost their member numbers, that's not a problem though. I chose single with kids which is easy to use and inexpensive and paid for 3 months - what have you got to lose?
Good luck and have fun!
Hi loozee_88
I think when Internet dating started, then yes there was the idea that only weird people used it but nowadays it seems to be widespread. I personally know of several people who ended up married to someone they met online!
I did some Internet dating myself, back in the day, and I think the main two things are: stay safe and take it with a pinch of salt. Until you meet someone you really don't know what they are like so don't talk to them TOO long online before you meet, and when you do, try and have it in the daytime or at least early evening, and just meet for an hour and tell a friend where you are. You can tell from a coffee meeting whether you really are interested in a date. People can post photos that are ancient too. Have a look at this article about Internet Dating.
There are other ways to meet people too and if you can view it in the light of making new friends to start with then there is not too much pressure. Don't forget that even if all the new friends you make are female, they will have parties and they will have neighbours, and cousins etc etc.....the more people you know, the more chance there is of meeting someone. Have a look at our plan of campaign for Making New Friends and more general information in Dating Again
What do other people think?