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Hi all, I recently split up with my boyfriend, who is the father to our 8 week old baby boy. I dont live with him, but his name is on the birth certificate. Our baby boy lives with me. Things look like they will get messy and he said hes going to get legal advice (as will i) i was wondering what rights i have as the mother?
hi do u think it wil go to court, im in middle of court procedings at the moment, x
There is no need for court if things can be agreed between you, as to contact arrangements.
Welcome along, pink blizzard, Anna has given you some great information 
Dear
Please help me I need somebody's advice. I fill for divorce mid of December '12. Got divorced officially in March. Originally we are from Lithuania but in the UK since 2004. Daughter was born in Scotland (British Citizen). Got divorced in Lithuania both signed divorce agreement were ex agreed to pay 100£ per month and I agreed to let him see the child. The first payment we received since March was in June and it was 100£. I moved out first and I left all the technic, car and all furniture. He used to phone me a lot; it could be up to 24 missed phone call from him. Once I left child with him and he got drunk. He das drink every weekend. So after the first payment he phoned me and said to me “right ... you will have daughter this weekend and I’ll have next weekend". I told him that it’s up to me to decide when and for how long you will see her. On what he said, ok if you don’t want to solve it good way Ill go bad way. Be honest I don’t know what to expect from him. Please advise me what rights I’ve got and what he is entitle too.
looking forward to hear from you soon
thanks
erika
Hello erika
Welcome along.
Have you had any legal advice? We have our own legal expert on the boards, click here to email them. Let them know who has had care of your daughter since the separation. The money question is a separate thing under the law. Hopefully he will now continue to pay but if he is witholding support you can go through the Child Support Agency (click) although do be advised there is a charge for doing so.
Let us know what the legal expert says
Hi pinkblizzard and welcome to One Space, I am liking your name!
I am sorry to hear that you have recently split with your boyfriend, so soon after your son has been born.
There have been a lot of changes to how much free legal advice you are entitled to recently. However have a look at our article Help I have just become a single parent for lots of information on housing, money, legal rights etc, you will find a link there for our Legal Expert who you can get free confidential, personalised advice around any legal area you need info on.
As your ex is on the birth certificate he will have Parental Responsibility which means that he shares the legal right and responsibility for your son's well being ie which school he should attend, giving consent for medical operations etc.
I imagine that there is a lot of hurt and anger for both of you at the moment, be careful when making decisions, because although things are tough now, you will both be the parents of your son for the rest of his life.
How do you think things will get messy? Are you unable to agree how your ex can see your son?