Hi,
I have been a single mum for about 4 years now and i sometimes feel everyone moves on but me. I have friends etc but they dont understand what it is like or the pressure that i am under.
I love may daughter so much but lately i have never felt so alone.
Does anyone else feel this way
Thanks
Hello pinkprincess83
You are very welcome here!
It's a struggle, sometimes, to find our place in the world as a lone parent and as for moving on, actually you ARE moving forward with every passing day as you teach and care for your child. It just seems that others are getting new jobs, new relationships, new homes. Your time will come as she gets older. It is one of the things we all face as parents, single or not, that shift in focus from us to them and it can be very unsettling. Stay with us as there is great compnay and support here.
How old is your daughter?
Hi Pinkprincess83. Welcome It can indeed be lonely can't it? I have good and bad days, and I've been on my own since day dot with my 8 year old son. I have friends too that don't really understand, and that is hard. I also listen to them talking about their relationships with partners and husbands, and I sometimes think, thankgod there is just me and C!!!
Really pleased that you have joined us. It is great for the support through bad times, any problems with the kids etc, and we also have laughs along the way. Look forward to getting to know you. Take care
Hi pinkprincess83
Welcome!
I remember that feeling - everybody moved on except for me, I had no money, no holidays, no life, but what Louise said is true! As your child gets older your life will change. for me life started to change when my daughter started junior school, I became a dinner lady there. People started talking to me, I then found a part time job waitressing during school hours and met new people. It wasn't easy and it took time, but life did move on, my daughter is 16 (yikes!) now and I am proud of what I have achieved (slowly but surely!) and the close relationship that I share with my daughter.
Funnily enough, I had my daughter when I was 22 all my friends were out all the time, earning good money or travelling and I was sooo jealous and felt that life was unfair, however, now I am heading for 40 (!) I have friends who are just starting on the parenthood journey and I am so glad that I have been there and done it, the next 20 years are going to be me doing what I want to do with no restrictions! AND I am older and wiser! So the tables have turned
Have a look at our new article Making new friends for some ideas about making some changes in your life, you don't need to make massive life changing decisions, but small steps can make big differences.
I did volunteering for a couple of years too, which massively increased my confidence and got me where I am today, have a look at the article I mentioned as there is a list of volunteering agencies at the bottom, you won't get paid, but it will get you out of the house and doing something :)
Once you have had a look, let us know if it has given you any ideas that you might like to try. I look forward to hearing from you.
Hi pinkprincess83, welcome to the board. It can be lonely definitely and I think we have all felt that at one time or another. I can totally relate to what youre saying and Im sure you will find huge support here. Youre not alone thats for certain.
I have one son 15, and have been on my own with him since he was one. Look forward to chatting to you.
S x
Thanks everyone XX
Hi pinkprincess have you had a look at our new Online Learning courses, specifically written for single parents?
You might be interested in the Life Coaching. You will pick up positive tools to create positive changes and perhaps find more fulfilment in your life!
If you have a look, I would be interested in hearing what you think of it
Hi pinkprincess83
Good to see you.
I think when you have a young child/ren, it can be quite isolating. This time of year can make things feel a lot worse too.
I'm sorry you feel lonely, and do understand where you're coming from. I've been on my own for well over six years now.
Looking forward to 'chatting'.
There are brilliant people here, to offer some virtual company and support.