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i dont know where to start!
My Son who is 18 nearly 19 left home a week before christmas i havent heard from him and have no contact number for him as hes changed his number. one of his freinds has informed me hes staying at his boss's mother house so i know hes safe.I miss him so much.
My son has been very angry for years i tried to get help for him as he was upsetting his brothers all the time and the family life. I left his father ten years ago and after 2 years of being on my own met someone else and we had a daughter she is now 5 , he left me 3 years ago after not being able to cope anymore mainly with my sons behaviour. Last year i met someone else we have been together for nearly a year now . He just comes at weekends as hes in the armed forces. At first my son and my new partner got on great but after a while my new partner spoke out to my son about how he spoke to me and he should show some respect. Things deteriated and my son got even more angry , he told me he hated me, had no respect for me and didnt call me or anyone in this family his family anymore . Things came to blow a week before christmas and he left. I feel so sad like im greiving but i know this is what was meant to happen. My son has always had what he wanted and always tried to control me by telling me how to run my life . He is very loved and i just want to be able to hold him and cuddle him i love him so much but just dont know what to do :o(
Hi KimmyC. Welcome along to One Space. I'm so sorry to hear about your son leaving home. You must be devastated, and I cannot imagine how you're feeling. Could you perhaps write him a letter, telling him how much you miss him etc. Perhaps you could meet up for a coffee somewhere other than home. Hopefully a little bit of space between the two of you will do you both good.
Hello KimmyC
My heart goes out to you...... You have written to me on the Ask the Expert service and I will therefore send you a detailed reply by email tomorrow. I am glad you know he is safe. Hazeleyes is right though: a bit of space might be a good thing, hearrending though it is for you.