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I am sorry if I posted my moans here I just had to let it out! 
Hello Mystica
It is good to be able to talk about things that are upsetting us. I am so sorry to hear about your son and that you continue to have a difficult relationship with your mum, When we become a parent ourselves and know how we feel about our own children then it can make it extra-diffcult to think of our own parents being less than loving. Maybe it would help you to have some counselling so you can deal with your feelings?
Hi! Louise, I tried that already but counselling does not do anything for me! It doesn't mean I am hurt that I don't know what to do. It helps to have something like this too where we dont see others but able to express ourselves. I have always been an affectionate person to my husband, my children as well as my parents and siblings but my parents and siblings do take advantage of my kindness! my husband is very angry with them. He only wants to make me happy and my children has been always close to me. My own parents cheated me and my husband with money took our savings and left us nothing! My husband says its just money so long as I still have you! We can earn money but I cannot waste my life again looking for someone like you! That's the only reason I am staying still my because of husband's love and mychildren's. I only want to know if it iswhen right thing to do! My mother has been always nasty and evil to me never love me! Now she is also doing her nasty behaviour towards my children! I love my children so much and I have to protect them as no one will. If she never love her children and harm them instead of protecting them! I don't think she deserves anymore chance! She must be punished! by law what she is doing is illegal and cannot be tolerate! Betraying her with authority is the legal thing to do! Although it could sounds revenge but I am not inventing it just to get back at her! She committed crime she should pay for it! Don't you think?
I can't comment on that, Mystica, as I don't know your mum.
It's good that you have the support of your husband. This site is for single parents, though, and so we are quite limited in what we can do for you.
I am not living with him he is living abroad! :'( so I am alone and sole parent here in UK! :O
It is good that he is supportive to you anyway. What do you think would help you?
Most of my friends and relatives who knew my mother and sister agreed that she and my sister has been horrible to all of us, so they think this is the opportunity to give them a lesson. They never stop harming people. I think they deserved to be punished! They are like the character of Cinderella the evil step mother and her daughters only difference is she is my biological mother!
Hello Mystica.
I'm sorry to hear that your relationships with your mother and your sister are so difficult. I'm not sure that punishing them would make things right though.
You said in response to Louise earlier that 'counselling does not do anything' for you. Sometimes it is a case of a "bad fit" - that is, you didn't get the right counsellor for you. Would you consider trying counselling again?
Thanks Louise and rudimentary mary for the kind reply. I have been with different counselling and they all say the same that because my childhood is ruined it is not easy to overcome it! I never responded bad in return to all their nastiness to me. Nasty and evil do get punished so they can learn their lesson so I guessed this is the solution for them to leave people alone. It's better for them to be locked up so they can't harm anymore people in the future, as they are still threatening my eldest son's life! I must protect my son from evil people as for my mother sending her killer brother is a common thing to do for revenge. And because her brother will do anything she say she has no fear whoever she wants to harm. That is the fact she is so bitter that is why she has no conscience to keep harming people. Thanks a lot for your response. Wish you all well!
Mystica
If you feel that your son's life is at risk, it is important take these matters to the police.
Hi! Louise, yes I did take it to the police and I am hoping my son is safe as he is so afraid of them he still want to see me when he finishes his study in my country. Thanks ladies for all the responses! God bless!
As I said I am an unwanted child, my mother in Philippines never loved me I had a very bad childhood but who to say this to? I have children on my own and I love them dearly. Recently I lost my second son in my country. My mother is now holding his urn, documents and the mobile I gave him for his birthday. He was killed last February 12, 2012. My mother always ask money to me since I marry my British husband. I always give her hoping one day she will learn to love me. Now that I stop giving her money she is holding my dead son's urn for ransom! She wants me to pay her half million Pesos £7,700 to be exact. She already took all our savings when we used to work and live in Middle East before coming here to England. Here in England we pay rent which we never did in our time in Middle East. she doesn't understand that our sponsor in Middle East pay for everything like house, utility bills, children's education, medicals, dentals, and yearly ticket for the whole family. Here in England we pay rent and bills are quite high. Nothing is free in England she couldn't understand this, she thought I am just being mean. My second son was killed I cannot pursue the case and sue the criminals she is delaying it. Didn't know she is obstructing justice for my son's death investigation! This is too much! I can't take it anymore! I promised my son I I will do my best to get justice for him! If my mother doesn't love her children and instead wish the worst things for me like sending me to voodoo wishing me to die in other words she is very nasty and a bitter person! I love my children so I am sorry I am fighting her back now! I am suing her for obstruction of justice and since she is threatening my eldest son's life too! I will sue her for death threat!