Hello everyone. Just found this site and signed up - I have never posted online before, but was really encouraged by the many supportive replies in the posts I read while looking around. I'm about to get my decree nisi - divorcing due to my husband's unreasonable behaviour - and on a very emotional roller coaster. I do seem to have more good days than bad at the moment, so mustn't grumble.
I would appreciate some guidance on maintenance as I'm not sure what it's meant to cover. My ex pays me a regular amount every month for our two children, but is it reasonable for me to ask for more for e.g. out of school activities, school uniform and other expensive "one-off" necessities?
Many thanks - I'm looking forward to contributing now I've found you!
Many thanks Louise - seems reasonable. Everything about single parenting is new to me, so just finding my way with what is the norm (if there is such a thing!).
Hi forza, you're right, there isn't a norm as such and we all find oiur own way. One of the ways this site can help is if we all support each other 
How old are your children?
Hello forza and welcome to One Space!
Hope that you will stay with us; there is lots of support and information here.
As far as child support goes, I guess the answer to your question depends on how much you receive. If, for example, your children's dad is only giving you a tenner a week then of course you will need more help for things. Conversely, if he is contributing hundreds of pounds per month then it seems reasonable that you should be able to budget for most things. Anything "one-off" such as a school residential trip is an opportunity to ask for an extra contribution but things like school uniform etc are regular requirements and it would be up to him whether he gave any more.
If you are only getting a small amount of money from him then check things out with our Child Support Expert (click to email)