Very Angry Single mum!!

Morning Louise, thanx for the tip. I didn't think I could do that, as I thought it was just for domestic violent situations, I have submitted a question.

I believe the way forward is to be supported.  I do feel victimised, hence my outburst.

Mp and solicitors come to mind as i am sick and tired of referalls and intimidation.

my youngest is turning 5 just started school. therefore that's another 11years of harrassment and intimidation i have in front of me. I have already done 7years.

They should know by now, the supportive mother i am. The disabilities and special needs and statements that is within the family gene.  I have recently been accused of giving them their issues. my daughter of 23 is currently being assessed for aspergers as they believe a wrong diagnosis of bipolar may have been given to her when she was younger. She'z a very caring sweet young woman with 2 children. She has support by adult services, but of late 2 strange social workers came to her home in another town, wanting her to admit she had been abused by me when she was younger. she was mortified and put them straight then rang me up in disbelief. She said they have got it in for you mum.

I feel like making my life public as i have no quality of life, just being crusified regulary. A victim again. I don't want that. not for me not for my family. It's killing me.  don't get me wrong as crushed as i feel, i go back home being mum, like nothing has happend!  it's not for the children and not for my friends.

but for some reason i've had enough. something in me doesn't want to continue to proove anymore. I have nothing to proove, there is nothing underlying. We have learning disabilities, that does not make us. neglectful, abusive individuals. if anything we are very creative and it's going to waste.

Just need help to end this. it's not a wonder i've lost my husband. he's come and gone a few times. he's a quiet man, he does not like troubles. I just wish he had a back bone. I still love him with all my heart, lifes so unfair

Gutted!! unsupported, misunderstood and labled.

Hello Anna I'm very confused about my husband wen we argued he would tell me I could apply for a divorce if I want but he would never divorce me.

I text him about P's development, no reply

I text him to tell him he has rights despite what the social workers say..he text back.. he'll get over me!!

He never texts so I was quite shocked to have got a reply.

Thank you for your suggestions, I will follow them up.

Really appreciate being here! didn't think anyone would approach me. Thanx :)

Fantastic feedback definately relates to my situation. so much info to take in, I will be printing out quite a bit of that for the advocate i'm meeting in a weeks time. In the mean time there i will endeavour to get through to the family rights group tommorrow. It will certainly help me compile something more pro-active for my meeting. This site has given me a new light to carry on. Actually being heard and treated like a person, it's nice. Glad i've done this. Speak soon.

I spoke to Family Rights Group and was told to have an advocate and seek legal advise to make a complaint. I had so much to say for all the years where they have only come in to intimidate rather than be a support and since my children are child in need due to disabilities, a duty of care should have been put in place years ago. One of my sons was 5 when he was statemented with autism and severe speach and language disorder and a motor delay.  He is now 14, that is a long time with no support and a major knock on effect on my next son who was born 12 years ago. He has Adhd and tourettes syndrome. he'z ticks have really calmed down of late. The Adviser also feels I should get appropriate help counselling me through all the truama and nervous shock the Social Services have left me with following a house fire that they should have supported us with rather than threatening me with future tales that they will take my children of me one day and until that day I will never receive support and they will always be in our lives. they certainly followed their promise through it's been 7 years now!! She even gave me the Samaritans for times when i feel there's no hope. I must've sounded like a nervous wreck. I had a painful lump in my throat by the end and couldn't contain myself. It opened the fload gates of many years of fustration of protecting my self worth so I can continue to mother my children. I believe she's right it has had an adverse effect on me. Cruelty absolute Cruelty!! She believes this is the start of a new path, I hope so.

I'm over the moon with the possitive feed back and suggestions made from this site. Coming here has certainly opened up area's i would've been to nervous to even contemplate.

It's certainly something I could never do alone. definately need representation from an independant body.

The balls rolling now, that's what counts.

Thank you x

Thank you Laume, unfortunately all this stupidity has left my brain a tad frazzled the last couple of weeks as I have received the core assessment. It's not factual and I have been given a written agreement to sign, I do not agree with the agreement but if i don't sign further action will be taken. I don't feel it's fair that just by a social workers assumptions that she can write up an agreement for her own benefit.

basically she is allowed to walk in and out of my property with and without an appt. when she feels fit.

The other condition is for me to access mental health to receive a label and she has all access to my medical records.

I spoke to the mental health dept. and said by law their policies are to the option of the individual and not being bullied into something it is unlawful, she said she is going to ring childrens and families to remind them of such policies. I am seeing an Advocate to discuss this matter further.