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The Ex has finaly turned all the Boys against me and my little girl is a bit unsure of me none of the boys will talk to me and the one in foster care doesnt even want to see me and has blocked me off his facebook page.
What do i do? i feel like pooh
Thanks
I just feel like giving up and calling it a day, Throw all the stuff out and live life like i have never had any children as she is making it so hard for me evryone beleives her.
Pash, Louise has given you some support sites for someone in your situation. I think the best bet would be for you to have a look at those. This site is basically for single parents with day to day care, so we're not really the ones to advise you on the situation you are in.
I'm sorry the boys don't want any contact, but they are old enough aren't they to have their own minds, and say on the matter. I realise this is extremely hurtful for you, but don't ever give up on them, despite how they feel. I'm sure they feel very protective of their Mum, which again puts you in a difficult position. If their Mum has turned them against you, then shame on her, but one day they might realise the full truth, but for now they seem to be on her side so to speak. None of us here at One Space can offer anything but sympathy I guess, as we're not in the same position, and lone fathers that use this site are actually seeing their children or have full custody. Do you see what I mean?
Have you looked into any other sites for fathers/mothers that don't see their kids?
You're still able to see your daughter, and hopefully re-build a relationship with her.
Never forget your children- that's the easy option that so many parents take, sadly you can't force anyone in this world to talk to you but stay strong and just be there for them if/when they decide to make contact...there will prob come a day when they find out the truth and need you to be there for them...if they have decided not to speak to you for now then don't force it because it may push them away further.....never give up or not be botheredwith your children
Thanks for all your advice i will stop trying to contact them and trying to help them from now on and wait for them to come to me.
Hopefully they will Pash. Good luck with everything.
Excuse me, but did you say you will "stop trying to contact them and trying to HELP them from now on and wait for them to come to me?"
I urge you to be as positive as you can. HELP YOUR CHILDREN....unconditionally. Show them what a wonderful father you are...they have made up their minds about you...for whatever reason. They do not require punishing...they need love and support throughout their lives.
Keep loving...and even if you cant see them..be the best father you possibly can be. If you are, they will want to be with you. If you do not help them and support them...then....they will never know the love you have in your heart for them. Seek advice from a counsellor and make a plan for showing your love....best wishes to you.
Thank you every one
I am waiting for counselling.
I did ask my little girl yeserday what colours she wanted her bedroom.
Is your daughter now coming out of care pash? Have SS notified you of anything? Just thinking here, that if you're asking your 5 year old what colour she wants for her bedroom, she's been told she's going home to her mum or you?
No i am just painting the house and i thought it would be nice for her to know what i am doing.
But i have tons of questions for the FRG site
It is good for them to know they're included in your plans Pash. My lot were very aware that their father didn't include them in things.
You should of heard that SW her coments were " dont make promise's"
i turn round and said " I dont make promise's i cant keep"
This was over S living back at home with me one day, if she was a man i would of .... outside for the coments she made and other interuptions she kept on doing.
But instead i ignored her and was on the phone to my solicitor after the contact and Hence FRG too. I was steaming with how i was made to feel.
I'm sorry to say Pash02 but I don't think there is much you can do...sorry but I can't remember the age for your children? hopefully as they get older they will make up their own minds and want some sort of relationship with you