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Hi I could do with your thoughts on my friend please
I have a friend who has young children, we meet up in holidays, I had her little girl at mine for a sleepover
I see her twice a week
So she had a birthday party for her twins and she didn't invite any of my children am I right to feel a little hurt by this?
We are quite straight down the line she says things how they are and I like that she's like that and expected her to say something like she was going to just invite my younger ones
Now my kids are individual and they don't come as a group and as a mum of twins she understands this so inviting one or two wouldn't of offended any one
They are well behaved too.
I'm ment to be seeing her tonight
Any thought greatly apreciated as when with him I wasn't allowed mates so this is new to me
Hi IDT, I would have been hurt too. You are not alone there.
I think Louise has given some good suggestions though, will you try those sentences do you think?
I asked her how did the party go and she said played it down said yeah ok and that the hall held a maximum of 40 but lots didn't turn up that she invited.
I'd not dream of having a party not inviting hers along too
We both have very little family so I think of her as almost aunty to kids and thought I was to hers if u know what I mean.
She's a good friend went along to sons hospital appointment they tried to trigger a fit.
I think if shed of said before something but it's the fact she's said nothing.
Sorry to ask it's all newand I'm very unsure of things
I have made a friend from freedom program, it's more a wine night ;) than coffee morning.
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Ask away IDT, we don't mind having our brains picked.
I can see what you mean about not saying anything at all, it is hurtful, but then again we all deal with situations differently and can sometimes hurt others feelings without realising it, even though your friend is normally straight forward sometimes it can be difficult to say certain things and in those situations we can tend to bury our head in the sand and avoid it.
Glad to hear you have made another friend at the freedom programme, was it your son that had the hospital appointment or your friends?
It's sad when it happens, isn't it? My youngest didn't get invited to his then best friend's, I think 9th, party. He was shocked I was upset and my Mother-in-Law furious.
I'm good friends with his Mum. Who dismissed it as "son invited who he wanted to his party".
But I still feel it wasn't really the right thing to do, and it did affect the friendship with the boys, and to be honest, with me too, as I would never have not included her son in things.
She moved away a few years ago, and I think that has opened her eyes to how close we were, and how close the boys are. She always calls when she's visiting her Mum and the boys are delighted to see each other.
I'm sorry that it's happened, but can totally understand how you feel.
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Hi and thanks
I think your right sparkling she did let the children chose who to invite so I think that's probably it, she is like this with them, it is hurtfull though.
Sally it's my son who was at hospital and i know she was there then when I needed her ;) x
I am glad to see you trying out these new frendships, though, IDT. Not everyone turns out to be a bosom buddy but just enjoy the freedom to be friends with whoever you like!
Hello IDT that is a shame....I agree hurtful. I do think, though that she might have thought that she had to invite the whole family. Maybe worth saying to her "how did the party go?" and this would open the topic and if she does not mention anything about the question of invites, you can say something like " I suppose you had a houseful of kids, I was going to offer to help but I wondered if you were a bit reluctant to ask me because there are quite a few of us?"
Personally I don't think it is worth falling out over though. Great that you are now building some new friendships