Hi everyone this is my first time using this site my divorce was finalised now this week after two years of ups and downs with the ex-wife. Ohings between us are okay now I think.
I also found out she started a new relationship which I'm okay with and I hope she's happy and as long as it doesn't impact on my children is also made me realise for the last two years I have lived like a hermit and this needs to change I haven't been out on a night out for many many years especially as a single person. So if anybody has some ideas where to start I would be grateful for any advice that could help me. S I tell you a bit about myself
I'm 43 years old. I don't drink don't smoke I don't do much of anything as I have forgotten how to live I work shifts which makes life very difficult to have life when I'm not working my son is with me and when he is with his mother I am working so I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place.
Hi tallon7210. Welcome along. It's a great site, lots of support, so do hope you stay with us.
Hello tallon7210
Sorry to hear about what has happened with you. It is good that you have things on an even keel and that you are seeing your son regularly.How much time do you have with him and how old is he? You mention "children", do you see the other child or children too?
As far as getting your life on track, it does take a while and it does mean you making a really concerted effort. I am posting a link to our article Making New Friends (click). Some of the ideas will not be relevant to you if you do not have the children much of the time, but if you look at the bottom of the article there are some useful websites and organisations to look at. What I would say to EVERYONE in you situation is concentrate on making new friends first and foremost and a new relationship will come in time.