ultrasound

hi there,

i'm becoming a single mother soon, still pregnant (week 11)..my partner walked out on me a couple of weeks ago .

he is been pushing me to have termination..find it hard to organise my thoughts..very scared of the future and on my own...

non of my friends have children

wondering if any of you have been through this kind of situation?

where to start?

many thanks

Posted on: June 26, 2012 - 10:13pm
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Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hello ultrasound

Welcome to One Space.

It must be very hard to cope with what has happened. Do you think the pregnancy is the reason that your partner left?

You will find plenty of people here who have brought up children on their own and there are some really tough bits and some fantastically rewarding bits too. Are you still considering whether to go ahead with the pregnancy?

There are lots of practical things to consider including housing, money, what support you would get from family and friends, and if you did not want to go ahead then you only have a few weeks to make this decision. If you want to talk to someone then there are organisations that can help, including Care Confidential (click to see)

Talk to us some more, we are here to help Smile

Posted on: June 27, 2012 - 6:57am
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shaz 5

hi ultrasound

welcome to this site, this site is very useful and you will get loads of support from here. i go with what louise has put what help have you got from friend or family? have looked into where you live what there is about for help ?

being a single mom myself yes it is hard at times but equally the good times are fab . is there someone who you could talk too stay on board here too as you will get advice

Posted on: June 27, 2012 - 7:07am
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ultrasound

Hi Louise and shaz 5,

Thank you for your kind support and advice.

My relatioship had been rocky for awhile and although my ex was over the moon when I told him that I was pregnant ,I soon realised that it was just an act on his behalf, trying to do the 'right thing' , so to speak

i've been going through a real torment in the last couple of weeks, when one day he'd say he'd like me to keep it and then the next day explain to me in details how wrong it'd be to bring this child in to this world

i have full support of friends and family to go ahead with the pregnancy, i'm almost 39 and it might be my last chance..

regarding housing, i live in a my family house and would never have be on the street,my family live in a different country

 

i find it hard to start to cope, having two very conflicting feeling going on at the same time,

i've been to a scan and saw my baby, it makes it almost impposible for me to have an abortion, i just find difficult to deciede what to do

I wanted to get pregnant for nearly a year, suppos that I didn't take in to account the scinareo I'm in..

 

I'll call the number you've suggested to get more advice,

thanks again,

have a good day

ultrasound

 

Posted on: June 27, 2012 - 9:05am
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Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

We are for you to talk to as well....I would just like to say that when you make your decision, make it yourself and and not on the strength of anything your ex partner may have said

Posted on: June 27, 2012 - 12:02pm
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sheppeylady

Hi

 

I went through the same thing a number of years ago, i keep the baby and now have a wonderful 17year old daughter.

Best thing i ever did , was very hard but worth it.

Posted on: June 28, 2012 - 9:02am
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Anna
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Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Thanks for your input sheppeylady, if we are prepared to overcome all the obstacles. It is a journey that you have to embark on with your eyes wide open and as someone said previously, you need to do it for your own reasons and no one elses.

Posted on: June 28, 2012 - 5:02pm
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