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Hi speedbird
Glad to hear you are feeling better today
There does see, to be lots of people poorly at the moment, mostly with simlar symptoms to you.
I am fine thank you, just plodding on with Christmas plans, not really got anything to plan as such but budgeting for it all as we do. It has gone very cold again here and quite foggy again so its wrap up and stay in time, xfactoe final should keep us all amused for the evening
Hi speedbird
I hope you feel a bit better this morning and ablel to deal with this interview. The others have said it all, really. Once you have had your interview, then have a look at your finances and if you would like some advice and help, do email our fab 1-2-1 Money Advice Service and they will reply to you personally; they have the most up to date information on everything moneywise and will be able to help you see the way forward.
Good luck for today and let us know how you get on
Good luck for today's interview Speedbird. Hope you're feeling better. Let us know how it goes.
Hi speedbird
Hope today goes well for you
Hi all
Went ok at jobcentre. Done most online so just had to check, sign forms and write a declaration of reasons why left last job...had a look for jobs..she admitted they are extremely quiet this year, and noone is even taking on temporary christmas staff in the area. Asked about retraining etc so have a few things to think about.
Feeling a bit better, bad throat has gone just left with cold, cough and painful mouth ulcer. Hate them and always seem to get them..its on its way out but still but painful when eating and drinking.
Brain a bit foggy still so will keep it short, will post more when feeling better.
Hope you are all ok today, and thank you for your kind messages.
Speedbird x
Hi Speedbird
Glad you got on ok at jobcentre, and it's out of the way for now. Good to know that you're feeling better in yourself too. Wrap up warm, and remember to take the honey.
Well done, speedbird, glad you have got it all done. I am also relieved to hear that you are starting to feel better, although mouth ulcers sound nasty. What do you find helps these? Is using a drinking straw a good plan?
I'm glad that's over too, and relieved that it was ok.
Keep warm...
Yes ulcers are nasty little things.. made the mistake of thinking it was going until drunk some tea..Ive been using tcp until I run out, and now salted water..all of which make your eyes water but does do the trick eventually. I did use something from boots once which literally burns it off...no pain after but left with a very white and weird looking lip! some sort of acid in the ingredient so hardly a suprise it takes the skin off..
Better get the tree up as well at some point. All seems to have crept up on me yet again lol (say this every year..) 
Have bought a precooked lasagne as a treat and going to say blow to the cooking tonight. Its corrie on the box later and feet up!!
speedbird x
Oooh yes, Corrie, not forgetting Emmerdale and Eastenders. I just love Mondays! Take it easy, glad to hear you're treating yourself tonight with an easy dinner.
Hi speedbird
Glad today went well for you.
Have you tried the adult bonjella? It is very good.
Put your feet up and try and have a relaxing evening, enjoy the lasagne and corrie xx
Hi
Am still feeling rubbish and have been coughing all day like an old woman, its sitting on my chest and am so fed up with it now. Bought some straws as am so fed up with my mouth hurting when i drink/eat.
Tonight was eventful. Just about to start another tense night as me and son fell out yday over computer/attitude etc and theres a knock on the door....his dad is standing there...he called to give gloves back and ended up trying to sort out our issues!
All agreed to take away w.o.w game, in fact the whole comp is gone, as was the main problem as son had no control over it..was affecting everything. He still has an xbox.
son gets upset and tells his dad he hates living here (in this flat) and on an estate!! We're all in his room, which admittedly is quite small, me and his dad who rarely see each other, and son crying and milking it for all its worth!!
I know the flat is too small and is a problem, but I cant just produce a house out of nowhere and tried explaining best I could...his dad agreed it must be difficult and went onto explain his wife too was an 'estate girl' (as u can see where son gets his stereotype from ) and it isnt where you live but what you make of yourself, which is true. I was looking quite aghast at this point...and really wishing he hadn't turned up when im wearing my old trackie bottoms, hair scraped into a clip and looking, well, quite rough!
son said he is too embarassed to tell his friends where we live and to bring them home which I was quite upset about (but hid it) as I dont know if its me who is embarassing or the fact that we obviously dont have much money.
Spoke to my dad who reassured me that actually he doesnt have it all that bad and of course, that is true, its just teens these days want everything and they want it now. Doesnt stop me having a side order of guilt served up though...
speedbird x
I'm sorry that you've not had the best of days, and sorry you're still feeling poorly (I can sympathise with the coughing!).
My oldest has gone through very much the same as you. He has found the loss of our "big" house and "posh" car difficult to deal with.
It's good his Dad has been supportive here though - a united front can help so much.
Sending loads of hugs your way, and hope you don't cough too much tonight and manage to sleep.
Hi speedbird, sparklinglime is right it is good that your sons dad is at least trying to help.
We all do our best for our children and that is always good enough, we cant do better than our best can we, please dont feel down, all teens have it inbuilt to make us feel guilty from time to time even though we know deep down we have done nothing wrong!!!
I also hope that you are feeling much better tomorrow, straw fed isnt much fun is it xxx
Oh poor you whe you are feeling poorly, that was all you needed! The positive that has come out of it is that the WOW game has gone and your son has explained how he feels.
If I can just reassure you: if you were Cheryl Cole with a mansion and a Rolls Royce he would still think you were "well embarrassing". Part of teenagers' remit is to rebel against us and reject what we seem to stand for. I do totally understand how you feel as I remember my eldest saying he was ashamed to invite people and then seeing some messages he had sent to friends saying "mine is the house with the ancient old banger outside it, why does everything have to be so scruffy, you would think she (me!!!) could provide something better" (this was a car my dear old dad had helped me to get so that he and his brother had some transport and my little house had kept a roof over their heads by me having three part time jobs cobbled together and living by the skin of my teeth, as we all do)
The good news is that he will see the rights of it one day as they do eventually come out the other end and become reasonable human beings. There is a fab book about teenagers you can read: click here to see it
Hope you are feeling better this morning.
Hi speedbird. Did you manage to sleep in between the coughing? Really hope so. I just wanted to say, that when I read some posts regarding teenagers and their attitude, it isn't just single parents that get it, my friend who is happily married with two boys, has an awful time sometimes with her 14 year old. I'm in shock at some of the stuff she tells me. I'm sure C will also have an attitude when he reaches the teens, he's 8 now. Just hoping I can deal with it, with the help of others that have been through it. We all do our best, and that is all we can do, and one day, they will come to realise it (hopefully).
Take care, and hope you feel better soon
Good point, alisoncam. Sometimes families with two parents have it harder in that they can disagree about the best way to deal with it all and one can be cast in the role of referee. Other times it can be harder on your own as there is not another adult to back you up.
One of the hardest things about when your child becomes a teen is that they can change from the loving child you had, to a hostile stranger, and some of the things they say and do are very, very hurtful. But they do have a lot of goodness in their hearts too, as sparkling lime will tell you from her work with young people.....although my own observation is that the goodness is seldom directed towards their own parents, lol.
Thanks all,
Managed to sleep a bit last night then we both overslept!! Im still on go slow with this damn cough but seems to be clearing slowly.
I think sometimes its easy to think we are the only ones who problems with their children and then fall into the trap of thinking we must be doing something drastically wrong..at least thats what I do. Being a single parent highlights that even more.
I havent forgotten what I was like as a teen, and I know I was no angel either! The difference is my parents more or less left me to my own devices, and didnt try to talk to me much about what was bothering me etc and my room was more or less where I lived! but then I had quite an unhappy teenage years and has affected me into adulthood..I know though that it was because my parents didnt know what to do, and only did their best. Thats all any of us can do I guess.
I havent really been out in days and am getting quite fed up with it now, though got lots of chores to do..sigh..
How are you all doing today? x
speedbird
Hi speedbird. You're best off in the warm, though I do know what you mean about getting fed up with being indoors!! Hopefully, by the weekend, the cough will have gone completely.
I have my son off school today with a sore throat, hurts when he swallows. He had it yesterday, but hates missing school. Thought it best to keep him off today, and dose him with calpol. He hasn't moaned much about not being at school which must mean he is poorly. He's banking on going tomorrow though, but I'll have to see. Would of course make my life easier if he was there, as still have shopping to do, but that will have to wait for now.
I could be doing plenty of chores indoors too, but, as I say, could, should, NOT, hehe
Take care of yourself.
x
Hello speedbird
Glad you are starting to feel better, although the cough may take a while to go. I understand what you mean about a change of scene though. Are you able to go out for a walk?
Lol alison, like your chore mantra! I managed to break the xmas tree base today...god im so clumsy..so its back in the box and will have to look for another! small one i think as was a bit big anyway.
Hope your son feels better soon.
Louise, I Put some twinkly lights up and rearranged room slightly so done a bit..didnt make it out, I got so involved with putting lights up and looking through old decorations that it was dark before I knew it!
I'm sure it looks all twinkly now speedbird. I do find it a chore putting them up, but glad when I have, as it gives the room a warm glow.
C is still very croaky. Hurts when he coughs, but I do keep checking that it's not the chest, as of course, that could indicate an infection. It's definately down in his throat.
Hello. Hows everyone? Feeling a bit better every day, though am worried that i wont be able to get to my brothers for xmas as they have got more snow forecast there...guess Ill find out on the weekend when he rings. He isnt the best at communicating and our only method seems to be facebook...
Son picked up his new glasses and he can see again! lol they look really nice.
Got a few bits and pieces for my niece, didnt cost much am hoping they wont notice!!
S x
Am sure your niece will love it whatever it is speedbird. Glad you're feeling better. Really hope you manage to get to your brothers for Christmas. When would you be leaving? If snow stops you from going, will it just be your son and yourself on the day? However it turns out, it'll work out just fine I'm sure
Brother lives in lincoln, and im in south wales so will be train...plan was to get off at Runcorn as he will be there visiting wifes sister that day..due to go on the 22nd Dec.
Travelling back over pennines or something so hes worried about the weather....Im really hoping can go as was so looking forward to it. We will have to see though.
Son is going to his dads, so if I dont go I will go to my parents I expect...
Had a letter from jobcentre wanting to know reasons why left job (even though already filled in on monday) so sent it back and hope they dont come up with some reason why cant have it...if thats the case im stuffed..
This is an interesting read
Hi speedbird
Hope it all works out for you, it is worrying isnt it waiting to hear if you are entitled to js.
Hope you do get to see your brother, the Pennines can be bad if the weather turns but fingers crossed it wont xx
Hmmm, and what they don't say in the article is that there are a huge number of single parents who were previously on IS and have now moved to JSA and therefore count as "unemployed"....and that this number will climb as families' youngest child reaches the age of seven.
Hi speedbird, Just been looking at the forecast, the heavy snow is due on Saturday over where your brother lives but he will be keeping an eye on the good old M62 conditions for his drive on Monday. I guess you could think about a longer train journey if the roads aren't too good? Glad you are feeling better from your virus.
Hi
Im due to go on the 22nd Dec, the schools dont break up till that day here..I could get the train all the way up rather than Runcorn if I have to. But I will have to book my ticket soon! Im feeling quite miserable today as something always happens to scupper my plans it seems, and am not looking forward to possibility of staying here.
Cough is still hanging on, and going from feeling ok to not so good again. 
Hope everyone is ok, what are you all up to?
S x
Hi speedbird
I have been out and about all day, partly work, partly friends :-) Sorry to hear your cough is still hanging on, just when you were beginning to get better. I must say the cough seems to be the last thing to go with this virus.
Your schools break up quite late, don't they? Maybe you will have a chat to your brother and see what he thinks about the weather
Thanks Louise. Yeah the schools break up very late this year, will still be going op 22nd as my son is staying with his grandad after school and catching train to his dads next day.. will just need to confirm mon or tues exactly where am going to, either Runcorn (if he is travelling there) or Grimsby/Market Rasen if weather not so good.
We had more snow overnight, and I dug the car out, with some help from the kids who live by me, theyre so sweet, said theyd give me a push if got stuck on the hill!
Got out fine and went to get supplies..
Havent got all the pressies yet, need to get something for brother, his wife, and my parents but dont know what to get as am on a budget also..
How is everyone today?
Thanks tiredmum. Am feeling much better today, even got dressed which is more than yesterday! was feeling really sorry for myself as couldnt talk and eat a thing, never had so much pain in my throat.
How are you doing today?