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So I have a 7 month baby boy ( as some may know ) he is a very big baby always heads been was born 9lb 6oz ( and quarter) and he now weighs a popping 26lb 14oz , he wakes every night 2 or 3 times and its killing me I'm past tired I'm actually exhausted and falling asleep during day my eyes just close and I'm gone , I feed my son when he wakes because I'm frightened I'm starving him if I don't feed him when he wakes at night with him being such a big baby , I was told to just not feed him let him cry n sooth hisself , I just don't kwhat if its right thing to do ( the not feeding him as I wouldn't let him cry hisself to sleep to me that's just cruel ) any help would be great because I could do with some
He is bottle fed ( formula ) he goes to sleep 7pm on dot with a 7oz bottle and he has always woke at 9-10 and the again 11-12 and he used to sleep from there till morning at 5-6 am but now he has gone back to waking in the night from 12 onwards whether it be an hour apart or 2 hours , the only way he settles is either his dummy or a bottle I have tried water I have tried dummy I've tried rocking him and singing him back to sleep none of it is working he just wants his milk but if he could sleep from 12-6 before surely he can do it again but I am now wondering if I do it will I be starving him because he is obviously waking for some reason and I don't know if it is hunger ,, I actually don't know what to do
Hello Dominiquedon, I have every sympathy with you, my youngest was just the same. I used to think he would never be full!
So he has 7oz before 7pm then has milk again at 9 and at midnight? How many ounces then? What solids is he on? I think you need the services of your trusty health visitor! Do you see them regularly, I presume you do as you obviously take him to be weighed. They may suggest a larger bottle in the first place, or a different feeding regime or different solids to settle him in the evening....also consider what formula he is on and whether this is follow-on milk, and tell the Health Visitor that. Until you have seen her, just give him extra till he settles, you can't be awake half the night
Hi do please don't worry about starving him honey his last bottle off 7 oz is more than enough to send him through the night but I completely understand how you feel I used to feel just the same
have you introduced solid food yet?
once I had started weaning and by 7 months I would always offer a cereal based baby food with their last bottle
have you considers moving his bedtime to a bit later? You could bath him around 7-8 then make his last feed around 9 ?
and when he does wake in the night I would reduce his milk right down in amount and eventually just offer water and I know you have done that but i would keep to it as long as you know he is well 'stuffed' fed before bed you can confidently stick to just offering water
good luck I know it's not easy x
As long as I know I won't starve him I'm happy to not feed him in night I guess some tough love is needed , and as for my health visitor she told me to keep feeding him he needs it with him being big , but I knew myself he should be sleeping in night not feeding and from what she said it got me worrying am I starving him , and as for food wise he eats anything from mashed carrots n apples to mash potatoe and some more vAllan's it isn'a small amount it's a pretty good size so his solids aren't a problem I think now it is just habit with him , also it's impossible to keep him later than 7 coz he just goes his self know matter what he could be playing on floor and as soon as 7 hits he's asleep ( I have a giggle bout this him how strange I he just nods off ) xxx
Sounds like you sort of already know the answer and just want some assurance. See how you get on in the coming week with a bit of tough love, is that what you are thinking?
I just hope he is going to be ok in night and not feel hungry he is a big baby and I worry he hungry all time he and size n weight of a todolder I have cut his sleeps out during day he has only had one and has mostly had food and one bottle I'm just now sorting his tea out and then a bath after and bed see how he goes , I won't be giving him his milk from bed time onwards ill try the water again n just continue with that just as long as I know I'm not starving him in night and its just habit then I can work the rest out and hopefully it works , ill let u know how it goes after tonight , thanks for the help :)
Good morning Dominiquedon, how was last night? Did you both have a good nights sleep?
It didn't go so well :( I got about 2 hours sleep , he went to bed fine I made sure I fed him extra before bed , he woke at 10 went back over ok and then woke at 12 as usual and I had a screaming fight for 3 hours but he gave in eventually and went back to sleep I just had to keep popping in now and then to calm him I tried water he just didn't entertain it i was thinking ill put a little drop of juice in do you think that would help ??? Xx
When he woke at 12 did you give him milk?
you could try juice
imo its about him not relying on a bottle to settle
dummy or music or simalar however its incredably hard
No I didn't give in I mostly sat downstairs so I couldn't hear his cries as much because I would of have in to him i just kept popping back up lieing him down and walking back out it took 3 hours of the same thing but he went eventually so I'm hoping tonight it will get less and less over the week till he learns and realises I was abit worried he might be hungry but if other babies younger than him can sleep through he can as well xx
Yes it is horrid listening to them cry,I know. Hopefully it should only take a few tough nights before he gets the idea. Make sure you are extra-smiley when you go into him in the morning (however groggy you are feeling) just to give him the message that HELLO, the day begins now!
I did I was all smiles for him this morning :) we were playing peek a boo while I got his clothes ready before I brought him down for his breakfast x
Good morning Dominiquedon, high five for making it through the first night with determination!
I dont think you need to put juice in his water at all. I never gave my daughter any and she still enjoys water now. If you add something sweet to his bottle, he may well start waking up for that sweetness. No hold it down you are doing a fab job.
It can be so painful when they are crying, especially in the middle of the night and especially when there is no one there to console us! But stay strong. It is now a battle of the wills!
How was he last night?
He wasnt any better last night but I kept up with it he been very testing today as he is very tired from him being up lost of last night he has just had his tea so I will be doing the same routine tonight just hope he gets the idea soon xx
Good luck, Dominiquedon, in my experience it should only be a few days....then just think of the blissful sleep you will have 
I agree with Anna about not putting juice in the bottle as that might be a bit too attractive.
How was last night?
Hello I thought I would let you know my determination has paid off gym little cherub now sleeps through the night from 7-7:30am :) thank you so much for the help its really appreciated xxx
My not gym ( sorry )*
Wooo hoooo! Congratulations Dominiquedon! Well done you, your persistence and determination DID pay off!
Remember this for the future 
I hope you have given yourself a huge pat on the back :)
Hi
can you tell us a little more about his feeding
how is he fed by breast or bottle and how does he settle at night before he falls to sleep ?
and what time does he settle down at night time?
has he ever slept through a full night without waking ?