singlemumsrock

Hi Towerofstrength.

I randomely stumbled over your comments from back in January. I could really relate- infact it was as if I could have written it myself. It was particulary interesting and somewhat grotesque the way you described how the counsellors you tried to get support from confided in you rather than supporting you-it is my exact experience too! Just painful really. Thought we could meet for a coffee and a chat about being supermums on the edge - I'm certainly on breakingpoint - although my "have- to -cope- no -matter- what" attitude wouldn't allow me to. I'm new in this forum and don't really know how this works and if Im going about it the right way - just hoping that I could get in contact. I'm also not great when it comes trust- and being a single parent and somewhat made to feel like a cross between a lowlife and a scrounger -has probably driven me into an isolated defensive corner with an attitude of "I'm fine - I will handle whatever as usual". Truth is - I'm ready to make some changes and reach out. Hence this comment. Hope to hear from you.

Posted on: September 13, 2011 - 11:22pm
Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi singlemumsrock,

You are welcome here!

I have moved your post to local information as you mentioned you would like to meet up for coffee etc with people that had had simialor experience. Maybe you would like to reply to this post saying what area you are in? I know you mentioned tower of strength but we can't guarantee when she will log in, especially if the post you saw was some months ago.

I was sorry to hear that you have also had a negative experience of counselling. The behaviour you describe sounds unethical in accordance with the code of practice and I would urge anyone who tries counselling and does not click with their counsellor, to try a different counsellor!

Do you have many single friends? It is harder to meet other parents when your children are older, but maybe through work?

Posted on: September 14, 2011 - 8:25am

hazeleyes
DoppleMe

Hello singlemumsrock. Just wanted to welcome you along. Smile

Posted on: September 14, 2011 - 7:27pm

Mich
DoppleMe

Hello singlemumsrock...I have recently split, and have an older daughter....Not feeling great myself at the moment...but just wanted to welcome you here too.

 

Posted on: September 18, 2011 - 3:07pm