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suzy1070

Hi everyone,
Never thought i would have to do this again :(
I made the mistake of putting my children's feelings first, and am now paying the price.....
The man who I thought was my world has told me he no longer loves me because of it.
The problem is, he owns the house we live in and is asking me to go and find somewhere else to live.
Does anyone know what rights I might have? The CAB is constantly inundated with people and you
can never get an appointment. Likewise a solicitor......
If anyone could help, I would really appreciate it....
Thanks
Suzy

Posted on: July 5, 2009 - 12:31pm
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sparklinglime
DoppleMe

Hi Suzy

I'm sorry that this is happening.

Are you married?

How long have you lived together?

How old are the children?

Posted on: July 5, 2009 - 1:05pm
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Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hello Suzy, you do need some proper legal advice (see http://www.communitylegaladvice.org.uk/index.jsp) but here's a bit of info to start you off:

If your name is not on the deeds/tenancy agreement then basically you don't have any rights to that property. BUT...if the house is being bought rather than rented and you have contributed significantly to the mortgage/upkeep then you may be able to take out an action to get some recompense for that. I am presuming you are not married and that he is not the father to your kids. If you ARE married then there will be a financial hearing in the courts and if he is the father then he has a duty to support those children and you can contact the CSA (see http://www.cmoptions.org/)

I am so sorry this is happening to you. You need to sort out your finances, either by claiming Working Tax Credit (0845 300 3900) if you are working 16 or more hours per week or Income Support/JSA (http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/MoneyTaxAndBenefits/BenefitsTaxCreditsAndOtherSupport/On_a_low_income/DG_10018708?cids=Google_PPC&cre=Money) if not.

best wishes

Louise

Posted on: July 5, 2009 - 5:53pm
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Anna
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi suzy1070, I hope you find the links that Louise gave useful. You could also get in touch with your local council.

What steps have you taken already?

Posted on: July 6, 2009 - 1:04pm
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Anna
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Just seen this info sheet, have a look, i hope it might be of some use to you :)

http://www.oneparentfamilies.org.uk/1/lx3x1olx10x1oex400x1oix7493x1/0/0/181208/0/0//housing-options-lone-parents-fs-p1.htm

Posted on: July 6, 2009 - 3:13pm
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suzy1070

Thanks for all the advice :)
We are married, and my youngest child is his, but the other two aren't..
They are 13, 9, and 5....
I don't want the house, or any part of it, I just want to know if he can force me to leave....

Posted on: July 6, 2009 - 7:19pm
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mousie

If you are married and it is the family home I am pretty sure he cant force you to leave, however he could stop paying the mortgage which would obviously eventually lead to repossesion and I guess you having to leave but then the council would be obliged to house you. However its best to check this with citizens advice. If however things go through the courts they will take into account where finances to buy houses etc came from and the couples positions prior to marriage and each case is different but they would also take into account that he has left you and you have the children to care for. I hope this helps but do check it all out with someone official as I would hate to give you the wrong advice! Also if you do go and see a solicitor go with your gut instincts as to your feelings about them - I went for a free 30 mins with a male solicitor who was only interested in money and very harsh, but now i have one who happens to be a lady who is really lovely, helpful and restored my faith by helping me to do things as cheaply as possible. My position is similar to yours in as much as my husband just left suddenly and we have a 3 year old together but I also had 2 older children from a previous marriage! good luck let and us know how it goes

Posted on: July 6, 2009 - 7:45pm
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Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

No, Suzy, if you are married and you have a child together then he can't FORCE you to leave, but you must, must get some legal advice

Posted on: July 6, 2009 - 8:56pm
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