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confussed&alone

hi guys

any ideads how i get divorced lol sorry sound thick dont i but i aint got the first clue as to how i do this where i look where i go etc any help would b great please

hope ur all well xxx

Posted on: January 6, 2010 - 2:20pm

hazeleyes

Hi confused&alone
Never gone through a divorce, but a solicitor is a good start. If you're on benefits, then you should be entitled to legal aid, though not too sure if it's for a divorce though. Others will be along later, so hopefully they will know more.
Take care
Alison
x :)

Posted on: January 6, 2010 - 3:10pm

pinkgrapefruit

Been there and got the t shirt... your best starting point would be to telephone a solicitor (try asking people you know if they can recommend anyone?), in the first phone call the solicitor should be happy to run thro some basics with you and may offer a free initial meeting - make sure you find a solicitor that you can talk to comfortably, its going to be quite a long process I'm afraid no matter how clearcut things are and you will need to be very open about lots of personal details, finances etc so you really do need to find the right person.

Posted on: January 6, 2010 - 8:43pm

confussed&alone

hey thanks bec i will do that

Posted on: January 7, 2010 - 9:56pm

sparklinglime

A friend came with me to my first visit. I felt two sets of ears were better than one, as it is distressing, even if you feel it's the "right thing" that you're doing.

Posted on: January 8, 2010 - 12:26am

Anna

Parenting specialist

Hi confused&alone

I have just found this site,http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/ it seems to be clear and simple to use, has lots of tools, like court forms and calculator and much more.

How was your xmas? Did you go to your mum and stepdads? did you managed to relax and enjoy yourself? How is your daughter coping, you said that she was the one who was most affected by the news of her dad leaving.

Have you heard from him? Have you got rid of all his stuff? How are YOU?? :)

Posted on: January 8, 2010 - 10:40am

confussed&alone

Hi thanks all for the help

i had a nice xmas thanks anna really relaxed. He has been intouch and we arranged regular visits well tonight he said her found out i was seein someone so not true live in a new town n dont know anyone yet but he went off it was really nasty then has phoned and txted me constantly with abuse and says he wants half my stuff from house he wants to have kids perminatly god it so awful i feel so down now and i was just beginin to cope

Posted on: January 12, 2010 - 10:38pm

Louise

Parenting specialist

hello confusedandalone

The abuse is unforgiveable. Start keeping a log of it with times and dates in case you need to use this in the future, In the meantime go on that site that Anna has mentioned and also think about some legal advice as others have said

Posted on: January 13, 2010 - 8:20am

susan

just wanted to ask a quicky.
when we first seperated, i went on the net and looked up stuff on divorce, and i was under the impression, that if you want a divorce, but with no fault (as in, mutual decision, not like someone cheated or whatever) you have to have lived apart for 2 years, but since someone has told me that if you have children, its 5 years.
Am i supposed to live in limbo for the next 4 years!!

Sue xx

Posted on: January 16, 2010 - 4:52pm

Claire-Louise

Hi Sue
Not sure if you have already seen this site but it seems to say here (and its a government site) that it is 2 years if you both agree to getting divorced. it is only a period of 5 years if one of the couple does not agree to the divorce. No mention of children and different ases there.
http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/FamilyIssuesAndTheLaw/DG_4002976?cids=Google_PPC&cre=Parents
Hope that clarifies things for you?
Cheers Claire-Louise

Posted on: January 16, 2010 - 5:54pm

Louise

Parenting specialist

Yes Claire Louise is right, it doesn't matter whether you have children or not, it is whether you both agree to the divorce or not.

Posted on: January 16, 2010 - 6:30pm