hello.
i am 42 years old, actually 41. i ended my marriage exactly one year ago, or at least separated one year ago and currently going through divorce. i have 3 lovely little children. the eldest is not long 7, the middle one will be 5 shortly and the youngest is 2. two girls and a boy. i feel a little sorry for my wee boy as he is in a house with all females. the children see their dad every 2nd weekend from a thursday to a monday morning so at least he gets some male company then. he just started school in september and is making friends soperhaps he will have a few male friends visit to play sometime soon.
my eldest girl (7) is a beautiful girl with a strong character. not too strong but a little stroppy at times.it seems she is a teenager before her time.my youngest is at pre-school part time and enjoys it although still a little lost at times and tearful when i leave. im not working and dont plan to return to work until my youngest starts school full time, so another couple of years yet.ive not worked in 7 years so it will be rather daunting to return to the work place and no doubt i will need to freshen up my training as a beauty therapist as i have been out of the profession all this time. probably work for myself as i cant see anyone taking on a 40 plus year old therapist and then theres the dilemma with child care costs outside school and during school holidays.
i live in a village near ashford and would love to make friends with people in my area and in time perhaps meet up on a friendship basis, men and women and create a strong circle of friends in similar positions to myself. i am not currently looking for a 'partner'. i want to concentrate on myself and the children and have the divorce well and truly behind me.no time for the opposite sex right now and dont want to introduce children to someone new at this point, despite their dad doing so.
its hard work but so looking forward to moving on mentally and emotionally and then progressing forward into a healthy place before encountering new relationship. definately keen to meet someone new but do want to take time and have good quality time for that person with no stress or baggage to cart around on top.
look forward to making friends from ashford area.
Posted on: November 21, 2009 - 10:43pm
Hello shiv
welcome! great to hear from you. it sounds as if you have really thought through your plans and are very focused on the children and keeping their security intact, that's very important, and you are even thinking ahead to future career plans. Your profession is one which is compatible with flexible working so that will help.
You're right, it is good to have a strong circle of friends and you mentioned your son being in a household of women, well if some of your new friends are male then that will be all to the good for your boy.
I am not sure how near to you all our members are, I know we have some that live in Kent. You can also contact other parents through http://www.netmums.com/coffeehouse/ Do stay with us though as there is so much information and support here and lots of friendship too :D Have a look around the site and jump in where you would like, you will be made very welcome