hello everyone...x
My oldest is a boy, then a daughter and two more boys.
They're fantastic children and I like to think we have a bit of fun at least!
The eldest has very little to do with his dad really. I think he can see that basically he does nothing to support them.
The other three will still go happily, and for that I pat myself on the back as it would take very few words from my eldest never mind from me to make them not want to bother.
I'd be delighted if they made the decision not to go though - I'm so horrid.
Contact was a nightmare though until my brother-in-law decided that a 24 hour notice call (which is always a text) would work better than him cancelling the contact time he chose and put in place.
It's been six years for me now, and yet he can still cause waves and likes to show he can control things.
Thing is, what can you do? In my case, very little, but that's down to me and being soft!
How are things with yours? Especially with the age gap.
Sad bit is, I don't believe The Git (my ex - I call his wife The Gittess, but never in front of the children!!) sees that he is missing out.
He'll still turn things onto me, which unfortunately will still affect me (weak or what!).
The Git hasn't had these overnight since August 2007. If he decided to be a doting dad after all this time, I'm not sure how I'd cope!
"Our" house had to be sold to pay off his debts. They came as quite a shock, as did losing the house we'd lived in for 20 years.
The house we have now is teeny - but its home and the children love it. The Git isn't welcome here after making one heck of a drama one evening over four years ago. He's never disputed that.
The Git used to live quite close by and when he met The Gittess (who was his third fiance), he'd cancel contact at the very last minute. As the children used to walk there, I'd have to go and get them!
you have to laugh, really!
I sometimes think you either laugh or you cry :-)
Hello yummymummy it is good to see you here and I hope you are finding your way around the site OK. You're right, the job of a single parent is harder than anyone could imagine if they haven't done it themselves and we all need to give ourselves credit (no-one else does!)
The business about your children's dad just swanning in and out of your childrens' lives is something that seems to happen a lot and can be very upsetting for us as parents when we see our children get upset. One thing that can help is to remember that you, at least, are a constant rock in their lives and can give them the security they need. Not easy, though.
Hi and welcome yummymummy25, I have spoken to you on another thread, but thought I would welcome you here!
You took a big step leaving your partner and I bet you thought long and hard about it.
Your partner must have felt things weren't right near the end, but he is still trying to deny it as it is easier for him to play the victim. I imagine when he says 'this is what you wanted, Ms Independant' I bet it still stings.
Stay strong, it sounds as if it was the right thing for you to do, have you since had any regrets?
Hi
It's really good to see you here.
My ex - who I call The Git (and his wife The Gittess) see very little of my four children who are now 18, 16, 14 (he has special needs) and the youngest who's 11.
I've been on my own for 6 years and 2 days :-)
Looking forward to getting to know you too.
Best wishes.