Hello - I am new here...
Hi Pia, nice to 'meet' you!
How are you feeling? I hope that your ex deciding that this life wasn't for him hasn't stopped you from enjoying your pregnancy? It's around 5 months that they start moving around and kicking isn't it, have you felt it yet? That was one of my favourite times!
Some people say that it can be easier to start parenthood on your own than having to deal with seperation when the child is born and used to having 2 parents around. So thats a positive! Its your rules and you can create life how you want it!
Single parenthood is very demanding, but it can be great fun and VERY rewarding. Does your ex plan on being part of your baby's life?
Hi Pia
Loads of virtual hugs (sorry if you don't do these...).
My children were that bit older when I was on my own - youngest was 5 and eldest was 12 - but the ex had little to do with them anyway.
It sounds as if you have plans in place, which is good. I look forward to 'chatting' and hopefully we can offer some support along the way.
Best wishes
Hi Pia, a very warm welcome from me too. Oohhh the kicking stage, I loved that until my son used to get his fist or foot stuck under my ribcage!! It can be scary on your own through pregnancy, not knowing what the future holds, but I've done it, and its the best thing I've ever done. My son is now 7 and his father isn't involved at all. I am proud to say he has turned out really well.
You sound very organised too, having sorted out a nursery etc. I'm pleased that the ex's mother wants to play a role too in your baby's life.
I look forward to chatting. Keep posting as this is a lovely group, and lots of discussions to be had! It is great to know either others are in your situation, or have already been through it.
Take care, and enjoy your day
Alison
x
Hello again Pia
Gosh there is a lot going on for you. I guess you will have to see how things pan out with the baby, and the father having parenting time. It sounds good that you have a local grandma!
I am one of the moderators of this board, along with Anna. Both of us have lots of experience of single parenthood, as do the members, some of whom have already said hello to you, I see.
I know you said you were feeling depressed but I do hope that joining in here will help, and if things get really hard, do go and talk with your doctor. People mean well when they congratulate you, but it can be hard when you are struggling.
Are you working at the moment and how is that for you?
This is where perhaps I seem cold - I found things so much easier without him...
Hi Pia
I have been away so not responding to messages, sorry, I have not forgotten you!
My daughter is 15, but those pregnancy days don't seem that long ago! I was having a difficult time with my ex, but I still enjoyed the changes that were going on in my body.
I know what you mean about wanting to burst into tears everytime someone says congratulations! You are right to remember that our hormones are at their peak!
If your ex wants to see the baby then, he needs to wait until the bay comes out. You didn't sound so sure that you wanted to see him at the moment and personally if you are going to do this on your own, you don't need him coming along and confusing things in your mind.
I am afraid to say though, you mentioned that you just want to forget about your ex, that is never going to happen. You now have a very real reminder of him for the rest of your life. Sorry!
Do you know if you are having a boy or a girl??
Hello Pia and welcome to One Space!
There is a wealth of information and support here for you. First of all, have a look at these links:
http://www.onespace.org.uk/your-talk/forums/first-year-new-baby-we-need-your-tips
http://www.onespace.org.uk/looking-after-you/young-mums-experience
How are you feeling healthwise? What are your plans for when the baby is born, have you got some family support? Do let us know more about what's going on for you.
There are a lot of friendly people here too and as well as information there is plenty of chat and the chance to say hpw you feel