I really do understand how frustrating this is for you.
I don't understand how a non resident parent can choose not to be responsible for their child/ren.
Best wishes
I don't understand how a non resident parent can choose not to be responsible for their child/ren.
Because they are living on the planet 'Me Me Me'
When you have kids you suddenly realise that there is someone who comes first and not like when you were young and in love and Oh I love you and your the most important person in the world, I'll love you for ever, yadda yadda yadda.. when you have kids you really come to understand how someone is more important than you : )
Some people don't get that though, they can't make that step.
And it is their loss because the best thing in the world is when you kids show you they love you and parents who throw that away, well it's their loss isn't it. And! contrary to what is said sometimes children don't need two parents, one can be more than enough to help them grow up into loving little people.
:)
later.
Hi amiebaby
Sorry to hear your difficult times, financially I think we have probably all been there, it is tough for a while, but you will make ends meet somehow. You spend a lot of time juggling one bill over another, I think we would be pretty good at handling this country's finances actually after doing it for so many years. Anyway it is not fair on us or our little ones, but that is the way it is and the sooner we can get our head round that one, the sooner we move on.
I know Louise mentioned CSA earlier and they also have a user friendly website http://www.cmoptions.org.uk I have not had a look into your situation, but they might be able to help you with any queries you have.
Let us know any outcomes please as all information helps :)
That's fab info treza01, thank you!
Hello Amie baby
Good to have you on board! :)
This is a problem that is starting to occur for lots of parents with majority care as unemployment soars. Sadly the CSA does not have jurisdiction abroad and your only way of pursuing him would be though a court case. Here is a webpage telling you about this http://www.csa.gov.uk/en/setup/parents-living-abroad.asp
It is so totally and utterly NOT FAIR that he can just "assume" that you will be able to look after his child on NO money. :x If he came back to the Uk, if he was on Job Seekers Allowance, he would only have to pay you £5 a week. Are you working at all? If not then I guess you are on Income Support. As a lone parent you can earn £20 a week without it affecting your benefit, though, and I am guessing £20 would make a lot of difference to you right now and it could be worth getting together with another parent and caring for each other's child while you both earn your £20. Cleaning is a good way to earn this as you can get this for 2 hours in many places and it is usually cash in hand.If you are working, make sure you getting all the help you can including Council Tax Benefit and Housing Benefit if you are in rented accommodation.
I am aware most of this is information for you to help yourself and does not involve making him responsible for his child's upkeep.It is infuriating!!!!!! :x :x :x
best wishes
Louise