Hi Everyone

shorty56

Hi to you all,

I am a 35 year old single mum and i have a disabled daughter. My daughters dad left us when she was 2 and a half because he could not cope with her disability, i spent a few years alone and then met a lovely man but unfortunatley a few weeks ago he decided he too could not cope with the amount of time my daughter needs. This time i have found it a lot harder, I am more down and negative about everything than i was before. However i know that however hard things are it will get better and i am proud of what a good mum i try to be. i know how lonely it is and devastating and there are many times when i cry myself to sleep and feel jealous of those around me who have families and lots of friends. but one thing i do know in my daughter i have someone who truly loves me and whether i make mistakes or not she will always think i am the best thing in the world-who wouldn.t be jealous of that.

Posted on: July 9, 2009 - 5:39pm

Louise

Parenting specialist

Indeed you have the love of your dear daughter, Shorty :)

You are welcome to One Space, I am glad you have found us though I am sad to hear that you have had to go through a second split. I know you say that it will get better in time, and that is true, but in the meantime it can be very hard. You are among friends here ;)

Have you thought about what support you can surround yourself with? Are there any local groups for parents with your daughter's disability? have you a Barnado's near you? (they run special playschemes for children with disabilities). Another thing you could think about is respite care so you could get one afternoon or evening to yourself a week. I am sure you have already thought of these things, sorry :oops:

do keep posting and join in the discussions, look forward to getting to know you more

best wishes

Louise :D

Posted on: July 9, 2009 - 5:53pm

Anna

Parenting specialist

Hi shorty56

Welcome from me too! Aren't our children fabulous! It is great to hear that you are proud of all the hard work and energy you give to your daughter as her mum. That really is the most important part.

Jealousy is a horrible thing, it must be hard for new partner to come into our family home where the bond is so strong, its impenetrable. it is important that the partners that we choose, have a life and fulfillment outside of our relationship as well as being supportive and strong for us within it, otherwise they will vye for our attention and become demanding and no one needs another person to look after.

Louise has come up with suggestions about finding support in your area, I am hoping that you will find new friends here at One Space too. We have spoken on other online groups about the realities of other people we know who have families and lots of friends and we have all agreed, that we might well think that those other people have TV perfect lives, but in reality they are struggling with demanding husbands, alcoholic in laws, out of control children, huge debt, philandering wives, poor body image etc etc, so please never think that all is perfect with them.

REMEMBER shorty56: Perfect only happens on the telly :D

Posted on: July 10, 2009 - 11:53am

sparklinglime

Just want to add my hello. :D

Posted on: July 10, 2009 - 7:54pm

Bubblegum

Me too : )

Posted on: July 10, 2009 - 8:10pm

sadsy

hello from me too!

huuug

Posted on: July 11, 2009 - 4:29am

shorty56

Just wanted to say thank you to you all for your kind words. I have good friends too but they don't always understand. It is good to knwo there are people who listen and if i can help anyone in return i will.

Posted on: July 13, 2009 - 4:21pm

Louise

Parenting specialist

That's great, shorty, I'm glad you have found some new friends here......and supporting each other is what it's all about :D

Posted on: July 13, 2009 - 4:25pm

Anna

Parenting specialist

Yay! :)

How are you doing today, did you have a good weekend?

Posted on: July 13, 2009 - 4:35pm