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kath 18

Hi I'm Katherine. I'm 18yrs old, I have a beautiful 17month old son called L. It wasn't easy getting where I am today.

When i found out i was pregnant I was 16, still in school just about to take my GCSE's. I was with L's  father for about 4months and despite being on the pill I fell pregnant. He promised me he would be there for me, but when I was due for my 20wk scan I went to his house for him to come with me only for his mum to tell me that he had moved in with his sister about 20miles from where I lived and he didnt want to know. I was devastated. My mum as you can imagine was disappointed as she told me I had the rest of my life ahead of me and being a mother let alone a single mother was the hardest thing in the world. I know what she meant now!! She came round in the end, and now loves L more the words! She has a small house and there wasnt enough room for me and her and her partner and the new baby! So I moved into a flat in the mother and baby unit when I was 28wks pregnant. I made new friends quickly as they were in the same situation. I met someone else called A, at first he seemed caring and was always concerned if i felt a niggle. After getting to know A for a while I asked him to move in because he was having troubles at home. He had been ran over and seriously damaged his leg the year before and was awaiting a large amount of compensation. I went into labour the day after my dad's memorial, 13/12/08, I had to have an emergency c-section as he was breech and his oxygen supply was running low. After half an hour in theatre I gave birth to a beautiful healthy boy weighing just 5lbs 10oz, I cried when I seen him, he was perfect, I was overwhelmed with love and pride, its true that you never know love truely until you have a child. I moved back in with my mum for support in the first month, then I went back to the flat with A. L was in a routine from being 6wks old, and is still in it now. He was a very good baby, never got poorly, and was always smiling, he hardly ever cried. In March 09, A's compensation came through and I never seen him again, I felt silly for trusting him and bringing him into mine and L lives. I had realised that I had to focus on L and no one else, he was my number 1 priority 24/7. In July 09, a new girl moved into the flats who I didn't get on with at all, she made my life hell so I moved back in with my mum. I loved being back home, my mum was such a help and low and behold, L started crawling at 8months. I was overjoyed, my little baby was getting a big boy! On a night out I met a man called C, he was older than me, I was 17, he was 22. We got talking straight away and I told him about L, he completely accepted it and told me he wanted to be with me, and aslong as I didnt have 10 more stowed away somewhere then it was completely fine. I decided to take this one slow after last time. I slowly introduced him to L who was 7months old at the time, he seemed to love C! Still we took things slow, went on dates and days out. In September 09, I got a house of a local authority, it was in a quiet cul-de-sac and had a big front garden for L. We decorated L bedroom in 'In The Night Garden' theme, as that is his favourite show, he sits glued to it and doesnt move while it's on. Macca Pacca is his favourite! Thats his nickname now, because Macca Pacca is smaller than the rest of the characters and L is still tiny for his age lol. I asked the health visitor about it and she said hes fine, hes all in proportion with is all we look for. Just before his 1st birthday he took his first steps, I got so emotional! He gradually got sturdier on his feet, and before long was very quick! For his 1st birthday, we took him to the wacky warehouse, a sort of soft play area with balls and slides and obsticals, he had so much fun playing in the ball pool, and going down the slide on mine and C's knees. It was the perfect day! L has now started to talk, he says mama, and dada (which C doesnt mind at all, he just takes it all in his stride). He says Ya for Yeah, and shakes his head for no. When we go to my mum's he makes a clicking noise with his tongue when he wants the dog, he loves to play with the dog! He even falls asleep in Blue's bed! He loves to play football, and i have to say, is a good little dribbler! He loves playing with C the most, its always Dada, with the ball in his hands lol. He preferres cuddles off me.

Well thats it really, Ive went on for long enough. I hope you feel you have gotten to know me a bit better and I look forward from hearing from you. x 

Lucas first born

Posted on: May 20, 2010 - 11:21am
Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hello and thank you for sharing your story, you certainly sound like a very proud Mum. I have replied to you on the other thread about college but now I know more about you I will amend that reply as your information will allow me to be more helpful.

I am Louise and one of the Moderators of this board, together with Anna. There's lots of support and chat. Others will be along to say hello to you soon.

Are you enjoying the sunshine?

Posted on: May 20, 2010 - 12:47pm
kath 18

Of course! L loves to be outside playing, he likes to push his pushchair around with him lol

Posted on: May 20, 2010 - 12:50pm
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

Hi Kath

Great to see you here.  L sounds brilliant!

Looking forward to 'chatting'.

Posted on: May 20, 2010 - 3:29pm
hazeleyes
DoppleMe

Hi Kath, welcome to One Space. I loved reading your first post, your little boy sounds adorable :) I am so pleased that even though it must have been a shock for your Mum, she has supported you all the way. I'm assuming your son doesn't see his father? What about the paternal grandparents?

I look forward to chatting. Have a lovely day

Take care

Alison

x

Posted on: May 21, 2010 - 5:52am
Anna
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi kath_18

Welcome aboard, thanks for telling your story.  I think you have a writers flair!  You are very engaging.

What a brilliant job you have done with your baby.  I think there is so much pressure on young mums to be a good mum, that we tend to work even harder at it.

I have taken the names out of your post and just left initials, just to keep you safe and other people anonymous.

I have so many questions! Did C move in with you? How is it going with him? Does your mum like C?  How much did A get?!

In another post you say you are wanting to get away from home and study, is everything going ok at home??

Posted on: May 21, 2010 - 9:36am