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Moonwolf

Hello! I'm a single mother to a six year old child. It's been jsut us two from the beginning and it gets very hard sometimes. We moved to a new area almost two years ago and have made some new friends through the school my daughter goes to but the day to day struggle and the loneliness felt by single parents are all in the background in the "deal with later" pile. I can't drive as i am disabled so this adds to the isolation I feel. Having said that, it's not all doom and gloom! My daughter is a joy to me, the most precious person in my life and we get on really well. I just worry that she is growing up too fast as a result of our circumstances. She certainly has more self confidence than I have! :)

Posted on: November 29, 2009 - 11:08pm

Louise

Parenting specialist

Hello Moonwolf

Firstly welcome to One Space! Hope that you will soon feel "at home" looking at the threads and joining in where the fancy takes you.

I think the wondering about children growing up too quickly is a common one to many parents, whether single or not, these days. It's great that your daughter is showing confidence :D

You made me smile talking about the "deal with it later" pile: how often do we as parents put many of our needs and wants in that pile? You know what? by joining One Space you have taken a step in dealing with that, it's difficult to move to a new area and I think you have done really well to settle and make some new friends

Look forward to gettitng to know you more

Posted on: November 30, 2009 - 8:28am

Anna

Parenting specialist

Hi Moonwolf

Welcome to One Space, thanks for introducing yourself.

From reading your post I think you have great confidence and your daughter gets it from you, but you just don't recognise it. 8-) I think it takes huge confidence to move to a new area and endeavour to make new friends, so well done you.

Single parenthood can feel like an up hill struggle, I hope that One Space will support you through that, there are usually people on here day and night!

I am glad to read that you have a special relationship with your daughter, I understand you worrying about her growing up too fast because of her circumstances, but I actually think it means they just become more screwed on adults! It sounds as if you have done a grand job of raising her.

Has she found it easy to make friends locally?

Posted on: November 30, 2009 - 10:07am

sparklinglime

Hi Moonwolf

I've got four children. My eldest boy will be 18 on Saturday :o , my daughter is 15, another son is 13 (14 in January, and he has special needs) and my youngest is 10. We've been on our own now for five and a half years.

Posted on: November 30, 2009 - 5:53pm

Claire-Louise

Hi Moonwolf
Welcome to Onespace! I hope you find some friendship here as it is full of very caring, sympathetic people who share quite similar issues. Feel free to look around the different topics and join in wherever you want. Also start any new topics as well as we always welcome something new to get stuck in to.
It is lovely to hear your comments about your relationship with your daughter and it is a real testimonial to you that she is growing into such a lovely individual and so full of confidence.
Do you have any family in the area you have moved into? Do you have contact with family members?
It is not easy making new friends and it gets more difficult the older we get so well done for haning made some friends through your daughter's school.
As Anna and Louise have said there are people on this site day and night so you should always be able to hook up with someone here which should help.
Do you work? If not then you could consider some voluntary work as that is another good way to meet people who are interested in similar things as you.
keep in touch
Cheers C-L

Posted on: December 1, 2009 - 3:25pm