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marieslater178

Hi there all my name is marie am 32 with 2 boys and a single mum, would love to talk and meet local people in chesterfield thank for reading this xx marie

Posted on: May 15, 2010 - 9:58pm

Louise

Parenting specialist

Hello marieslater

it is good to see you here. Welcome! I hope you will join in and we can get to know you better. How old are your boys?

We have members from all over the country and there is a lot of online support and information here. How long have you been a single parent?

Posted on: May 16, 2010 - 8:46am

hazeleyes

Hi marieslater, welcome to One Space. Like Louise I hope you join in with us. It is a tremendous group, with (if you need it) lots of support, and also friendly banter. The men and women here are great, and will give you a warm welcome too.

I have a 7 year old and have been on my own since the pregnancy. I love every minute of single parenthood, but know it's very hard on some others. How old are your boys? Do you have much support from family or friends?

Look forward to chatting

Take care

Alison

Posted on: May 16, 2010 - 10:50am

sparklinglime

Hello from me too!

Hope the sun is shining where you are, and you're having a good weekend.

Posted on: May 16, 2010 - 1:44pm

Anna

Parenting specialist

Welcome to One Space marieslater178!

Nice to meet you. Have a look in our Your Local Support and Events and see what is going on in your area.

How long have you been single mum?

Posted on: May 17, 2010 - 4:15pm

marieslater178

Thank you for replying, sorry, i just feel so alone i hate my own company, me and my husband have been split up 15months now, but things have got better with him, the new problem is that i met someone in the new year, and he as left now he as never had kids so he doesn't know how to cope with them, we had just come back from holiday then he decided that he didn't want to carry we are still in touch we are both finding it hard as we both love each other so much, how long do i wait for him to decide if he wants to come back or not all my family say that he's not for me which deosn't help they just saying there is more fish in the sea, yes there might be but when you dont go anywhere how you supposed to meet them, sorry for the long winge xx marie

Posted on: May 18, 2010 - 4:07pm

Louise

Parenting specialist

Hello marieslater

It's fine to have a bit of a whinge!

It's difficult, isn't it when family and friends come out with all these cliches like "plenty more fish in the sea" when a. you miss your ex-partner like mad and b. it's alright for them because they're sorted.

I guess my take on it is that now you and the children come as a package and, difficult though it is, any partner you now have will have to understand that and at least like and care for your children, even if he does not love them as his own.

As for meeting someone, yes it can be hard. it sounds as if you need some time out to heal right now, and to just enjoy your children and be happy within yourself before you start looking for another partner. We have been reading a book on here called "Are you the one for me?" by Barbara de Angelis (available online from amazon etc) and if you are a self-help book kind of person (I know not everyone is) then it is very useful for working out what you want in a relationship and why you have had the partners you have had in the past.

You mention that things are calmer now with your ex-husband. Does he see the children?

Posted on: May 19, 2010 - 7:37am

Pia

Hi Marie,

I fully understand how you feel and I have the same issue... Curently i am pregnant and my ex decided this was too much for him (It wasnt planned) and now he just wants to be friends and nothing more and I miss him and what we had so much and I just cant seem to get myself out of this depressed state and the way i feel i dont want anyone else but him right now and I guess you feel the same right?

Pia x

Posted on: May 19, 2010 - 2:45pm