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News re Child Maintenance Payments

Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hello everyone

You may have heard on the news about the Child Support Agency being scrapped. That is not QUITE true. What is changing is that from October 2008, newly separating couples will be encouraged to make their own private agreement and the new-style CSA will only be involved if this is not possible. Now, I can hear you all shouting from here "NO WAY would the other parent make or stick to a private agreement!" and so I thought I would put up a useful website which outlines the changes in a clear and helpful way. Go to http://www.cmoptions.org for more information

Louise

Posted on: August 5, 2008 - 7:01am
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jlt206

Hi guys,
I have a seven year old girl and a two year old daughter both different fathers and once again I am a single parent. Heres some encouragement - (csa maintenence arrangements). The father of my 7 year old has been paying maintenence at a rate we agreed together for the past 7 years and has never missed a payment - it can be done! when we seperated it was a nightmare all guns blazing however I stopped shouting even though I really wanted to carry on and once I did he did after a few weeks. We talked only when we had to and only about one subject our daughter, we arranged maintenence payments and also contact time too. We had to bash it out over several conversations to agree but we did it!!!!!!! we have raised the amount when needed and dropped the amount when not and it has worked, now we aren't exactly friends but we can discuss things lots better and as long as they are good dads they will want whats best.
now the father of my two year old is following suit and pays each week without fail, and we're in the middle of a messy divorce.
I think if you can hold back the anger it can be done x :)

Posted on: December 14, 2008 - 10:30pm
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Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

That's great news and very encouraging to hear that it has worked for you. I am interested that you feel that once YOU contained your anger and stronger feelings then this promoted a better co-operation.I know this may not work for everyone but it is certainly worth a try!

Louise :)

Posted on: December 15, 2008 - 1:34pm
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savannah

i have the same situation as jls206, my ex pays my maintanance every wk without fail, took us time to get there but we are there now, we agreed a payment and visitation before it all went with solicitors and now even tho we dont have any contact with each other besides about our children our arrangement is working, it can be done it mite just be a struggle to get it going but keep going

Posted on: October 13, 2009 - 7:08pm
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Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

That's great to hear, savannah! :D

Posted on: October 20, 2009 - 7:06pm
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homeedmum

Hi

What happens if you don't want any money from the ex?  I've heard that if you are on benefit you have to and that scares me.  I was in a very abusive marriage and the boys and I never want to set eyes on that man ever again.  I am on income support and disability benefit at the moment, hoping to start work again maybe next year.  I certainly don't want any contact with or money from him.  We are moving and not telling him our new address - the solicitor said we don't have to, we've had no contact with him for about a year.

 

xx

Posted on: October 25, 2010 - 4:19pm
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sparklinglime
DoppleMe

Hi

In circumstances such as yours you can refuse to give the information and explain why.

Posted on: October 25, 2010 - 4:35pm
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Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Yes, sparkling is right, you don't have to do this in a situation such as yours.

Posted on: October 25, 2010 - 5:16pm
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homeedmum

Thank you so much, that is so reasurring.

 

xx

Posted on: October 26, 2010 - 10:02am
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