Hi mousie
I am so sorry this is happening, it is so scary. The same happened with my child and I am going to pass on the information which helped him at the time and hope it works for you too.
The episodes sound like "night frights" rather than nightmares. The child will open its eyes but cry and cry and seem in another world. I was told it is due to electrical patterns in the brain(!) Try to think about when she has them, ie is it the same time every night, has she been alseep about the same length of time? My son got them when he had been asleep just over an hour. I was therefore told to wake him when he had been asleep about 50 minutes ie about 15 mins before he would be having a night fright. I just had to turn him over, speak to him and resettle him, just enough to bring him back to consciousness momentarily. You have to do this every night for a week and the frights disappear. My boy's came back a few times but I did the same treatment for a week each time and it worked.
If your daughter's episodes are random, try the "disturbing" before you go to bed yourself, if they usually happen later in the night. It is probably, as Pansy says, to do with starting school and generally being over-tired
Hope this helps :)
Hi Mousie
The poor little thing. I know she doesn't remember anything, but it must be distressing for you to watch. Hopefully if you try out what Louise has suggested, it might sort it out. It could very well be to do with starting school. If she did it when your ex left, and now since starting school, its like an anxiety thing.
I hope you have a better night tonight.
Take care
Alison
x :)
Hi mousie, bad luck, I bet you feel exhausted with the worry. I think that you have already answered your query as to why she does it - anxiety at new school and her new environment and she is probably exhausted with all the new things she is learning, poor lamb. You mentioned earlier that she is only just 4, so she is taking an awful lot on. It might be worth talking to her teacher, just so that they keep an eye on her, to ensure that she is not getting overwhelmed with the whole experience of lots of children, rules, education and familiarisation of the school.
Here is some information I found on the web:
http://www.babycentre.co.uk/toddler/sleep/nightterrors/
and also this http://www.childrenfirst.nhs.uk/families/az_child_health/n/nightmares_night-terrors.html
Interestingly there is not much known about night terrors and Louise's suggestion of waking her up before they start, seems to be what the other sites say. Although is discrepancy between different site whether it happens within 1 hour of sleep or 2. But you know your daughter. I hope you find the information useful.
Hi Mousie
How is your daughter doing? I hope things are settling down for you both.
Let us know how things are going
Take care
Alison
x :)
Bless her little cotton socks, it is awful, isn't it when all we want to do is to make things right for them? Hope she is soon feeling better, and you too, mousie
Loads of hugs mousie.
Hi Mousie
Hopefully the whole thing might settle down soon. Her little life was turned upside down, with regards to your ex, and then she has to start school, (at such a young age too). I saw lots of kids settle into school, then realised this was for keeps, and cried everyday. It will get better, just keep doing what you're doing. Reassuring her about certain things and reassuring her that you will be there to pick her up from school. My heart goes out to her. Sending you both hugs.
Take care
Alison
x :)
Poor little thing, she must be feeling exhausted. Can you get her to bed earlier?
Sounds like you have a good Dr there, with your reassurance and the strength of your relationship, I am sure she will come through this soon.
Look after yourself.
Hi Mousie
Just wondering how your little girl is doing. At school and at night time? Hopefully, things are settling down for her with the night terrors. How are things generally with you? Have a lovely weekend. The end of summer, I think. It is very dull and windy here. I just loathe this time of year now.
What I need to look around for is a water bottle that I can strap around me under my coat. That would be pure heaven for me. :lol: :lol: Also, have to invest in a new brolly, have heard it's going to be a wet winter. :x
Take care Mousie
Alison
x :)
Hi Mousie
Ahhhhhhhh bless her. It will get better for her of course, but all the same it is so upsetting. With my son, with regards to birthday cards, xmas cards, and pressies etc, when he was younger, I would give my neighbour some money, and she would choose something. She would then pass it on to him, and ask him for a penny (so he thought he was paying). For the last two years, I have taken him to the shop, and just stood where I could see him, but couldn't see what he was getting. I gave him a price of say 1.99, and he would study everything.
Two years ago at xmas, I took him into a cheapy shop, gave him the value, and stood watching. To my horror I saw him picking up a blinking paintbrush!!!!!!
She will be fine Mousie. (when is your birthday)?
Take care
Alison
x :)
Hi all
I used to, and actually still do, write my birthday up on the kitchen calendar, for all to see!!!
I also had the discussion years ago with my daughter about how much more I love cards that have been hand made rather than shop bought, because when she was small I didn't want my money wasted on a piece of paper.
Well to this day, my daughter still makes my cards and the older she has got the more creative the cards have been (She's 14 now), although I have to admit for my birthday this year, rather than use some of her money she made me my present too!! Which again was very sweet, a friendship bracelet, a quality street wrapped up and a Fimo scene with lots of little jelly baby looking characters! I just kinda felt she could have got me some bubble bath now she is older, but as she said to my brother, my mum loves it when I make her stuff!! :? :lol: :lol:
Great to hear that you have your head down and decorating mousie, how is it coming along??
Oh Anna
That is sooooo sweet. You might have been shocked, but you still loved it. That surely has got to be much better than the paint brush my son picked out for me :lol: :lol:
Hope you're having a good week so far. My son is off to the history museum on Friday with the school. I have never minded paying for the trips, (not that expensive at his age), but I have to say I did ask if he really wanted to go AGAIN! He went with the school in Reception two years ago, last year I took him, and now AGAIN. This time, they are concentrating on the dinosaurs, and he loves them, so I guess I couldn't say no.
This year for the panto, they are being taken to see Cinderella. He insists he is not going because none of the other boys are, because it is a girls thing. No matter what I said about it, he was adamant he wasn't going, so I played along with it, and told him that was ok because the money would come in handy for something else. That changed his mind, so of course he is going to it now.
kids!!!!!
Take care
Alison
x :)
Ahaa! I like your tactics alisoncam!! Clever.
I hope he has a fantastic time at the museum, 2 years ago is quite a long time for a little chap like him and it IS dinosaurs, how could you even question him??!!! :o
Hi mousie,
sounds like she must be anxious about something, maybe it is to do with school as she has recently started!
Is so hard going to school at such a young age, maybe talk to her teachers & get them to observe her at school?
very hard to figure it all out at this age, but I would hazard a guess it's to do with school, but then I don't think much of schools.
Hope she is better soon & you work out what's wrong.
Pansy