this possibly isn't for 'just for fun'....
But I'm afraid it made me smile!
The children haven't done anything about fathter's day. The first three years, I would suggest he had them for tea - which is would. Figured last year as he was living with The Gittess, that it was no longer my problem. (He did one mother's day, the third year after I left as my daughter made him - he never organised a birthday (he always had presents, cards, cake and candles 8-) ) or Christmas for the children for me.
:roll: I'm moidering, aren't I....
Anyway, suggested they texted their father - they did (no response). Offered to take them and their pocket money (from Granddad) shopping and so they could take it to their father.
No. Not this time was the reply...
:D
I'm horrid, I'm horrid, I'm horrid....
Did have a text during the week (no, not to see the children 8-) ) but to say thank you for the card we sent The Gitess. I added 'and me' in teeny weeny writing...
Hi sparklinglime
:lol: You are naughty!! :lol:
No, I think it is only fair that after all these years you get to see that your children think that YOU are the FAB parent! And worthy of all their love!! Now that's naughty of me. What I am trying to say is that you have spent years trying to make them see that both you and your ex love them and you've wanted them to feel shared by both of you. But reality has won over, so you don't need to keep covering your ex's back.
Hooray - celebrate some more!!!
:D
I have to admit to having had a curly wurly. I have been weighed this morning and have lost some - GP is now sending me for an X-ray to see what the problem is with my leg - he still thinks it's a ligament.
I figured having lost a bit of weight a curly wurly was a good way to celebrate. :roll:
Back to the slimfast now...
Hhhmmmm, I wonder if slimfast would see it the same way, oooh I have lost some weight, must eat chocolate and celebrate!!
Only kidding, we have to treat ourselves once in a while and anyway a curly wurly has lots of holes in it!!
Hhhmmmm, I wonder if slimfast would see it the same way, oooh I have lost some weight, must eat chocolate and celebrate!!
Only kidding, we have to treat ourselves once in a while and anyway a curly wurly has lots of holes init!! [/ quote]
Exactly... 8-) :D
I'll be good again now, honest :)
Have I missed a post? What is going on with your leg sparklinglime? Is it causing you grief? :shock:
My left leg has been 'locking' since about February half term. It happens when I stand up - and the first time it happened was when I was doing sitting to standing exercises given to me by a physio after I could hardly walk at all after stress.
It's agony, and if it happens when I'm out the house - like when I want to go shopping and I find I can't get out the car, I'm having a panic attack.
I am horrendously over weight, had 'officially' lost over three and a half stone after I started physio - which ended roughly two years ago (just after my best friend died, which is why I have an idea of when).
GP weighed me and I had put on 10lbs - which I blame for not being active as I've sort of stopped going out, and stopped reading with the school because I get so embarrased when it does lock. I actually eat healthily, but I'm not believed. They gave me all sorts of blood tests to catch me out :D which came back showing I'm actually very healthy (which I hope is a comfort of some sort to the children). I went there hoping for either some very strong painkillers, or, as I think most of this is in my head (was before - my body's reaction to adrenalin), I hoped he'd refer me to a psychiatrist.
What ever, I need a major sorting. Being fat means that you're told that they understand how frustrating it must be.
Sorry, that's a moan. But it makes me cry. When you cry when you're my size you just look foolish!!
Other than that I'm ok! :)
oh you poor thing :( How worrying that it might lock without warning. No wonder you can feel panicky. Well done for managing your exam, then!!!!!! Hope they get a sensible answer for you soon.
Why do doctors put everything down to weight or age? I do declare that if I got a spot on my nose, I would be told well it is not surprising, you are middle aged and overweight :x
Quite :(
Oh bad luck sparkling, you mentioned in another post that you have been having panic attacks recently, do you know why they are suddenly re-occurring? Do you think it is because of the locking limb situation? :?:
I feel the panic attack's are down to the leg locking. I panic as I feel I should go shopping but can't get out the car and then feel a prat. I had one as I had to get from the car down to the house (car is at the top of the estate, can't park by the house) as I had frozen food to get in the freezer. I don't seem to be able to do steps either when it locks, and I have a few steps to come down - no hand rail (no problem usually). Luckily there are rails for the steps to my house.
Ages since I had the last panic attack - that was buying stuff for my youngest's birthday after having to work, and running late!
I just feel so silly after.
Yes it sounds as if the panics are that...and I am not surprised! I don't spose it would help much going shopping with a friend as you would still have the steps to negotiate...but at least the panics might be less?
BIG HUG
Yes it sounds as if the panics are that...and I am not surprised! I don't spose it would help much going shopping with a friend as you would still have the steps to negotiate...but at least the panics might be less?
BIG HUG
My children are being brilliant. God I feel sorry for them being lumbered with me.
My eldest will come if we're desperate for something, such as milk, and he'll go and get it. My daughter will always wait to see if I can walk ok from the car before she goes down to the house. If I can't we walk down arm in arm.
It breaks my heart that I do this to them.
Well you can't help it!!!! I do know that it must be extremely annoying, frustrating and scary though. One morning about 3 years ago I woke up and my left leg would not bend (or move, really) I had to hop to get to the loo and once I didn't make it :oops: The doc came and it was a massive muscle spasm round my hip, was better in a couple of days after a cocktail of tablets, and they never knew what caused it. I can still remember how dreadful and helpless I felt so my heart goes out to you, sparkling. Just try and do what you can. When is the X ray?
BTW I phoned NHS Direct when it happened and they told me I had a kidney infection :?
That must have been awful.
I think that's the awful thing too when you are a lone-parent - you HAVE to do it!
I should get a letter or a phone call about an X-ray. There's a hospital in Holyhead, where you can get in quicker, so it shouldn't be too long. It's easy to park too, unlike the big hospital in Bangor where it seems like you're parking miles away from the place and then miles of corridor! Which means I might be less tense!
Hiya, I know that this is easy for me to say, but you have dealt with so much in the last decade, is it possible to just add this to the list?
What I mean is, you have taken everything in your stride (no pun intended :shock:) if your leg does lock, you will find help, a supportive stranger, the doctor is only a phone call away. You CAN deal with it. I suppose I want to say even if the worst happens you will find a way through and thinking of it that way, perhaps the panic might lessen? I may be being naive here, I hate panic attacks and I hate the idea of anyone else having them, its all about feeling in control and although you don't know when this is going to happen next, recognising that it isn't fatal and you will get help, could ease the worry?
I also want to say, your children think the world of you and although they may moan, they want to help you any which way they can, so don't feel guilty. I do understand the guilt factor, but feeling guilty doesn't help anyone and you can't do anything to change it.
I feel as if I have my school ma'am cloak on, I don't want to be harsh or cruel or neglectful of your feelings, I just want you to know you have done a mighty fine job with your lot and I want you to give yourself a break. :)
HAS YOUR LIME ARRIVED YET??
Hiya, I know that this is easy for me to say, but you have dealt with so much in the last decade, is it possible to just add this to the list?
What I mean is, you have taken everything in your stride (no pun intended :shock:) if your leg does lock, you will find help, a supportive stranger, the doctor is only a phone call away. You CAN deal with it. I suppose I want to say even if the worst happens you will find a way through and thinking of it that way, perhaps the panic might lessen? I may be being naive here, I hate panic attacks and I hate the idea of anyone else having them, its all about feeling in control and although you don't know when this is going to happen next, recognising that it isn't fatal and you will get help, could ease the worry?
I also want to say, your children think the world of you and although they may moan, they want to help you any which way they can, so don't feel guilty. I do understand the guilt factor, but feeling guilty doesn't help anyone and you can't do anything to change it.
I feel as if I have my school ma'am cloak on, I don't want to be harsh or cruel or neglectful of your feelings, I just want you to know you have done a mighty fine job with your lot and I want you to give yourself a break. :)
HAS YOUR LIME ARRIVED YET??
Thank you.
It's good to have a talking too.
My lime didn't arrive - out of stock :cry: I have sparkling water though.
A packet of giant chocolate buttons arrived though from a friend wanting to celebrate the end of my exam -I took a Xenical and had some!! :D I shouldn't. But I will be good the rest of the day. I'll dish the rest out between the children!
I find it very difficult to ask for help.
I'm wondering how others are over this.
If you are a person who helps and nurtures others (do you recognise yourself in this, sparkling???????? :roll: ) then yes it is hard to ask for help, cos it is almost as if you are casting yourself in another role when people (friends/kids) have come to EXPECT you to be strong. But....no-one can be strong all the time and to be honest I think it does people who depend on us (yes, even our kids!) the world of good to see that we are human too, and have feelings, and sometimes need support.
I agree with Anna, you CAN do it. But don't be afraid to lean on people a while.
It's hard to know who to ask, as everyone is so busy.
But I'll try.
I live in hope that when I get up in the morning that it will be better. :D I do have an optimistic side to me. Having said that, just stepping over the door frame to the back garden made my leg lock...
:( :( :(
How are you this morning?
I'm fine thank you. :D
Although no miracle has occured with the silly leg 8-)
I have adjusted eldest's crutches that we have after he dislocated his knee (they don't take them back anymore) as while I might look a prat, there are still things that I do have to do :roll:
Been lifting some hand weights to Take That and 'The Garden' this morning. It might strengthen my back. I used to weight train when I swam for North Wales - so no reason why I can't now, even if it's just upper body for now.
Could it be that the talking to I needed as made me feel better?
Thank you. :)
Good for you, having a spare pair of crutches lying around is definitely a safe guard and hopefully makes you feel a little better with the 'what if...?' scenario.
Also good for you to do some weights, wish I could get round to it, although I have taken the plunge and promised to take my daughter swimming tonight, wish me luck, last time a toddler was sick inthe pool and we were in and out in minutes! :?
Now my knee is wonky. I hurt my knees in a crash with my dad back in 1980. :o Doesn't feel good at all, so smothered it in ibuprofen gel.
Fingers crossed.
I give up!
Oh yes.
Ex texted to say he'll take the children to see Transformers tomorrow. I'm so pleased as I so wanted to take them, but with silly leg didn't have the courage too. I'm so glad they get to see it.
Oh how scary for you, sparkling :( , it is awful when bits of us seem to go wrong and so frustrating not to control that.......
Hope your knee is a bit easier this morning after a rest in bed?
Hobbling around on my eldest's crutches. Mother-in-law called in and didn't get a cup of coffee as I couldn't really get the kettle on - she would have made one herself has she been thirsty :D She was very encouraging and pointing out that I am doing all I can do about it now.
Nice to have a chat.
Had permission to get the money back from the subs - hurrah - I have all the receipts. Just need to knock off my lots subs now - probably I'll still owe them money! The joy of having four children in Scouts.
Ex is being so nice - first time for at least two years - he's taking the children to see Transformers II. I may have said this already, but I am so pleased! I'll give them money for sweets (mother-in-law says not, but I know how expensive it is just to get into the cinema, and I'm not completely mean... Just very mean...).
My friend has had a dear dog put to sleep this morning. The dog shared her birthday with my 13 year old - who is so very sad (he's home today after he fell of his bike the other day - his knee!! Left one, I think, just like me!).
I'm trying to stay calm. I'm trying very hard to stay calm.
Ooh that all sounds very awkward, not to say painful. It's only when we have an injury or incapacity that we realise how much we use the said arm/leg/whatever. I remember the feeling of utter terror I had when I had that hip spasm I mentioned to you.
Glad the kids will get their cinema trip (and glad you will get a bit of a break) It's also good that your Scout receipts were accepted :)
HE BOUGHT THEM SWEETS TOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'VE HAD MY MONEY BACK FROM THE CHILDREN ***faint, bang, clatter*** :D
The children enjoyed the evening.
Now I'm suspicious - what's he up to? He's not taken them out for two years AND buys them sweets??!! :?
I'd have thought the CSA, umm, adjusting his weekly payment 8-) might have made thing more difficult.
Ah well. The children tell me its a brilliant film and worth buying the DVD. :)
Good grief! :o Don't ask why, just enjoy it while it lasts. You never know, he might have realised what a decent gesture you made in sending that Get well card?
That sort of had crossed my mind.
Funny but my mother-in-law phoned (sorry, ex-step-mother-in-law...) and even said she wondered what he was up to with the sweets!!
Children have been fine today though - their behaviour changes if something is 'going on'...
Rabbit's been hopping in and out all day, which is lovely.
I agree with Louise, no questions, just accept!
If he is up to something then you will know about it soon enough, perhaps he has been feeling it with his girlfriend visiting hospital?
Someone reckons it could be because I sent the card. I've only ever been nice to her (I've mastered the art of having a good chat to her while my back is towards the ex :D He married this one - third time lucky, as my daughter said :lol: ). Heck, you can't help but feel sorry for her 8-)
I really am glad he took them. They were dying to see the film, and knew our budget couldn't spread to it.
Good for you! I hope so much that this means he is going to be "there" for them a bit more now
Oh well sparkling, you can only do what you can do. ;) In the end, as we have said before, the kids make up their own minds. I don't blame you ONE JOT for that little :lol: you felt!
My eldest dropped in to see his dad yesterday but only for a few mins, the youngest hgad grudgingly signed a card when forced to by his brother but he wouldn't go and visit. I left it up to them and said it was fine either way (mine are older).