Hi Gemma
I do think you need some legal advice now. Go to http://www.communitylegaladvice.org.uk/en/directory/directorysearch.jsp and find a local adviser. many give the first 30 minutes free, but chekc when you book. Are you on Income Support? if so, take some proof and you will porbably be entitels to Legal Aid unless you have a load of property equity. the solicitor will be able to tell you whether you can get an injunction that stops him doinng this sort of thing. And yes, you need to contact the CSA to start an application. See http://www.csa.gov.uk/
Sorry you are having to face all this :( Be brave, be strong, be YOU!!!
Oh that's awful. Paula's right: have a good think about PINs and Internet passwords etc, she has had to change hers. I expect the reason he didn't take any of the bigger things was lack of adequate transport. Do phone a solicitor tomorrow. In the meantime try not to get too down about what has happened: all that matters really is that you and the children are safe :)
I'm sulking.
Plans to go out tomorrow - because its child benefit day - for my birthday meal. We won't see the Git says eldest (well, he doesn't call them that, you appreciate, I hope), so we can go.
Git texts, wanting to see them 6 - 8pm. That's the end of the birthday meal plans.
Out Wednesday, Cubs and Scouts Thursday, Son working on Friday and Saturday.
Oh well.
He'll always be there.
Mother-in-law here on Saturday commenting on how she's surprised he hasn't moved from where they live. Didn't like to point out that he's waiting for his father to die so he can move in there...
I'm sulking. And crying. Neither of which helps...
And my leg's locked loads this weekend and today.
Thank you sy...
you could text her and say no, that you have purchased them and they are yours.
She could take the bed, but no more.
The children need beds and places to sit, so no van.
Wonder if the police can help here?
you could text her and say no, that you have purchased them and they are yours.
She could take the bed, but no more.
The children need beds and places to sit, so no van.
Wonder if the police can help here?
I honestly don't know what your "rights" are here, SY, but I would have thought changing BOTH locks was sensible and then sending her a message saying that there is very little left of hers but you will sort it out.
Sparkling, that is sooooooo annoying :evil: AAAAAGH!
Will be interesting to see her reply.
You are strong. You don't realise how strong you are...
Nah... Ex never did either. I just don't bother now.
Well good morning! And I welcome myself to the Rant Room!!
I think it is great that there is a place where you can tell your ex everything that you ever wanted without any retaliation! Or rant about anything actually.
Just one point SPARKLINGLIME, you mention that you wonder if you should be on this site. May I point out that we are here for anyone who is parenting alone. The point being that it is a difficult time to go through at the break up, but it doesn't end there and your rant about the day absolutely explains what we here at One Space and Single Parent Action Network are all about. Parenting alone is for the long haul and there is so much support needed on so many different levels, there are the extreme situations, but also coping with every day things alone can be the toughest journey. So don't you dare think you are not worthy, you are the ultimate! You know that there are highs and lows and you have climbed many mountains, have raised caring, decent children, but it is not a breeze and rarely will be.
Ooh that turned into a bit of a rant, must be the atmosphere in this room!! I am just so passionate about people believing in themselves whilst doing the most difficult job in the world often with very little support. I think you are great :D :D
Hi,
Louise. Not much left here that you bought. Make a list of what remains and send it to me. I'll bring what I can that you bought within reason at next contact. Do not remove anything from my home without my permission. It would be theft and I would prosecute. If I have misinterpreted message let me know. Thanks Simon
Apparently, Louise if furious about my text. I should text her to be clearer about her messages to reduce misunderstanding. If she furious about this, ask her how she'd be if I abduct children from school? It's what she did.
sy
She is? Oh dear, that is a shame, isn't it :shock: :? :roll: 8-)
And quite! I think your text was reasonable sy.
I am glad that you took control of the situation, Sadsy. However "furious" she is!
Purplepeg, can you recognise all the achievements that you are making??
I find writing stuff down helps.
Loads of hugs for you and for your children
Hello purplepeg
How infuriating that he messed you all around like that :x and how wonderful that the kids had a great weekend anyway! and you enjoyed the BBQ too.
As you say, see what next Saturday brings ;)
Glad the children were ok peg. It's the fall out I used to find hard to deal with.
Hi
Good to have a rant though eh. Your ex isn't bothered and nor your current boyfriend? That is really sad. Have you been with current boyfriend long? You are looking for support and he not giving it. I'm not sure what to suggest, because I'm not in your situation. I can only say what I would do. If I was you, and depending on how long I had been involved with new fella, I would expect support of some sort. If not, I would go it alone, because the child is more important. You can do it, I know it is hard, but the child relies on you.
Sorry, not been more help, but am sure others can help more.
Take care and lots of luck
Alison
x :)
Hello vickstick 34
Good to hear from you, even with a rant ! ;) Glad you feel a bit better today, I agree with what Bec says. A relationship is like a rowing boat, it is best if you pull together but if you feel you are working too hard, let go of the oars for a while and you will soon see whether he is prepared to row himself.
Good luck vickstick 34.
Loads of hugs too.
Sadsy
I think you talk a lot of sense, (for a fella) haha, only joking of course.
Actually, I do think you are right. It must be confusing, and agree it's best to ask for help, and say what it is exactly you want. Be upfront. Yep I go for that one. :)
Hope you having a good day.
Alison
x
Hi vickstick34
How are you doing today? Have you heard from this chap. It is important that you feel supported and there is no point supporting another person as well as your son. The more you are with someone, it is often harder to split up, if there is nothing glaringly obvious, so keep positive, as bec says, it could be easier on your own than stressing about new partner too.
Good point though sadsy, it is good to speak your truth and you never know how the other person will receive it.
Good Luck vickstick34. :)
Oh my god zane26,
what's been happening!
Call the police if you are being intimidated. To ensure no breach of the peace.
Make a statement anyway to Police, so the event has been recorded officially.
He can apply to a court if he wants to obtain shared possessions.
That is so scary, hope you are OK?
worried
sy