Hi there bb23, there are big changes going on in your life at the moment, so while you are off work, take this time to recover and look after yourself, you are bound to be feeling down as your whole world has turned upside down, but it’s ok, there is life after a breakup.
It sounds like SadieTwins has given you food for thought and you are a little bit surer of what action you want to take.
In our society the way that it is, single parents can’t win.
- If we work we don’t see enough of our kids, but we can provide for them financially.
- If we don’t work we can spend time raising our children, but we have no money and therefore need to rely on the state.
In both scenarios we are frowned upon by society!
Whether you choose to work or not to work is deeply personal so only you can weigh up the odds and decide what you want for your family.
Writing a list of pros and cons can help.
For further support visit http://www.oneparentfamilies.org.uk as they have an excellent website devoted to single parents and can give you lots of information on benefits & budgeting there is a free helpline too! 0800 018 5026
Also have a look at http://www.creditaction.org.uk/index.php?id=209 which has a free, easy to read money manual for single parents. It is stuffed with advice on dealing with the pressure of living on a low income, money saving ideas, managing debt etc. Also have a look at the personal money management info sheets, advertised on the same page, they look really helpful.
Good Luck and keep in touch.
:)
Hi Resh,
39 weeks does sound like a long time, have you tried http://www.oneparentfamilies.org.uk mentioned above, they can probably help you with your question further. Free helpline number: 0800 018 5026
Let us know what they say. :)
Great advice Harissa.
The responses to this discussion have been really supportive, keep in touch and let us know how things go Resh & bb23
Hi
Does anyone know how to get a job working from home. I'm thinking along the lines of data entry or something like that? I have been looking around on the net, but mostly you have to pay money to get started. (obviously can't do that)
Really would like some help here please.
Thanks
alison
x :)
Hi alisoncam, feeling pretty pleased with myself here, have you seen this?? http://www.workingmums.co.uk/mums/searchJobs/index.php?jobDetails%5Blocation%5D=Homeworking&
I don't know if it is any good, but please let me know!
Hi Anna
Thankyou for the link. I have scouted around, and maybe just maybe, i might be in luck. Anyway, i have e.mailed them my details.
Thankyou again, :) :) :)
Hi Anna
I've been checking and re checking this site out. I know it asks for money, but would you check it and tell me what you think please.
Think i've done that right!!!
Anything which asks for money up front is not good.
I would avoid it.
The only people making money from sites like these are the people you are sending your money to for what ever start up, info pack what ever it is they are asking for.
I googled them for you and found this about them in a forum..
100 % SCAM
The testimonials that all soumd like they were written by the same person. The FAQ and privacy statements change font and size several time, looks like a bad cut-n-paste job. Grammer, spelling and syntex are all 'off', not what native English speaker would write.
And the biggest red flag of all: the word "processing orders" in the testimonial section. That could mean re-shipping scam or data processing scam.
The website just seems like 100s of other vague-work-part-time-for-tons-of-money-sites. They may also just sell you a list of work-at-home-opportunity sites, email addresses and links. So, technically, that wouldn't be a scam, they will have sold you a list of worthless stuff.
Either way, I wouldn't give them a cent or a pound.
If you need to know anything ever.. google it and spend the time it takes to drink a coffee reading about it : )
Thanks bubblegum for finding that out.
I was looking at the site and I don't believe anything that says you can earn between £250-£750 per week. Maybe one or two people perhaps, otherwise we would all be doing it.
If it ever reads too good to be true...it probably is!
Hi Bubblegum
Thankyou. My cousin sent me the same thing you did :lol:
Might sound bit daft, but have no idea how to google. Help!!!!
Anna and Sadsy
Thanks for your input too. Really appreciate it all.
Take care
Alison
x :)
Hi all
Who needs jobs when we can predict the lottery numbers? Have just read that Darren Brown did last night, and he is going to tell all tomorrow night. Definately going to tune in to that, lol. :lol:
Have a good evening
Take care
Alison
x :)
Hi Mousie
I was thinking exactly the same thing. If he could do it, why hasn't he done it for himself? Also, the lottery would certainly come to a dead end. (I'm still going to watch it though)
How is your daughter doing? Is she tired after her first few days at school?
I know my son is definately back, as he comes home with all sorts. Yesterday, he told me he would give someone a 'knuckleduster'. I asked where he had heard that from, and lo and behold it was from a little girl!!!!!
I told him yesterday that I might go to college to become a teacher trainer, and he said, 'you can't do that because the helpers aren't allowed to sign our forms for school trips'. I told him that I would still be his mum and so could still sign forms, but he is adamant that the headteacher wouldn't allow it. I find it hilarious what goes on in their little minds.
:)
Hi mousie, I hope you are well, it seems ages since we spoke! I bet your daughter looks such a cutie! :)
Do you kow what work you want to go back into after January??
Hi bb23, I just joined this site aswell.... and its what I've been needing for a long time.... people in the same position as me.!!
Your dilema is not an easy one....but it will get better!! I've gone from being on the dole to doing 6 hours to doing 2 jobs part time for a few years... I had to give up my main admin job in Jan 08 as I was working through the school holidays and it was just too much for me.... after working through the holidays for 2 years I was totally burned out!! Sooo tired when I got home I could bearly speak with the children, let alone sit down and play a game or have some fun.... so I am very very glad 2 be doing only 1 day's work....
BUT.... i had to sign on again in Jan... and again last week.... which is a total nightmare..... Being on tax credit made life much easier... I was still only doing 30hours a week and taking and collecting the kids to and from school... My kids are the priority and money and debts can wait as far as I'm concerned...I have had to take out 2 big loans to keep from loosing my house!! At least on the dole you can get housing benefit and council tax benefit... The way I see it is that I have paid plenty of tax and am just getting back what I paid into the system for years and years!!!
I couldn't work full time so what you are doing is amazing!!! But at the end of the day you and your kids are worth more than money.... if your health and your relationship with the kids is deteriorating.... then I would suggest doing whats best for you and the children.... debts can come and go and its not nice... but being happy and healthy with your children is worth more than gold!!! And now I have time and no money... I am much happier and so are my kids.... Good luck..!!!