Hello to one and all
This forum is to get support and advice but also to share with other parents.
What is your top tip for getting through divorce/separation? Or your top tip for dealing with the kids at this stressful time?
Here are some to get the ball rolling:
Use the energy your anger engenders in a positive way, like swimming or digging the garden
Remember, you are your childrens' window on the world.
Surround yourself with friends.
Encourage your kids to draw pictures of their feelings; this is easier than talking about them for some children.
Take your time. This is a really big upheaval.
You do not have to be a perfect parent, just "good enough".
Would love to hear your top tips!
Louise
Another good idea I heard was to sit down with a blank sheet of paper and list your achievements, however small, over the past month (or quarter or year). Include things like when you kept your temper when you didn't want to, and if you struck up a converstaion with someone on the bus. It's all confidence building.Then list a couple of things you would like to achieve in the next month or three months. Don't make them unrealistic; if you say "Lose three stone", this is unlikely to happen! However, the first step to this might be "make sure I and my kids have 5 fruit and veg a day" or "Walk 30 minutes at least 3 days a week". Pin these two lists up where you can see them. And pat yourself on the back every time you look at them
Louise :D
Wow bkaur what fantastic achievements, oh dear am I making you :oops: ?
Have replied to you on the other thread about your boyfriend
Louise
I don't know if this counts as a top tip but what I did when I was going through my divorce was to invent a saying that I could repeat to myself. I just kept saying "Well done, you are doing so well,stay strong, you're a good person" This calmed me down and stopped the worst of my upset and anger.
Tigerlily