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Hi everyone,
I cannot seem to find the right information online about what i can do, so i was hoping you might have some advice?
My ex, after not making any effort to be in mine or our childs life for a very long time now, has suddenly decided he wants me back out of the blue, and won't take no for an answer, but i have told him a number of times that it is never going to happen. He is now implying, that if i don't take him back, he is going to take our child away with him to another country. He lives abroad at the moment, and is not a UK citizen. He has PR as he is on the birth certificate. Is there anything I can do to prevent him taking my daughter without my permission legally?
Sorry
Hello, by the way...
Thank you Sparklinglime!
There is no way I would let her around him whilst he is acting so irrational, but on the off chance, I just want to know if I have any options on making him legally unable to take her.
I haven't spoken to a solicitor yet, because i've been unsure about whether there is anything I can do, especially since he is not under "UK law/rules" as he is not a citizen. It's also a very recent situation regarding this issue.
I do hold her passport, but have been told he can quite easily get ahold of one from his nationality, without her even being there, or my persmission.
Thank you alisoncam! Exactly what I was looking for!
Hello Pheobe
Sparkling lime and alisoncam have given you some really good information there. I agree that you need some legal advice.
It does sound as if your child's father is using the threat of abduction because he wants you to agree to get back together with him. You are an adult woman and saying he will not take no for an answer is a ridiculous thing for him to say to you. Does he expect to have control of you? I am guessing the answer is yes. It is important to stay strong and focused and not to let him see how much he is upsetting you, although still taking the action you need to take, such as with the solicitor. Did you look at the information Anna gave you in the other post?
Sending you very best wishes, Pheobe
Thank you Louise!
I am going straight into citizens advice on monday morning to see if they can help.
I didn't see a link from Anna, did you mean alisoncam? If so, it was very helpful thanks alisoncam!
I would like to get something in place as soon as possible of course. It's ridiclous he would even consider taking her away from everything she knows. She doesn't even like leaving me for a few minutes, I can't imagine how she would cope in a different country with her dad she barely knows. I am just hoping he is being spiteful and that it's all empty threats.
The fact i'm even having to do this is infuriating. And yes, he is behaving like a teenager. (He is in his late twenties). I've always taken him back before, again and again over years and years, so I think he's a bit shocked that i've finally said No and actually mean it this time!
Hi Phoebe. I'm glad the link was useful, I did have a quick flick through last night, and hoped it would contain something of use for you.
Your ex could well be being spiteful by saying all of this, but it is best to be prepared for any event.
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Hello Pheobe
Sorry it was Helen T that kindly posted the link I was talking about, not Anna, to the Freedom Programme, on a post originally started by mummy2010 where you also discussed your ex. Click here to see the thread I meant.
Glad to know that the information we have given you on this thread was useful, that was a great link from alisoncam about the Children's Legal Centre.
Yes, there is.
Have you been to see a solicitor? One that specialises in family law is best.
Do you hold your child's passport?
In theory, to remove a child from the UK, the permission of both parents is needed. I believe that action can be taken to notify airports and harbours if there is a chance of this happening.
You do need legal advice, but there are steps that can be taken. Also, do not allow contact unless supervised at a contact centre so you know your child is safe.