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Pash02

Hi Louise

I told the SW and the rest of the SS in the meeting yesterday about EX and whay she use to do and they asked why i never reported her to the police and i said

"because i get her out of the trouble (other drink related things also) by telling what to do or say and i dont want to get her into trouble and her old CPN knows that she hits me because i used to phone her up and tell her"

Hows Mankind going to help me from being painted as the baddie?

If i get the chance i tell her friends the true story anyway.

thanks

Posted on: June 22, 2012 - 9:35am

Pash02

If i knew or realised the stigma with my harrassment conviction i am getting i would of fought the case and most likely won as if you look at the hole picture it is tit for tat and every thing else

But me being me didnt want to upset the EX by putting her through a trail and i just wanted it out of the way to sort out my children

What a big mistake i have made by being nice again and protecting the EX!

Like everyone say's grow a back bone and get tough!

Posted on: June 22, 2012 - 10:01am

Sally W
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi Pash02 maybe the way forward for now is to concentrate on yourself and not the past, you are emotional involved and at some point you will go through a whole host of processes, whilst you come to terms with your situation, Mankind will be able to support you through the process. 

Posted on: June 22, 2012 - 12:59pm

Pash02

some point you will go through a whole host of processes, whilst you come to terms with your situation

What processes surely it cant get any worse than what i have been through in the past few months?

The DV does seem to bother me it is all in the past but what does get me is the fact she wont talk about anything like the children all i get out of her is theres nothing to talk about!! this really gets me because i feel we need to talk and work as a team for the children.

The lastest one is i am not coming back to which i replied who said i want you back after what you have done to me meaning the harrassment  and lies her voice went very melow after i said that but this was last week before i stopped talking to her.

Posted on: June 22, 2012 - 1:20pm

Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi Pash

I don't think Sally was saying it would get worse, she was explaining that recovering and moving forward from your traumatic situation will throw up all sorts of emotions.

As a site we are funded to support single parents who have day to day care of their children and I am aware that your own situation is quite different, which is one of the reasons we have suggested other, more appropriate, sources of support, such as Mankind and the Family Rights Group.

Posted on: June 23, 2012 - 7:00am

Pash02

I feel good on here and like trying to help if you would like a donation i would love to help as a way of a saying thank you.

Posted on: June 23, 2012 - 9:36am

Pash02

What would i say on the Family Rights Group. i dont want to start again

Posted on: June 23, 2012 - 1:27pm

hazeleyes
DoppleMe

Pash, sometimes we have to start again, and on Family Rights Group, there would be others in similar situations to you. They can advise you on how to deal with things. I feel much better than we can here. As you know, we're single parents, mums/dads that either have full custody, or regular contact etc.

I have just responded in your latest thread, and I do wish you lots of luck with your boys, and also with your daughter. You're going through a rough time, and hopefully it will get sorted.

Posted on: June 23, 2012 - 2:08pm

Pash02

Ta

Posted on: June 23, 2012 - 2:04pm

Sally W
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Sorry Pash02 if my response upset you, i was as Louise said talking about the emotional side of your situation, and hopefully urging you to get the specialised support that Mankind can offer.

Posted on: June 25, 2012 - 5:31pm

Pash02

You've not upset me please dont worry about anything like that.

I am off the rest of the week so i will have a look at the frg site.

Thanks to every one x

Posted on: June 25, 2012 - 5:55pm