Hello Adele, thanks for posting. You are very new to parenting on your own, I do hope that you are finding your feet and not having too much of a struggle, do start a new thread if you would like some extra support
Hi Claire, you are welcome! I notice there's an age gap between your girls and you son. Do you find this means you get a bit of help with looking after him or does it make things harder in your opinion? i had a significant age gap between my kids and it brings its rewards AND its challenges. Hope you're Ok.
Hello snuggles good to hear from you, you are doing a sterling job with your little boy, it's not easy, keep posting and hopefully you will find some online company.
Best wishes to all
Louise :D
Hi, I am Diana, I have an eight years old boy and I he is living with me since May 2008. I am his guardian and brining him up on my own. I live in Manchester.
Hi, I'm Sam, SAHM to DS, 5 and DD3 1/2. I split with their father 3 years ago and have just come out of a relationship.
Hi verdy, it sounds as if you have not always been the guardian of your boy? Probably a complicated story no doubt! I hope that you are enjoying him and life!
hi sam, great to have you online! Please feel free to join in any discussions or start your own. I hope you are coping with life, even though your new realtionship has ended??
Look forward to speaking to you on other topics :)
Hi my name is Danielle i am 24yrs old, i have a 3yr old little girl and a 11mth old baby boy. i have been separated from their father since friday just gone (long history) this time it really is enough.
Hi dee1
Welcome to the beginning to the rest of your life!! :D
From your message it sounds as if the separation is your idea and you are happy with it. It will be hard, but I believe it takes a strong woman to go it alone with 2 small children. Best of luck with it, please come and share any difficulties you experience or issues that you need to deal with, you are not alone, we are right here with you. :)
Hi Everyone,
I'm Emmie and I've been a single mum for nearly four months.
My little girl is nearly four months old and we live in Greater London. I only just found out about this site, so thought I'd give it a try...
Hi Emmie and welcome, I hope you find the site interesting and the topics of conversation, please feel free to start your own topic or join in with others.
If there is something in particular that you would like to find out more about, just ask and we can see what we can do! :D
Hi
My name is Caroline, I live in Surrey and have two gorgeous boys ;-) who are 12 and 8.
I have been separated from their father for nearly 3 years.
I enjoy being a single mum, most of the time but sometimes it's nice to talk to someone who's in the same boat! 8-)
Hi cazzy
I hope you find some friends on here, that you can share experiences with. It is tough being a lone parent and it is something that others can empathise but only single parents truly understand.
Look forward to talking with you :D
Hello! My username is Loolamoola and I have two gorgeous boys, they are aged 8 and 5. I've been a single parent for nearly six years now.
Hi my user name is poppy biker
I have 2 children, a boy who is 16 and a daughter who is 3 and half irish.
I have been seperated for almost a year from my daughter's father but have been divorced for 8 years.
Hi loola moola! Great name!!
Hi poppy biker and welcome! Have you had a look around the site? What do you think?
We have jsut designed a great new game for parents to give their expertise on how to raise your kids! Give it a go! http://interactive.onespace.org.uk/parent/
Look forward to hearing your comments!!
hello there am vicky. mam to beth who is five weeks tomoro. i have been a single parent since her dad found out i was having her.
Hi Vicky
HAPPY 5 week BIRTHDAY TO BETH!!
Welcome to One Space, nice to have you here. So how are you finding motherhood? A brand new baby is great, they are so quiet and easy to look after (OK so my daughter is 14 now, i have forgotton the constant demands of a newborn!), I hope that you are getting yourself sorted since the breakup and feeling strong about the future??
hi, i am visiting this site for the 1st time!
i have one daughter age 15 months. I am a single parent as of today. i would like to speak to someone who can either listen to my story or who can advise me on financial support for lone parents as i really dont want to be evicted this month! x
HI vIcky! you sound like a very brave lady! its hard enough with a partner to help, so i imagine you are pretty strong! i have just signed up tonight and no one has replied to my post yet. my single parent status started today and my daughter is 15 months old.
Congrats on your baby girl. they really are the light of your life. i cant remember life without mine and i dont really want to!
please feel free to reply if you fancy a chat. x
hello there am vicky. mam to beth who is five weeks tomoro. i have been a single parent since her dad found out i was having her.[ want to/quote]
Hi Luize and welcome! Although I don't know if that is wnat you wanted to hear if your lone parent status is rather sudden?
I see you would like some financial advice. if you are a lone parent and not working then you will be entitled to Income Support and Council Tax benefit and if you rent your accommodation then you will also receive Housing Benefit, as long as you haven't got too many savings, which I am guessing you haven't, from what you say. Go to http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/MoneyTaxAndBenefits/BenefitsTaxCreditsAndOtherSupport/BeginnersGuideToBenefits/index.htm?CID=emc&TYPE=sponsoredsearch&CRE=Benefits........gosh that's a long link!If you are working 16+ hours you can claim Working Tax Credit instead of Income Support. phone 08453003900 for details. By the way I have just looked at thaty website link, it doesn't look on the page as if it will work but it does
Keep in touch
Louise :)
Hi Luize
Great to have you on the site, you sound as if your new status of single parent is not so unsatisfying for you! I hope you are happy and see a great future ahead, look forward to talking more with you. :)
HI everyone my name is Richard , I'am a lone parent of 2 children . One son aged 14 and one daughter aged 10 . I have been a fulltime parent for about about 4 years now . Although I find it fullfilling I also find it a lonely task as I don't have any family or friends . I did work fulltime before becoming a fulltime daddy but now only work part time in a totaly different enviroment and although I don't find it satisfying in my present job it has to for now as it suits my situation . I have to agree with some of the articles I have read on this site , that it gets very lonely and sometimes downright depressing as Haven't been out socaily in 2 years and the sound an adult voice would be so great sometimes . My children are great though but I do think I'am missing out on life to but by what have read I'am not the only one so it make me feel better that I'm not the onlt only one in this boat lol. Anyway bye for and look forward to hear from some of you God Bless.
Hi Mr man, WELCOME!!
Yes single parenthood can be lonely, I completely agree, I think it is really important to try and get out every now and then though, if you can? Whether it be joining a martial arts club or going to your local and chatting to the bar staff, it can be downright depressing when you realise you have had no adult conversation for a whole weekend!! Is there anything you can do in your local area?? You have to take the plunge, your children are getting older now, could all join a club together?
It is very admirable to have to change jobs to fit around the children, it is a shame that you don't find it fulfilling, what do you do??
Hi I'm Donsoir
I got 2 childern age 5 who is a girl and age 3 who is boy
Never been married
always been single so never live with their father
I worked full time
Oldest one is at school which is blessing
youngest is at nursey he will start school next year
I am hoping to go Unvi to study deaf studies in September
There are times that i feel cut off from the outside world the only commucation i get is when I am at work but my kids put a smile on my face to make my life worth living
Hello Donsoir and welcome to the online group
Yes you're right, children can give us so many rewards. And also it is difficult sometimes not to have that adult contact. Have a look at what Anna says to mrman above. Do you think there is anything you could join in with in your local area? I am wondering if you could meet other parents through the school. However devoted we are as parents, we do still need (and deserve!) adult time and it is important to try to get it.
Your course sounds interesting, is that with a view to teaching or interpreting?
best wishes
Louise :)
Hi. I am paul. I am a proud Dad of one. Her name is Marina. Marina is 12 years old. :D
Hi Paul and it's great that you have joined us. Glad you are a proud dad, it's not always the easiest job in the world, this parenting lark, :D so hopefully we can all support each other with the difficult bits and share the joy of the nice bits!
Louise
Hi,
I'm Blusey7 and I am almost 34 years young :D
I have 2 children. My son who is almost 9 and my daughter is 6. I have been separated from their father for almost 5 years and divorced for 2 1/2 years. Life has been a struggle for that time as he has continued to harrass me and I have had to get solictiors involved time and time again. We seem to have big ups and downs with him still but I am learning each time to ignore him and concentrate on the children and my life. We are going through a smooth patch at the moment but I live in fear of the next clash which seems to come around every six months or so.. or sooner if his life isn't happy.. I have had a look at this site and it seems to have a lot of freindly people with alot of great advice.. hopefully one day.. my ultimate goal I suppose... would be to help others from what I have learnt on my journey :)
I know what you mean, Bluesy! I could kinda forgive my ex for all the abuse that went on during the marriage - well, maybe not forgive as such but draw a line and move on but it's the crap he's come up with since that I find unforgiveable. Like the time the summer before last when I nearly had to take him to court over whether I could move our youngest daughter away from a school where she was really unhappy. She still hasn't forgiven him for his delaying tactics over that - but the main thing is she's really happy now in MY choice of school! :lol: Glad to hear you are learning to cope with it better: I think I do too as time goes on. I know that I am inclined to stand up and fight for my children's rights in a way that I didn't fight for my own when we were together. Fi x
Hello Blusey
Nice to hear from you. That sounds like "water torture" waiting for the next load of hassle. I suppose one way to cope could be to take one day at a time and you seem to have learned your own coping strategies down the years. It would be fantastic if you felt able to give others the benefit of your experience so keep a look out on the threads to see if there's anything to which you would like to contribute :D
Fi, I changed overnight when I became a parent. I think of it like a lioness defending her cubs! ;)
Louise
Hi all,
User name is: jschs
I have one daughter who is 22 months old. Have been seperated from her father for 15months now and am eventually starting to 'move forward'. I really like the tone of this site - I only found it today but have found some of the postings a) comforting b) uplifting.
Thanks
Jane
Ih Jane I know we have already chatted on another thread but I would like to say welcome!!!!
Louise :)
What is your username? Tasha and Charlotte
How many children do you have? one
How old are they? 6 weeks
Are they boys or girls? girl
How long have you been a single parent? 6 weeks
Hello Tasha and Charlotte
Welcome to the boards! Is it Charlotte who is 6 weeks old? How are you coping with a new baby? :shock: Feel free to join in hte chats or start a thread of your own. I would just mention that there is an interesting thread called "First year with a new baby" on the Parenting Support section that you may find helpful.
best wishes
Louise :)
Hi Tasha and Charlotte, congratulations on the birth of your baby girl! :D and welcome to One Space :D
You say your daughter is 6 weeks old and you have been a single parent for 6 weeks, did you split with your partner on the day she was born :o or were you going it alone from the start??
Hi,
My name is Pip
I have a 1yr old girl.
I am looking for some moral support coz doing this on my own is hard.
I am only recsently single and struggling with being sad when I shud be full of bounce and ideas of fun things to do for my daughter.
I don't have friends coz we had to move and little family support.
:cry:
We live out in the sticks of Devon but will be moving again soon so things very unsettled for me.
Boo hoo hoo!
Thats why Im here.
Hi Pixiponk
I remember the exact same feeling of wanting to be bright and happy and enjoying my baby girl, I love the way you express it, bounce and fun ideas, I felt that i was unable to give her what she needed and i was a complete failure. Please be assured that things will change.
Give some time for yourself to look at the past and heal the wounds, because until you start looking after yourself, you can’t move forward and be the best mum you want to be.
I am glad you found us and hope that you find the support you are looking for, keep in touch
Hi, I'm Bubblegum,
I have two children, 4 and 6, that's girl 4 and boy 6.. and I've been a single parent just past 4 years, since my daughter was five months old.
thanx : )
Hi bubblegum and welcome, I hope you enjoy the site! Please join in any discussions or let us know if you want to know more about a certain subject.
Being a single parent for four years, I am sure you have had your fair share of highs and lows! Hopefully you are finding level ground now??
Remember you can always start a topic yourself, just click on NEW TOPIC!
Speak soon! :)
Hi there,
Just finished trying to re-decorate lounge with the aid of two dogs and a cat and thought I would look over this web site. My wife died three years or go. We were married for 25 years. We have five children. Four boys and a girl.The eldest boy is 26 and working in Cambridge, Daughter phoned from Portugal last night where she is showjumping, I thought she was in Ireland! Then three boys at home aged 21,15 and 13. All great kids. We moved out of the Home Counties after my wife's death to a much larger house with stables in mid Wales, and truly love it....surrounded by sheep, Cardigan Bay and Dolphins. But boy, times are tough with finances, demands for even more funds etc and demands from the kids as to why they cannot have or do this that or the other...that's about it .....same as most single parent families I guess....
Robert
Great pics Bubblegum!!! ;)
Hello there Aberdulais aka Robert
Great to hear from you. I am open-mouthed in admiration at your DIY skills :o Glad you are loving your surroundings but you're right, the credit crunch seems to have hit all of us. It's good to have online groups like this so we can all give each other an encouraging word....mind you, if you go round the shops in this area, you wouldn't know there was a recession, the prices don't seem to have gone down.
Keep posting!
Louise :)
Hi i'm Hayley27, i'm 27 i have a three year old little boy called Jacob and I have been a single mum for 8 weeks
argh
xxx
hi
I have 2 girls aged 9 and 6. Although the 9 year old going thru puberty now!!!! AAAGGHHH!! I am a single mum since july last yr and doing ok! My girls are a lot happier and relaxed now. Still struggling with ex husband as he is in total denial over his domestic abuse. Im getting there. :)
Hello Hayley, you are welcome to the boards. 8 weeks is not long to get used to a new way of living so don't worry if it all seems a struggle, you will get into your stride and as you will see by other people posting on here, we are all here to support each other through :)
Hi helloworld, good to hear from you and that you are surviving the early onset of your daughter's terrible teens. That's something I hear quite often these days, especially about girls and I am wondering if kids in general are hitting that stage much earlier. What does everyone think? Glad you are staying strong, especially if you have escaped from an abusive relationship :)
Louise
Thank you,
But DIY Skills ?? Mmmm there's a thought. DIY and Skills don't normally go together in my book, but since stuff needs doing and as there isn't one of those clever women around to sort it out, vast and steep learning curve !!
As said elsewhere, I cannot actually get in to Utility room for pile of clothes. Got the kids into picking stuff up and throwing it in there, just haven't managed to convince them that the washing machine does not do the rest all by itself.....so only at stage one of my parenting skills at the moment.....but I will say that three years down the line I am actually starting to enjoy various aspects of single parent and seeing them progress. If you had said that a couple of years ago I would not have believed it.......I read on other board someone who was scared and lonely at becoming a single parent. I thought it was just me and used to beat myself up for not being able to cope. I know it isn't easy, but it does get to stage where you can cope..................most days.
Robert :)
Hi there,
Just finished trying to re-decorate lounge with the aid of two dogs and a cat and thought I would look over this web site. My wife died three years or go. We were married for 25 years. We have five children. Four boys and a girl.The eldest boy is 26 and working in Cambridge, Daughter phoned from Portugal last night where she is showjumping, I thought she was in Ireland! Then three boys at home aged 21,15 and 13. All great kids. We moved out of the Home Counties after my wife's death to a much larger house with stables in mid Wales, and truly love it....surrounded by sheep, Cardigan Bay and Dolphins. But boy, times are tough with finances, demands for even more funds etc and demands from the kids as to why they cannot have or do this that or the other...that's about it .....same as most single parent families I guess....
Robert
Hi again Robert
Hmm yes the Utility Room floor.... I have sometimes heard that space called a Futility Room if nothing ever gets done :lol: Depends whether you thrive on the chaos or whether you want a helping hand. If the latter then some sort of link to pocket money could be tried? or maybe a Family Contract where you agree to do whatever (drive them somewhere? ) and they agree to sort out the laundry. There are always so many muddy sports clothes somehow, aren't there?
Louise :)
Hello everyone - I have just joined this site after googling for advice about school admission appeals. I have two children, aged 10 and 8, and I have been seperated for about 18 months after being together for 20 years. Its been quite an adjustment - I still have ups and downs but generally getting on with my life! :)
Welcome Vonnie
Glad you are getting on Ok; I guess we will always have ups and downs as parents and as people ;) Feel free to join the threads or start another one if there is a topic that interests you or you could do with some support (or give some!)
Regards
Louise
Hello all ... I'm Nini, 36 years old, I've 3 little darlings (have to say that as there mine) 14 year old son, 8 & 9 year old girls.
I've been a single parent for erm .... :roll: 6 years :roll:
Hi and welcome nini
I imagine you have your hands full! Are you enjoying single parenthood? Being a single parent for 6 years you have probably faced some of your worst fears and have settled into some kind of routine, I look forward to talking to you more. :D
Hi my name is Sandi, I have 2 teenage children, we have recently moved so I am still learning about my area and this is the first time I have joined a parent site.
snuggles
one son aged 4
been single since the very beginning