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It is the first of July and I declare the new thread OPEN!
Good morning all. July 1st, and sun is shining. Long may it last eh. Not read the last of the June thread, so take a look in a mo. Louise, I am fine thankyou. Main thing is C is okay about it. I couldn't give a monkeys, as long as he is okay.
So, your eldest is now home. I bet it feels great to have both boys with you again, like the old days hehe. We have sausages, not sure what with yet. Gammon sounds lovely, Mmmmm.
Hi tiredmum. Sorry things didn't work out for you, as you'd hoped. Nice to 'see' you here.
Looby, your week sounds great, with lots of fun. You've reminded me that C has an appointment with opticians on Tuesday (thankyou). J will love the glasses I'm sure.
Ah yes, July... And its been bucketing down here 
Glad your son's home Louise.
Hi All,
I can't belive its the 1st of July already, this year is going so quickly.
Louise, I'm a chicken and still haven't spoken to my parents! I'm so scared of it going the wrong way.
I've got a day of shopping, my youngest H is in desparate need of new knickers! and my eldest A needs a new cylcling helmet as she is doing her cycling proficency at school next week
Quiet on the boards today. Hopefully means, everyone is having some lovely sunshine, and out enjoying it! Had a good day here. Didn't step outside. Normal Sunday chores, and have just finished watched the first Harry Potter DVD with C. Figured if I was going to try and get into it, I should start at the beginning. Have to admit, I enjoyed it, mainly because I could follow the story hehe. C is delighted that 1) I didn't fall asleep during this one! and 2) I watched it from beginning to end! Football now on (boring), but shall be going to bed before it finishes.
Hope everyone has a good week ahead.
Hi Louise
Thank you for the advice, your are not the first person to tell me this, cant help myself but am learning xxx
The family are good thank you, my daughter will be 18 on the 12th July and other daughter 22 on the 11th so and expensive week coming up. I will then have 4 adult children, not sure how I feel about that one, my youngest starts high scholl in Sept, he has a taster day tomorrow and is so excited, he has been in bed for an hour already, he wants tomorrow to come soner ha ha.
Hi Hazeleyes, hope you are doing ok, it seems so long since I have been on here xxx
Sparklinglime I am doing okish at the min, just need to fond a secret millionaire ha ha. How are you and the children doing, do hope you are all ok xxx
Well, 1st of July started with lovely sunshine and then got wetter as the day got on. Dry again now. Am very content, have watched the football and will now turn my attention to the tennis. :-)
Hope everyone is ok! :-)
xxx
And still raining here...
Carnival on Saturday and I can see people fast losing interest if this continues.
Hope everyone is ok too
Good morning all!
Oo-er a plethora of sport on the telly; at least the footy has finished
Hopeful, I know you don't like sitting around but have you been able to spend some quality time with the children?
Tiredmum I can't believe that your youngest is off to high school! Wow. I know what you mean about adult children. One morning, a couple of years ago now I was stopped at traffic lights and looked out of the car window to see a mum and a boy of about 7 rushing along to school and laughing together and I suddenly had tears in my eyes 
Yes it is hard to look after ourselves but we are our main resource and so we must!
Hazeleyes, Harry Potter will be the bane of your life....yes I enjoyed the first movie, I think because it introduced all the new concepts.
Pancake queen hope you are starting to feel better.
Eldest is very much in residence and we had a heated debate.....correction, I had a heated "lecture" on Marxist class theory. Luckily I was able to counter this with mentioning how one of the American chaps from church was about to go out to Afghanistan and we had prayed for him and this steered the subject matter of the lecture into the realms of whether religion gave moral credence to terrorism, which was a tad more interesting for the audience (me) Phew.
Hope everyone will have a good day. Don't forget we have MARY joining us later today, so am looking forward to that
Hi,
I'm feeling much better now thank you, will be going back to work on wednesday.
I'm going to phone my mum today....wish me luck! 
How did it go, pancakequeen? Hope it wasn't as bad as you expected it to be.
Glad you're better pancakequeen. Lots of luck for the chat with your mum. You can do it!
Louise, wow, what a conversation. Glad I wasn't sitting there hehe.
Tiredmum, how did youngest get on today at the school? Hope it all went well.
Hoping the weather improves for your carnival Sparkling. It's getting ridiculous now isn't it? I don't think we're going to get a summer at all
Hopeful, glad you're still resting. Lots on TV to keep you contented then
Hi All,
I rang my mum but she wasn't home so still no further....I'll try later. (Feeling very nervous)
My ex is messing me around over renewing A's passport, he was supposed to text his details so I could go to the post office today, but surprise surprise I haven't heard from him, he knows I need to do it ASAP as we are going away next month and I am fast running out of time. Another way he tries to control me and my life, its so frustrating 
Don't be nervous about your speaking to your mum, just keep telling yourself that you're doing it for the kids. I would give your ex a text and ask him what the hold up is his end. Keep it nice and polite though (through gritted teeth of course hehe). Hope he contacts you soon with the details. Deep breaths 
Thanks Hazeleyes, have sent him a text as you suggested but radio silence so far....he'll probably wait until 5.30am, thats his usual time of choice to respond when he doesn't really want to!
Sorry...this is turning into a rant.....how was your day?
You rant away, PQ, that is one of the things we are here for. So your day has been one of non-successful communication. I wonder if Mercury is in retrograde or something (that's what Russell Grant would say )
Hazeleyes how are you this evening?
Mary, great to have you on the boards
Eldest insisted on accompanying me to the hairdresser today 
He has now gone off to Leeds as he is helping with a charity quiz tonight and staying at a friend's, so it has gone quiet. Youngest has been dragooned into tidying out his clothes drawers, heh heh.
Have a good evening everyone.
Thanks Louise, it does feel good to get it off my chest.
My evening is okay thankyou Louise. Cheated on dinner, got a takeaway of burger and chips. C has a headache, getting a few of these lately, so just given him some calpol and packed him off to bed. An early night hopefully for him. Work was a nightmare, with normal teacher not being there. You would honestly think our class was reception, it really is unbelievable!! Opticians tomorrow for C, so shall bring him home with me at 12.
Your eldest is so sweet, accompanying you to hairdressers. Does he think you're too doddery on your own now hehe. Feeling sorry for the youngest though, having to tidy his clothes drawers (Not) Beware though, he'll be building up an appetite!
Pancakequeen, glad you sent the text. Hope he gets in touch soon. Where are you heading off too? Somewhere warmer than here I'm sure
We're off to Denmark for 4 days over my birthday. My best friend's partner lives there and he's invited us over...to top it all they're paying as my birthday present.....so chuffed
I''ve had a reply from him....not with the passport info though!!! Still not clear when he's going to give it to me....I hate his games
Hey all,
hope you're all ok - Mary are you sure what you've let yourself in for?!!
Louise, last week was good, because my eldest was home and he seems to pull everyone together. No2 son has actually asked to play games twice (!!!!) and we did, so yes, we've had good times.
Hazeleyes, I would have said take C to opticians re headaches, but beat me to it yourself!
Denmark, - I am jealous!
Will post on other thread, too - it'll make you laugh, so have a read! xxx
I made the call and spoke to my mum!!!!
She was quite angry....didn't understand why I was 'protecting' the girls from the 'truth' about their dad. She said she didn't like it when they spoke about him like he was the bee's knees and that they needed to know what he was really like. I explained that they loved him and needed to be able to talk openly about their feelings. She then said if they didn't like what she said then they needed to learn not to talk about him infront of her.....aagghh....who is the adult here
I've left it for know as I could see things weren't going anywhere and I was in danger of losing my temper....thankfully we haven't fallen out but I don't think I've heard the last of it...especially when she tells my dad.
Sorry I haven't joined the July thread yet - I should be chatting because we are on school holidays now but still finding life difficult
Saw solicitor yesterday and felt a bit calmer - it seems to be that things will need to be "fair" so now there will be letters going back and forth till we sort things out - I should get legal aid but it has to be paid back if I get any financial settlement
Youngest had a massive strop yesterday - I was shocked - she went to her room and fell asleep - it was nearly bedtime - I think she is feeling a bit stressed about two holidays - she does get anxious
Off to Pizza Express for lunch today so something nice to look forward to
Hopeful I hope the sunshines for your picnic
Hazeleyes hope things calm down at school - you don't have long to go and I think the kids are really tired - maybe why C has headaches
Louise is the eldest getting his haircut too
Pancakequeen Denmark sounds fab and paid for too!
Sparkling do tell us more about the carnival
Hi LRH, you're up early today, especially as you are on holiday!! Are you gong to pizza express with your children, its a favourite place of ours.
Denmark does sound lovely, and I'm very lucky to have such amazing friends.
I've got one more day at home so back to work tomorrow. Its been quite nice being at home when the girls get home from school, part of me would like to stay at home but unfortunately I have bills to pay
Hello everyone
How are you all?
PQ I think it is a real shame about your mum, I have posted to you on the other thread. But Denmark, that sounds a lovely treat to look forward to
Hi sparkling, are any of yours involved in the carnival? has it got scouty input?
I am glad C is at the opticians, Hazeleyes, just in case that is affecting the headaches. Burger and chips was a nice treat. I bet you can't wait the end of term now
LRH good to see you posting. It does feel as if everything legalwise has suddenly changed up a couple of gears and this is very stressful (although to use a yukky analogy it can be like lancing a boil....worse while it is happening but good in the long run) Try to stay calm with the girls, even if they are kicking off. As for the Legal Aid, check with your solicitor but when I was getting divorced, you did not have to repay it straightaway but could defer it until the house was eventually sold.
Hopeful, that is lovely that you have all had some time together, a bit of time out when your lives are so busy.
Eldest came to hairdresser for a gossip, there was an older lady in there having a shampoo and set and the hairdresser is always chatty so he really enjoyed it. Youngest came up with a black bag full of stuff from The Pit although I doubt it will have made much difference. I have counselling later and then youngest is getting an achievement award at the big hall in town, they have selected a few people from his college. I am sitting IN A BOX (of the theatre variety, not carboard )
Anyone mind if I have a rant and moan? Not to find solutions but just to get some of the frustration out of my system..
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh!!
Promised my daughter we'd go to an event this weekend and in theory I should have been paid...just found out today that BACS won't be sent until Friday and probably won't arrive in my account until at least Monday - Friday's the first day of the 2 day event........... am hoping I can scratch together enough money to do this - last chance before we move back to the Uk and something she's been looking forward to since last year.....
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarghhhhhh!!
Thanks!
Oh Jacs, how frustrating! I will keep my fingers crossed that the money does land in your account for Friday...
On the off chance, is there anyone you could loan the money from for the few days that you need it?
Thanks RM - just looking round - got a gas bottle that can go back if I can find the receipt...€10...an electric fan and a dance mat game which could go to a cash converters type place...
We have to leave (300 km drive) really early Friday morning, so I can't wait to see if it's arrived. Someone has offered me the use of their flat for 'the electricity we use' cos I knew I'd struggle to afford a hotel.
Borrowed money from my stepdad last month and haven't been able to pay him back yet cos I miscalculated my income for the month (silly me!!)
I'm just sick to death of living like this and hoping things will change for the better after the move!
aaaaaargh!
Hi Jacs,
You must be so frustrated, but you sound like quite a resourceful person, I'm sure you will come through for your daughter and have a fantastic weekend.
Hi all. Jacs, I hope things work out for you and your daughter at the weekend.
Hopeful, am going to read your thread in a mo. I'm in need of a laugh.
lrh, hope things are okay your end this evening.
Louise, that is absolutely brilliant for your son, and you, for being able to sit in a box, yippeee. The proudest mum there for sure
pq, do you want two extra passengers for Denmark? C and I will be extremely quiet, curled up in a suitcase You'll have a fantastic time. Am sorry the chat didn't go well with your Mum. Good on you though for saying your peace.
Sparkling, how has your day been?
Looby, how's things with you?
Mary, like Hopeful says, are you sure? 
Now you're here, there's no escaping, hehe.
Thanks PQ and hazeleyes - I am resourceful - sometimes I wonder whether it does me any good!!
One way or another we'll do this....
I am an early riser even when on school holidays - I go to bed early too!
My eldest decided she didn't want to go out today - I give up
Took youngest to Pizza Express - she was suitably sheepish after her outburst last night - she had fallen asleep in her clothes - put her pj bottoms on her but left it at that!
She apologised this morning so we had a chat and cleared the air
The eldest texted while we were out "how long are you going to be - I am lonely" I nearly fell off my chair - serves her right I'm afraid
Louise I laughed at your post - visions of you sitting in a cardboard box - heehee!
Congratulations to your son - brilliant
Louise, I hope you have a lovely evening.
lrh - I do hope you're taking your time
Hi all,
Back to work tomorrow....feel a bit anxious about it now.
Hope you have a lovely evening in your box louise, glad its not the cardboard variety.
Hazeleyes, I'm sure my friends would welcome you with open arms to Denmark, they are very hospitable, the more the merrier
Ooh PQ hope work goes ok.
Jacs, it feels like you have been so restricted and you are moving towards a new and freer life with open arms. Great that you have a friend who will let you use the flat
LRH you did absolutely the right thing with you teen...and your youngest too. Well done to you. Sometimes I think I should have a hole right through my tongue because I have to bite it so often, as a parent.
Well my evening was very good to start with, the box was fab and my demeanour only partly rattled by a young lady whispering to me in the foyer that I had my dress tucked up in my knickers at the back 
......Was very proud of son and sitting in the box meant I got a little video of him receiving his award, and also I managed to look down my nose at the mayor as he paraded in. Then we went home and youngest went to his friend's house to "supervise a prom party" He was supposed to sleep there but a crash at 2.45am told me he had come home. He was dragged out of bed at 6.15 by me and thrown in the general direction of work, where he had to be by 7. I feel a curfew coming on.......
Have a good day everyone
Hi all...Just a quick 'pop in' before going to do my volunteering for today.....I can not believe it is already July! Where has the rest of the year hone already? Is it me, or does time seem to be speeding up?..
How is everyone today? Seems like this miserable weather is here for a while...can't wait for it to cheer up a bit, so I can try my new stunt kite....( big kid that I am)!
Also trying to take my mind off divorce not going that quickly( as they don't), by planning for my wedding( I know it isn't until 2014,but trying to spread out the costs as don't have a lot of money and on a tight budget)...So,have managed to buy Bridesmaids dresses off ebay for £50 each and the girls can hopefully wear them as Prom dresses next year to get more wear from them...( they are lace up backs so have plenty of 'give' too in case of any weigth fluctuations). Got wedding dress off Ebay too for £150 ( which I think is a good price too...also with room to manoever should I put weight on 'cough, cough'...also, getting artificial flowers so a lot cheaper and will last....so doing quite well I think...
I don't want anyone to feel awkward about me talking about all this...but am saying it to try and show that we really don't know what is around the corner, and at our lowest moments it's good to still have this hope...If you had spoken to me a year ago, never in my wildest dreams would I have thought I'd be here where I am now, so really now just try to go with the flow of things ... Who knows? Things may or may not work out over the long run, and many things change in life...but I have learnt that we have to grab any opportunity that comes our way....xxx
hi mich - wow didn't realise you were getting married - must have missed that bit of infogood for you - I dont think you should feel awkward (can't speak for others tho') it shows that life goes on and you can be happy with someone else if that is the road you choose - congratulations and I wish you many years of happiness
Louise your evening sounds fab (apart from the dress bit) however that bit could have been worse - nooone could have told you and you found out when you got home
Baked a banana loaf with youngest today - second time this week - the dinner lady at my school gave me 8 bananas when we left on Friday - we only like them when they are almost green so needed a recipe - we made banana loaf with youngests friends on Friday and it was yummy so made it again today - put the link on the food glorious food website in case others are interested
Louise, I nearly choked on my sandwich reading the post about your knickers. Glad you had a great night though. Someone is going to have a very tired young man tonight.
lrh, I can't bear bananas, the look, the smell, the feel. YUK! When C was younger, and I would mash it down for him, it made me feel absolutely sick. My mum would be laughing as I spooned it into his mouth. Sounds like you and youngest had a great morning though.
pq, am packing as I type
Sparkling, are you at work? Hope you're having a good day.
Mich, wow, a wedding. Lots of planning going on for you then. How does your daughter feel about the new man?
lol hazeleyes - why did you mash up banana for c if they made you sick
Mich I am really enjoying hearing about your plans, and I am sure others are too
I was mortified about the knicker incident Can't believe how much more laundry and mess there is with an extra boy in the house. Just waiting for the photos of the award evening to be published on the website
LRH I have copied your recipe thank you. I think I know two boys who would like it I do understand what you mean though, hazeleyes, they are an unusual texture.
How is everyone this afternoon?
lrh, I was being a good mum, mashing those ghastly things up. Keeping a baby healthy, and turning my stomach at the same time, hehe.
Haha, Louise, the knickers incident, that makes me laugh, I thought that just happens in films!
Mich, Congratulations, and I had no idea either, have you kept this quiet?
Jac, hope you got the money together!
Sparkling, Hazeleyes, LRH, pancakes - hope you're all having a good day!
Hazeleyes I hope you did have a laugh! xxx
hazeleyes, I can't eat bananas at all, they really upset my digestive system. Which is a shame, as that rules out lrh's banana loaf
Congratulations Mich - it sounds like you will have a fabulous wedding when it comes around (and I'm sure you'll feel very pleased with yourself for keeping a tight hold on the finances!) You are so right, no one can ever tell what is around the next corner.
Hope work wasn't as bad as you feared today, pancakequeen.
And Louise, I hope those were good knickers and not a pair of comfy grey ones...
How kind of the young lady though Louise....
I have a yoghurt loaf recipes mary??
Louise, your story brought to mind an episode of Friends .
I would have been mortified, but as sparkling said, what a kind lady to save you like that, there are lovely people out there.
Banana loaf is a good way to use up those over ripe bananas no one wants to eat, a favourite in our house too.
Mich, your wedding plans sound lovely, its encouraging to hear happy stories.
Hazeleyes, I have visions of those contortionists who bend themselves into small spaces, I hope you're supple as my suitcase is small
First day back at work was a bit of a whirl wind, just enjoying a coffee to perk me up and face the rest of my day. Luckily there's only 2 more days til the weekend.
have had a change of outfit and hair but can't seem to add my kids to my doppelme or whatever you call it??
More rain at Wimbledon...
Glad its NOT only us...
You might have to create a new "group" LRH on the Doppel site and then put your new Doppel key for the group into your profile
The knickers thing happened to me about two years ago as well, it is long dresses that do it. It would have been ok if I had not got changed, as earlier in the day I had had leggings and a tunic dress on but thought I would be too hot and decided on bare legs...though not to show them to the whole foyer!
Yes, a shorter week for you PQ, that's good, hope you are not too tired.
Hope everyone has a good evening. Eldest has just got in. Shepherd's pie a very popular tea. Little do they know it has LOADS of veg in it, and not much shepherd
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Good morning all
Hi tired mum and great to see you but sorry that things have not turned out as well as we were all hoping. Aha burnout....when you are a giving person then it is all too easy to neglect yourself. Think of yourself as an ATM. There will be no cash for anyone to draw out if the ATM is not replenished in the first place. So things that you do for YOU are not being selfish, you are filling yourself up ready to give again
How are the family?
Looby, you did fantastically at the bowling, well done! As for J's glasses, well Harry Potter has really helped boys to like the idea these days.
LRH eurgh who would have a 14 year old?!?!?!? When my eldest was about that age he was chatting on MSN to a friend who was going to come round and call for him and he put "mine is the scruffy house with the manky window frames and the clapped out old car on the drive, everything here is crap" or something similar. I had been a single parent for 5 years by this point and was working in four jobs (three daytime and one evening one, with no money from his dad, just to keep us all fed and watered) At that point I realised that even if I had provided a mansion with a swimming pool and chauffeur driven Rolls Royce then he would say it wasn't good enough as we did not have a butler! What I am saying is their values get skewed at this age and although it is hurtful and absolutely infuriating, rowing will not solve it. In fact it does not really get solved till they get a part time job at 16 and suddenly realise how hard you have to work to earn a fiver and yet how easily it is spent. I have great sympathy with you on this one, believe me.
Hazeleyes hope you have had a decent night, I have posted to you on the Grandad thread. What's for dinner today? I have got some gammon as eldest is now in residence. He loved getting into a proper bed as he has slept on a mattress in a sleeping bag for the last couple of nights.
Hopeful, Christian, how are you both? Pancake queen how did yesterday go? (shakes in boots a little!) Sparkling what are you all up to today?