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What rights do I have as a single mother? I'm my daughters legal guardian, her father sees her twice a month. Do I have a right to stop him taking her over night or on holiday?
Ok thanks but as her legal guardian already can I stop him taking her over night or on holiday- I'm not asking about his visitation rights just if I have right to stop him taking her over night or on holiday without my permission
Hi Tinkerbell2. Welcome along. How old is your child? Can I ask, if he is seeing her twice every month, for what reason would you have for stopping him from having her overnight or on holiday. I think like Anna says, if there is evidence of abuse, drugs etc, then that would be a good case. Is the child a baby and breastfeeding maybe? If you could perhaps give us more detail, we might be able to suggest something.
Baby is 5months, dad sees her 8hrs a month (thou his choice) she has health issues which daily routine has to be strick (creams & meds) and he can't even change a nappy, regardless of how many times I show him, he pays her no attention on visits and ignores her crys, he admits to paying her no intreast but insists on having her over night, he lives over 3hrs away so would need to take her by train, coach, another train then walk- I don't mean to sound over protective but my daughters welfare is my main concern
Of course she is your main concern Tinkerbell2, and I would be exactly the same as you. He seems to be making an 'effort' in seeing her though, which is good news. Have you tried telling him that before you feel comfortable in him taking her for overnight stays, he has to learn about the various creams, changing nappies etc. The travelling isn't an issue, many people do this.
Do many people do it with a baby who's been in & out of hospital constantly since birth? I find that personality unrealistic myself to put a baby though that
Thing is I would love more than anything to have a night to myself & for him & my daughter to have some kind of a bond but how can I leave her in the hands of a guy I don't trust with her? I can't , he has a history of drug dealing & would most likely leave her with is mates for the night while he went out gambleing or have all his mates round drinking while she's there, I'm not over the top....this is what he's like & i would be scared for her safety :(
Your child is now on daily creams yes? Is she still in and out of hospital, or is it under control with the creams? Realistically I cannot see why she wouldn't be able to travel, unless there is a medical reason. Anna gave you a link for the legal expert. I would e.mail them if I were you, especially as you say he is a drug user.
Yes she is still in and out of hospital, she was in week before Xmas then again new years eve & day- thank you for your advice :)
If you e.mail the legal advice people, you might have to wait a few days for a reply, but you'll know more then. It is worrying, but until you know for sure where you/he stands, then try not to dwell on it. Easier said then done I know.
Hi Tinkerbell2
You have been given some good information by the others. I am aware that we are discussing this on two separate threads. Therefore I am marking this thread as Read Only (ie no more replies) and asking people to go to this thread here to reply, will see you over there 
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Hi Tinkerbell2
If you stopped your childs father from seeing his child, he could appeal to a Court for access.
The courts would then decide what is in your childs best interests. Unless you have evidence of violence orextreme drug taking, then it is very likely access will be granted..
You could go to a solicitor and have an official letter written or you could just become unavailable at the times he wants to visit. There is no official route to go down, unless necessary.
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