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i have been reported to social services cos i had a drug screen come back positive,i have no problems wth my daughter,she is happy healthy,top classes of every subject ,ss turned up tues,wed,thurs and fri but my girl was at holiday club each time so they havent seen her but on fri they wanted me to sign a form that gave me only supervised contact and her to stay at my mums but my mum knows nothin abt this.i refused and they left but said there will be consequences next week..i cant sleep and am pertrifyed they will take my daughter ,wot are my rights?
Hello megaj
Who has reported you to Social Services? Was this a drug screening through the GP or a drug support/rehab service? I am just thinking that there must have been some sort of rule laid down in the past about you needing screening for all this to have happened. I would presume they need to actually see your daughter and to have some evidence that she is being affected by your drug usage to actually take her from you, or for there to have been previous Child Protection proceedings that gave you a condition of being drug-free? You say your mum knows nothing about this. yet Social Services must know something of your family structure to know that you actually have a mum around!
It's really hard for me to respond effectively without knowing all the background I have asked about, above, but I am sorry you are going through this worry. Have you ever been in touch with the Family Rights Group? (click on the link) They have a helpline that reopens at 9.30 on Monday morning and hopefully you can find some spcialist support there, good luck, let us know how you get on.
Hello
I am not an expert but I have not found SS to be scrupulous and you definitely did the right thing to not sign anything, I would advise you to never sign anything or ever agree that your daughter should stay with anyone else even if they say temporarily. They should see your daughter and that there is no cause for concern. Answer any questions they have politely but briefly as possible they do twist what you say and will even lie on their reports. You are entitled to copies of your ss file under data protection act 1998 it takes 40 days though. It is difficult to not have details/background, I think you should see a solicitor asap. I found my bank the co-op could offer free legal advice on the telephone and were very helpful and quick 8 - 8 mon to fri 9 -1 sat. You would have to be a member for them to advise on this though but perhaps your bank does something similar? Hope this is helpful, dont worry just do something about it.
Good luck!
Hi megaj. Try not to worry, easier said than done I know, but do take Louise's advice and get in touch with the link she has given. Please keep posting, so we can all offer our support. Take care
Hi megaj
Welcome to One Space, our Family Law Ask the Expert service can give you advice and support if your family are involved with social services.
Thanks everyone.i got the report from SS last week and if my name wasn't on it I'd think they were talking abt some1 else.Even my friends say that.I've been at drug services for years and they rang ss when screens came back positive,i know u wont believe me but the first was wrong,and in a meetin wth every1 my keyworker said i tested positive for crack and heroin,he is wrong.there was no crack and even on the day he rang SS he never said crack but now its in minutes.no concerns at schl,no police concerns but they said my daughter gets up,gets her self washed,dressed and cooks boiled eggs,while i sleep.They said her room was adequate.Her room is beautiful and the most she does is pour cereal out.She's almost 9.I'd laugh if this wasn't so serious.They have even said it seemed as if i'd forgotten the last two weeks!!! What??And i had slurred speech..I got a lisp.If i read report i'd take my child but its not true..My last two screens have been neg.but as one wasnt right b4 i am terrified.
Hi megaj, this sounds very stressful for you.
have you been in touch with the Family Rights Group? They have a FREE confidential advice service - 0808 801 0366, it might be worth giving them a call. They also have a Parentsforum (click on the bold writing!)
How is your daughter? Has she enjoyed the summer? Is she looking forward to going back to school?
i been throught sswokers my self and they took my kids away wronly as a boy i had staying me with at the time hit my girl ..and then sswokers blame me and when to court and found out i was in the clear...it not been easy for me to talk about it .at all i been on my own throught this and it been hard as well.. year later down the line still in court..frighting for my kids i had to deal will by girl had a black eye throught the fc when she was liveing with them now i do volcenly work with the council and running my own support group as well..so dont feel alone and dont blame yourself as i did and that was wrong...but i am getting there now feel free to level me a message on here
Hi tonianne. I don't quite understand. Are you saying a boy living with you hit your child once or on several occassions? How old was the boy and how old is your child?
Are you running a support group via the internet?
the boy was 7 ..................my girl was 3 .................and yes trying to do throught internet..............
have you got some ideas
Anyone wanting to respond to tonianne24, please do so on this thread here (click)
my child is now on the at risk registar.i wrote a report putting down everything the sw got wrong on report but she read it changed her report slightly of things she knew i could prove and didnt let anyone else see what i had said.
i now have a new sw who has been here twice,questioning my child on what she eats and how many baths she has a week and also asked her what milk she drinks.she drinks whole milk but she is 9 so even if she didn't drink milk what does it matter.
she would not let me record her intervieweing my child and i have seen nothing she has written in 6weeks about me.i have seen a solicitor but she will only go to legal meetings and i hope this wont go that far,but there are ppl on here who have had their kids taken from them and arent on methadone so i am at a disadvantage.
the school were on my side though.in report it said they'd said she done her own breakfast and was unkempt but the school said they never said that at all.also the day the sw said my speech was slurred and i was acting suspicious the school had a report from the holiday club my child was at and the same time of day all week and they said i was there on time everyday,no concerns.
the sw also said the drug service had said the levels of heroin in my urine were too high to be wrong,there is no levels on the test it is either negative or positive like a pregancy test.
I am terrified now to let my daughter make a mess playing and i wake up a 4am everyday because i'm so worried about what they'll write next.if my child got up really early on a sunday she could put tv on but they wrote she gets up washed.dressed and watches tv while i sleep.How these sw's sleep at night is beyond me and surely there are kids that really need help not my child who tonight is having a sleep over at the natural history museum,disney on ice next week,97%school attendence,top group in every subject,dance medals,brownie badges,badminton classes.
I've never missed a parents day,open eve.schl concert or play.She is so happy but the sw said she talks too mature for her age.What would a 23yr old sw with no kids know how all 8yr olds speak.Please what am i doing wrong.
Hi megaj. I'm so so sorry that you're going through all of this. You ask what you are doing wrong. Well, from what I've read, you're not doing anything at all wrong. You're not the first person that I've read about that SS have lied about, and I agree, how do they sleep at night.
Can you ask the school if you haven't already, for a copy of the report that they sent SS. Once you have this, you can show your solicitor, so it is on record. As for your daughter getting up, washed, dressed, and making herself breakfast, I cannot see what is wrong with this at weekends. As long as she isn't using the grill perhaps for toast or something, then she is perfectly capable of doing herself some cereal! Don't worry about whether the house is in a mess either. I can only imagine the nightmare that you are facing. My son's half-sisters Mum was/is dealing with issues with SS and has done for years. They seem to pick, pick, pick. Sorry I cannot offer any help, but hopefully someone will be able to make suggestions for you. Take care.
Hello megaj
Sorry that you are having to go through this. Two things occur to me:
1. Have you contacted the Family Rights Group on 0808 801 0366?
2. You can usually have a supporter with you at social worker meetings, and certainly at Core Group meetings. Have you got an articulate friend that could be with you, or support worker from any of the services you have accessed, such as housing association or drugs agency? If not, go to your local Citizen's Advice Bureau and ask about "advocacy"...that is what it is called when someone wants someone with them to speak up for them.
Hi megaj
Hope that you and your daughter are well! I for one will never ever trust a social worker and because they lie and talk such rubbish I imagine what they say is taken with a pinch of salt by most people. I think you should just keep up the good work and let them write what they like. The school is on your side and its a good idea if you can prove them wrong if you need to but dont let them stress you out. You could use councils complaints procedure as your comments about the report have obviously not been taken seriously.
best wishes
Hi megaj,
No one has mentioned that you have the right to ask for a copy of everything they have on record of you and your daughter. Write to them and ask for a copy, once you have this demand they correct all incorrect information. You also have to give them 28days to comply with your request.
Hope this helps a bit.
I have them on my back coz my two youngest boys were caught short and peed outside...
I hope to god I never have to have dealings with them.
That is terrible butterfly
hello guys it good to be back been busy with my group which i got up and going now in my area and it to help mothers who got kids in care or going through with sswokers as they lie lie all the time i am a mother to 5 who in care and it wrong and bang out of order as well and i feel sorry for all the mothers who has to deal with sswokers as it not right at all...if you want to come to my group your welcome to level me a message on here
Hi
Was it not possible for an arrangement to be made for them to call when your daughter was at home?
I do feel the important thing you need to be doing is to work with the social services and ensure that they do see your daughther.
I'm afraid I can't help you with your rights, but I do think that Louise will be able to give some advice when she comes on line.
I do hope that some progress can be made tomorrow. So upsetting for you.